5 Ways to Deal with Negative or Difficult People

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Have you ever had that one negative friend who never has anything positive to say? If you have, you will know that sometimes that negative energy can effect you as well. Life is not as easy as we think it to be. And sometimes things like negative thoughts make it more complicated. Specially when people around you are negative. So here are some ways to deal with them instead of avoiding them.

1. Dig deeper, but stay out of the hole.

It’s always easier to offer someone compassion if you try to understand where they’re coming from. But that can’t completely justify bad behavior. If you show negative people you support their choice to behave badly by reacting with the same bad behavior, you give them no real incentive to make a change (which they may actually want deep down).

It may help to repeat this in your head when you deal with them: “I understand your pain. But I’m most helpful if I don’t feed into it.” This might help you approach them with both kindness and firmness so they don’t bring you down with them.

2. Remember the numbers.

Research shows that people with negative attitudes have significantly higher rates of stress and disease. Someone’s mental state plays a huge role in their physical health. If someone’s making life difficult for people around them, you can be sure they’re doing worse for themselves.

What a sad reality, that someone has so much pain inside them they have to act out just to feel some sense of relief–even if that relief comes from getting a rise out of people. When you remember how much a difficult person is suffering, it’s easier to stay focused on minimizing negativity, as opposed to defending yourself.

3. Don’t try to solve or fix them. Just aim to help them.

This goes back to the ideas I mentioned above. I know my depressed friend will rant about life’s injustices as long as I let her. Part of me feels tempted to play amateur psychiatrist, get her talking, and then try to help her reframe situations into a more positive light.

Then I remind myself that I can’t change her whole way of being in one phone call. She has to want that. I also can’t listen for hours on end, as I’ve done in the past. But I can listen compassionately for a short while and then help her focus on something positive right now, in this moment.

4. Maintain the relationship based on reality as it is.

With my friend, I’m always wishing she could be more positive. I consistently put myself in situations where I feel bad because I want to help, because I want her to be happy. I’ve recently realized the best I can do is accept her as she is, let her know I believe in her ability to be happy, and then give her space to make the choice.

5. Question what you’re getting out of it.

Like I mentioned above, we often get something out of relationships with negative people. Get real honest with yourself: have you fallen into a caretaker role because it makes you feel needed? Have you maintained the relationship so you can gossip about this person in a holier-than-thou way with others? Do you have some sort of stake in keeping the things the way they are?

Questioning yourself helps you change the way you respond–which is really all you can control. You can’t make someone think, feel, or act differently. You can be as kind as possible or as combative as possible, and still not change reality for someone else. All you can control is what you think and do–and then do your best to help them without hurting yourself.

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212 Comments

  1. ana lopez

    January 15, 2014 at 4:57 pm

    the page encourage not to think negative in all ways,in such situation,always leave a prayer…

  2. Marge

    January 15, 2014 at 5:13 pm

    I always let them talk for a while but have prepared beforehand as I know what will happen in our time together. Then I change the topic from her negativity to pleasant things several times. Then I say something about how I am working on removing all bad thoughts with thoughts of gratitude over all the things I DO have that are good….stressing that making a list of them is so very important. I mention how thinking happy helps our health and quote the Scripture “As a man thinketh, so is he”– this means we can change our being by what we think about. If the person continues to be negative next time I see her, I ask her if she made her gratitude list yet, quote the text and smile. This brings to mind what we covered before and lets her know I don’t like negativity…it lessens the chances of it coming up again the next time, and should it come up, I again repeat the text and smile knowingly. This really works.

  3. kapuka

    January 15, 2014 at 8:49 pm

    negative will always bring u down.on my side i always avoid them

  4. hope

    January 16, 2014 at 1:28 am

    That u for the Suuport…I use to be so negative but utmost i was hurting inside and i never knew that affected Also the surrounding…Wat i can say really made my hapiness Back was God..i turbed to God and said ‘God I wont Let myself remain The same Negative’ i stil talk n talk to him n holly Spirit is very grateful for he led ma ways dailtly..im neva negative an if i see som1 negative and always see the negative side of another person, I only say to her to choose the best way to be but not the negative side bcz negative Hurts n it begins with you!!an only u get hurt for yur thoughts..Negative is a Monster…lets avoid it.!!!! i love u all.

