We all want a Godly marriage. But you can’t be a Godly wife if you’re not living a Godly life.
What traits should a woman strive towards to become a Godly wife?
12 Traits of a Godly Woman:
1) A Godly Woman Always Seeks to be Modest in Her Dress.
Then out came a woman to meet him, dressed like a prostitute and with crafty intent. (Proverbs 7:10)
By contrast, the ungodly woman’s clothing points to herself and her body instead of her Father in Heaven and His holiness. Remember the words of Paul in the New Testament? God emphasizes a beauty of the unseen character. The flesh flaunts the body, God beautifies the spirit.
2) A Godly Woman Always Seeks to be Holy in Her Conduct.
Come, let’s drink deep of love till morning; let’s enjoy ourselves with love! My husband is not at home; he has gone on a long journey… (Proverbs 7:18 – 29)
Unlike this woman, a Godly woman fears the Lord. She seeks God’s will over the approval of anyone else on earth. Her fear of God makes her aware of the future consequence of her choices. A godly woman avoids any present situation that would be destructive for her future usefulness to God.
3) A Godly Woman Always Seeks to be Truthful in Speech and Motives.
With her enticing speech she caused him to yield, With her flattering lips she seduced him. Immediately he went after her, as an ox goes to the slaughter, Or as a fool to the correction of the stocks, Till an arrow struck his liver. As a bird hastens to the snare, He did not know it [would cost] his life. (Proverbs 7:21-23)
This deceitful woman is an ugly woman because she is self-driven and wants her way. Her words and actions lead the man on a path to destruction. A beautiful woman wears heavenly beauty as God’s Word describes it.
4) A Godly Woman Seeks to be Gentle and Quiet.
The woman Folly is loud; she is undisciplined and without knowledge. (Proverbs 9:13) She is loud and defiant, her feet never stay at home (Proverbs 7:11)
This includes disrespect, hostility, aggressiveness and cunningness. All of these qualities are bad news.
5) A Godly Woman Seeks to Care for the Home.
She manages her home well. She loves to tangibly serve others with food and skills. She has a home that is open and hospitable and she is given to ministry to the sick and needy and less fortunate.
She seeks wool and flax, And willingly works with her hands. (Proverbs 31:13)
6) A Godly Woman Seeks to Serve Others.
She has learned the love of Christ for others.
She also rises while it is yet night, and provides food for her household, and a portion for her maidservants. She extends her hand to the poor, yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy. (Proverbs 31:15, 20)
7) A Godly Woman Strives to be a Person Who Can be Trusted.
When she says she’s going to do something, she does it. She’s a woman of her word. Her heart is pure and her intentions are good.
The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life (Proverbs 31:11-16).
8) A Godly Woman Seeks to be Prudent in Financial Matters.
She is a saver not a spender. She can see beyond today alone.
She considers a field and buys it; from her profits she plants a vineyard. She makes linen garments and sells [them,] and supplies sashes for the merchants. (Proverbs 31:16, 24)
9) A Godly Woman Seeks to be a Hard Worker.
God puts a premium on hard work and so she moves toward it not away. There is no slothfulness, indolence or lack of motivation.
She girds herself with strength, and strengthens her arms. She stretches out her hands to the distaff, and her hand holds the spindle. (Proverbs 31:17,19)
10) A Godly Woman Seeks to Do the Right Thing and Have a Good Reputation.
Regardless of whether anyone is watching her, she seeks to do what is right over what is accepted. She seeks to set a good example to her children. In other words, she practices what she preaches.
Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her (Proverbs 31:28).
11) A Godly Woman Seeks to Internalize Biblical Wisdom.
The Word is in her heart and life and so it comes out of her mouth. And when it does it is dressed in the clothes of the Spirit, gentle and kind.
She opens her mouth with wisdom, And on her tongue [is] the law of kindness. (Proverbs 31:26).
12) A Godly Woman Seeks to Live Out the Secrets of Womanhood.
The future smiles at her and her children bless her.
Strength and honor [are] her clothing; She shall rejoice in time to come (Proverbs 31:25).
Moms and dads, what kind of women are you raising? A wise woman or a foolish one? Does she dress in a way that draws a young man to think about her body and its enticements or her spirit and its beauty? Does she have a holy hatred of sin? Does she use her powers to get her own way? Does she manipulate by tears, looks and whatever it takes to accomplish her ends? Is she argumentative, easily quarreling and fighting with you or her brothers and sisters?
Or is she peaceable, gentle and easily entreated? If negative traits become ingrained in her character, the future could be at stake. One gifted expositor in writing about these verses said, “ …we may say with a surgeon’s frankness, her home will be like Scarlett’s — troubled, torn down, and literally Gone with the Wind.”
Is there any comparison? The Godly woman and daughter is a blessing to all. A builder of the home, family and community.