  5. Debbie Sturgeon

    February 6, 2014 at 11:11 pm

    I’m a bridge builder!

  6. Eba Ewedu

    February 6, 2014 at 11:12 pm

    I know how to deal with negative and difficult people. I saturate their lives with my absence.

    • Carrie

      July 23, 2014 at 9:44 am

      Wasn’t the whole point of this article, as is stated above:

      “So here are some ways to deal with them instead of avoiding them.”

      So…how does avoiding them help really solve the real problem? I thought this was talking about ways to continue to help the person without giving up on them? Perhaps I misunderstood this article?

  7. Shireen Mouton

    February 6, 2014 at 11:13 pm

    Ooooh amen a bridge thanx u for I jst needed it for it’s my answer , thanx u so much

  8. Joy Jones

    February 6, 2014 at 11:14 pm

    This is why I had to leave my last job negative people drama every single day all day long even if you ignored them it did not work. Believe me they found a way to drag me into everything

  9. Barbara Lofton

    February 6, 2014 at 11:15 pm

    Amen

  10. Debbie Dodoo

    February 6, 2014 at 11:15 pm

    Theodora Akua

  11. Angel Nicholas

    February 6, 2014 at 11:16 pm

    Amen

  12. Maxine Smith

    February 6, 2014 at 11:18 pm

    I choose to make a bridge

  13. Michelle HM

    February 6, 2014 at 11:19 pm

    Frances and Donna, time I turn that wall into a bridge! :-)

  14. Cassandra Allen

    February 6, 2014 at 11:19 pm

    I hum and shift them

  15. Grace Tshegofatso Thethelwa

    February 6, 2014 at 11:19 pm

    A bridge

  16. Julia Ford

    February 6, 2014 at 11:19 pm

    Even better turn your pain into stepping stones into God.He allows pain from people to free our hearts to depend on Him for our source of life.

  17. C.y. Welvz

    February 6, 2014 at 11:20 pm

    Ignore them and keep praying to our God.that’s the trials in our life..

  18. Kerry Grent

    February 6, 2014 at 11:21 pm

    a bridge 2 cros ova.

  19. Bea Sanchez

    February 6, 2014 at 11:24 pm

    Pray pray pray!

  20. Jeannie Clarke

    February 6, 2014 at 11:25 pm

    A bridge all the way let their negative words fly right over

  21. Aisha Reid-Womack

    February 6, 2014 at 11:25 pm

    Bridge! Thanks for the stones, now I can build!

  22. Ellen Hill

    February 6, 2014 at 11:26 pm

    Abridge I’ll keep walking while they trip!!!

  23. Nemia Gomez

    February 6, 2014 at 11:27 pm

    The Bridge…

  24. Charlotte Niedecker Vinson

    February 6, 2014 at 11:27 pm

    Great reminder. Dealing with a few of these people right now. Sad part is they don’t realize how self absorb they are while trying to say they have faith. Keeping a safe distance and not getting sucked into their drama has served me well.

    • Carrie

      July 23, 2014 at 9:46 am

      Do you mean to say you avoid them? I am just asking to clarify because the article above says:

      “So here are some ways to deal with them instead of avoiding them.”

      Perhaps I am misunderstanding the entire point of this article? I thought it was giving tips to help you with a difficult person while NOT avoiding them or giving up on them?

  25. Prosper Sithole

    February 6, 2014 at 11:28 pm

    I pray them OUT of my life. I pray for God to find an amicable way for us to part and he always answers and that way there is no hard feelings to the parting but you rejoice within for you know they are no longer going to continue to influence you negatively.

  26. Leona Hollis

    February 6, 2014 at 11:28 pm

    Amen and amen!!!

  27. Elizabeth Panduro

    February 6, 2014 at 11:31 pm

    Amen!!

  28. Lisa Broache

    February 6, 2014 at 11:32 pm

    Amen

  29. Althermease Bullock

    February 6, 2014 at 11:33 pm

    Amen. Well 4 me, I’m going to carefully look at those stones, to see if I can find a rare jewal. 4 most never really see that rare piece, because their wasting time throwing the stones to even see what precious finds that God has placed in their hands. Not me, my eyes are wide a wake. 4 only Gods elite can see.

  30. Silvia Torrez

    February 6, 2014 at 11:35 pm

    Amen!!!

  31. Tamekeyo Thurmond Thackston

    February 6, 2014 at 11:49 pm

    Amen

  32. Magaly Mora

    February 6, 2014 at 11:51 pm

    Amanda Carp

  33. Catherine Malowa

    February 6, 2014 at 11:53 pm

    A bridge 2 make me go throw n move on.

  34. La Taina Santiago-Colon

    February 6, 2014 at 11:56 pm

    A wall! Bridges get walked on quite a bit!

  35. Laura Abrigo

    February 7, 2014 at 12:00 am

    True

  36. Stella Swart

    February 7, 2014 at 12:02 am

    A brigde!

  37. Candy Law Candis Hopkins

    February 7, 2014 at 12:05 am

    Melanie Winzer

  38. Dorothy Wells

    February 7, 2014 at 12:05 am

    Amen a Bridge!

  39. Patricia Sibanda

    February 7, 2014 at 12:19 am

    Brigde

  40. Jenny Vazquez Rivera

    February 7, 2014 at 12:20 am

    The more stones you throw the closer I get to God.

  41. Lisa Laffin McPherson

    February 7, 2014 at 12:21 am

    Good advice.

  42. Karenz Adriano Francisco

    February 7, 2014 at 12:21 am

    Well said :)

  43. Frances Mayberry

    February 7, 2014 at 12:24 am

    Yes you can do IT,,,,,,

    Sent from my iPad

  44. Adegboye Bukola

    February 7, 2014 at 12:32 am

    AMEN

  45. Keisha Powell

    February 7, 2014 at 12:42 am

    Bridge of course so thell follow though to see my success

  46. Mary Mosenke

    February 7, 2014 at 12:45 am

    Build a strong foundation

  47. Loice John

    February 7, 2014 at 12:50 am

    A brigde . And pray that their rocks be sanctified.

  48. Ireen Chuma

    February 7, 2014 at 12:51 am

    A WALL OFCOURSE, INCASE THEY CONTAMINATE ME

  49. Cherri Overlease

    February 7, 2014 at 12:56 am

    Very good!

  50. Tess Chuatico

    February 7, 2014 at 12:59 am

    It’s like: “when life throws lemons at you, make lemonade”!

  51. Jacqueline Lopez

    February 7, 2014 at 1:11 am

    amen we cannot satisfy everyone

  52. Ya-Wen Stacy

    February 7, 2014 at 1:13 am

    Good thoughts

  53. Winnie Mpotseng

    February 7, 2014 at 1:18 am

    A bridge to cross over,n for them to follow me n see the work of the blood of Jesus upon my life.

  54. Nikeziwe Noni Butters

    February 7, 2014 at 1:29 am

    There’s no correct answer. We can either build a bridge so you can move over it & away from them OR a wall so they aren’t part of your life

  55. Burles Caldwell

    February 7, 2014 at 1:33 am

    I COME IN THE NAME OF JESUS, WHO EVER IS BORN OF GOD KNOWS HOW TO LOVE. WHEN I COME AROUND NEGATIVE PPL. THE WORD OF GOD MAKE THEM BE AT PEACE WITH ME. I SHARE THE WORD, THEY DONT TALK. THE POWER OF TESTIMONEY. IT ALWAYS OVER COME THE WICKED ONE. AMEN

  56. Faith Golden Heart

    February 7, 2014 at 1:54 am

    Wow

  57. Zanele Mthembu

    February 7, 2014 at 2:14 am

    bridge to cross over to th ather side

  58. Gina Marie

    February 7, 2014 at 2:47 am

    Dee Page that about you and that stat you posted earlier…:)

  59. Mashudu Nedondwe Dolly

    February 7, 2014 at 2:49 am

    Amen

  60. Rigina Selders

    February 7, 2014 at 2:57 am

    Sometime they just push you right off the bridge and then the wall comes up.

  61. Dee Page

    February 7, 2014 at 3:13 am

    Wow Gina. Thanks for this.

  62. Gina Marie

    February 7, 2014 at 3:14 am

    Your welcome ❤️

  63. Rebekah Roberson

    February 7, 2014 at 3:23 am

    People who do that are usually very miserable, very disillusioned and jealous, and can’t stand to see anything good happen for anyone else
    :(. Being a good witness sometimes just makes them worse but you have to keep on.

  64. Abby Oporia

    February 7, 2014 at 3:32 am

    The TALLEST wall!I so needed ths!Thanks!

  65. Dawn Daniels

    February 7, 2014 at 3:36 am

    Amen

  66. Thandekile Sinqobile

    February 7, 2014 at 3:53 am

    Amen,gonna build the tallest stone wall ever

  67. Mary Cepeda

    February 7, 2014 at 4:10 am

    Amen

  68. Mbali Pearl Moitoi

    February 7, 2014 at 4:16 am

    Amen..

  69. Patricia Losper

    February 7, 2014 at 4:20 am

    Mmmm I like amen

  70. Sibahle Mboso

    February 7, 2014 at 4:20 am

    ill make a bridge n cross to my success!

  71. Boitumelo Kekana

    February 7, 2014 at 4:23 am

    I wil build a bridge to God

  72. Mhloti Hlongwane

    February 7, 2014 at 4:35 am

    A bridge

  73. Susan Brock

    February 7, 2014 at 4:43 am

    Bridge

  74. Joy Caveness

    February 7, 2014 at 4:45 am

    Amen

  75. Felicity Coerecius

    February 7, 2014 at 4:47 am

    Amen

  76. Ragma Addison

    February 7, 2014 at 4:52 am

    Amen

  77. Ntinti MakaMangi Booysen

    February 7, 2014 at 4:52 am

    Amen nd amen

  78. Earoleen Mary Van Wyk

    February 7, 2014 at 5:00 am

    Amen!

  79. Alice Cherono

    February 7, 2014 at 5:03 am

    I choose 2 build a bridge,move on and leave them behind.

  80. Victoria Silva McCree

    February 7, 2014 at 5:07 am

    Ropati N. Krystal

  81. Nokubonga Mahote Mkati

    February 7, 2014 at 5:08 am

    Amen

  82. Fowokan Ololade Touchy

    February 7, 2014 at 5:11 am

    a brigde dat dey cannever cross

  83. Nancy Ngui

    February 7, 2014 at 5:13 am

    Amen

  84. Valerie Lopez

    February 7, 2014 at 5:18 am

    I would have already got up and dusted myself off and walk on

  85. Nomaswazi Kunene

    February 7, 2014 at 6:10 am

    Wow! A’bridge’ amen!

  86. Brenda Mutata

    February 7, 2014 at 6:42 am

    Powerful

  87. Asif Rana

    February 7, 2014 at 6:58 am

    Ameen

  88. Thembakazi Avon

    February 7, 2014 at 7:05 am

    A bridge to crossover.

  89. Claudia Monterrosa

    February 7, 2014 at 7:13 am

    Amen

  90. Reshma Maharaj

    February 7, 2014 at 7:17 am

    Amen

  91. Patricia Rosario

    February 7, 2014 at 7:34 am

    I agree Valerie God calls us to love them as you love yourself… I love myself enough not to subject myself to that just have to let them be.. Christ is the only one who saves, they have to want the change not be satisfied in the same cycle.

  92. Zoleka Nzuza

    February 7, 2014 at 7:51 am

    amen

  93. Helen Yakz Dami

    February 7, 2014 at 8:08 am

    A wall

  94. Sydney kapito

    February 7, 2014 at 12:27 am

    I really like these wordz……………[Questioning yourself helps you change the way you respond–which is really all you can control. You can’t make someone think, feel, or act differently. You can be as kind as possible or as combative as possible, and still not change reality for someone else. All you can control is what you think and do–and then do your best to help them without hurting yourself.]

  95. Mildred A. Ekisa

    February 7, 2014 at 8:32 am

    great ideas

  96. Sudesh Sagar

    February 7, 2014 at 8:36 am

    A bridge

  97. Kathie Trogdon

    February 7, 2014 at 9:01 am

    It’s hard when you face it everyday, It has effected my health

  98. Liszabette BanpadBal

    February 7, 2014 at 9:14 am

    Don’t surround yourself with such. Avoid them as much as possible

  99. Joy Ndoro

    February 7, 2014 at 9:17 am

    Amen

  100. Takalani J Mokgatle

    February 7, 2014 at 10:20 am

    Every negative or positive situation u face in ur lyf,the choice is alll urs is either u SWIM or SINK.

  101. Rinpuii Ralte

    February 7, 2014 at 10:26 am

    I’d like to be a bridgebuilder but there are times when its better to build a wall

  102. Patricia Machiko

    February 7, 2014 at 10:40 am

    l love this

  103. Ugochi Anokwuru

    February 7, 2014 at 10:42 am

    I believe God will make a way in the mighty name of Jesus Christ Amen

  104. Blsd Kami

    February 7, 2014 at 11:53 am

    a bridge to cross over no matter the circumstances

  105. Maggie Chiperesa

    February 7, 2014 at 12:12 pm

    Me i ignore, i don’t waste my time on such people

  106. Eseta Loto Helaman

    February 7, 2014 at 12:26 pm

    A bridge of course :)

  107. Yolanda Pugh-Campbell

    February 7, 2014 at 12:31 pm

    Luv it

  108. Zm Zama

    February 7, 2014 at 1:17 pm

    I just luv it

  109. Val Scholtz

    February 7, 2014 at 1:37 pm

    Amen

  110. Cleophas Kasomekera

    February 7, 2014 at 2:42 pm

    in jesus name,amen.

  111. Vuvu Nyovane

    February 7, 2014 at 2:51 pm

    Glory to God

  112. Malina Gibson

    February 7, 2014 at 3:42 pm

    I’m married to one so this really speaks to me. It is a difficult thing to deal with on a daily basis so I can only imagine what he is going through. Any prayer for him would be very appreciated.

  113. Fungelwa Laila Sweli

    February 7, 2014 at 4:11 pm

    Oh my God is gud happy 2 hear dis Amen

  114. Ruth Cook

    February 7, 2014 at 4:25 pm

    GOD BLESS, AMEN

  115. Kerine Cummings-Smith

    February 7, 2014 at 4:39 pm

    A bridge, it goes over every troubled waters.

  116. Blessing Yayra Joyce

    February 7, 2014 at 4:43 pm

    amen

  117. Priscilla Phiri

    February 7, 2014 at 4:50 pm

    That’s true, a bridge is better

  118. JoAnn Riffle

    February 7, 2014 at 4:55 pm

    I BELIEVE IN JESUS NOT PEOPLE ,I GET MY HAPPINESS FROM HIM ALONE BECAUSE MY FRIENDS ARE NOT PERFECT BUT HE IS!

  119. Lynnette Townes-simpson

    February 7, 2014 at 5:24 pm

    Amen

  120. Jana Urbankova

    February 7, 2014 at 5:27 pm

    Amen

  121. Veronica Kanyonyi

    February 7, 2014 at 6:02 pm

    True

  122. Jane Lelei

    February 7, 2014 at 6:52 pm

    Sure en Amen

  123. Roseline Dickson

    February 7, 2014 at 7:01 pm

    Even d wals f jericho fel so its a bridge

  124. Alpho Sismay

    February 7, 2014 at 7:04 pm

    Amen

  125. Francesca Sami Altomare Elazaar

    February 7, 2014 at 7:17 pm

    Amen

  126. Aneth Lubida

    February 7, 2014 at 8:51 pm

    I JUST LET LOVE LEAD

  127. Chipo Tutu Banda

    February 7, 2014 at 9:37 pm

    Ignore and do ur thing.

  128. Kim Trice

    February 7, 2014 at 10:46 pm

    Amen

  129. Nyahuma Constance

    February 7, 2014 at 11:42 pm

    The word of god makes the way.go for the word of god,dn’t stop talking keep on saying d’nt stop talking u’l find a way.

  130. Melissa Perreault

    February 8, 2014 at 12:53 am

    I’ll save this to read later

  131. Gina Garrett

    February 8, 2014 at 4:59 am

    Good info

  132. Mari White

    February 8, 2014 at 5:34 am

    I have a coworker like that and sometimes I cant support his comments, he says is atheist

  133. Zonelynn Beare

    February 8, 2014 at 6:33 am

    WALL

  134. Kedibone Koketso

    February 8, 2014 at 7:23 am

    Amen

  135. Myrt Williams

    February 8, 2014 at 11:51 am

    you have a choice

  136. Tendai Machaka

    February 8, 2014 at 2:05 pm

    Amen

  137. Roslyn George

    April 24, 2014 at 9:17 pm

    Kill em w kindness is right! Per my Neoma Mom!

  138. Futuremrs Powers

    April 24, 2014 at 9:18 pm

    Was just saying this! Kill em with kindness!!:)

  139. Josephine Nelson

    April 24, 2014 at 9:18 pm

    Oh yes

  140. Diana Grimes Savoy

    April 24, 2014 at 9:20 pm

    Because going to jail would not be fun… :-)

  141. Natasha Charles

    April 24, 2014 at 9:20 pm

    That’s rite

  142. Renee Cooper Twiddy

    April 24, 2014 at 9:21 pm

    I say pray for them always but let them go!

  143. Henrietta Achiamaa

    April 24, 2014 at 9:22 pm

    Very true

  144. Ramona Cortez

    April 24, 2014 at 9:29 pm

    O yeah..

  145. Pamela Gomez

    April 24, 2014 at 9:29 pm

    Deep breath…

  146. Nthateng Makinita Emben

    April 24, 2014 at 9:30 pm

    Oh yes

  147. Aneisia Philio

    April 24, 2014 at 9:31 pm

    If this isn’t what I’m dealing with at work.

  148. Leslie Villablanca Herrera

    April 24, 2014 at 9:32 pm

    Just do it,instead of killing!

  149. Phumelela Phumy Xego

    April 24, 2014 at 9:34 pm

    Tjo just read them…seems like a life time task to me…il go with those who say pray or avoid them lol

  150. Shantelle Hue Johnson

    April 24, 2014 at 9:39 pm

    For you my friend lol Amber Buffinet Prout

  151. Isabel Sanchez

    April 24, 2014 at 9:50 pm

    Lol,trust me kindness us better.

  152. Jennifer Stark Richards

    April 24, 2014 at 9:50 pm

    Really like this…So much truth and good advice

  153. Drea Iosua-Tinae

    April 24, 2014 at 9:52 pm

    Hard to do sometimes with certain people.. but so worth it in the end..

  154. Jacqueline Williams

    April 24, 2014 at 9:56 pm

    Yes yes yes you do.

  155. Nkosinathi Khoza

    April 24, 2014 at 10:18 pm

    Thnx 4 dat

  156. Kathy Walker

    April 24, 2014 at 10:21 pm

    Sooo true!!!!

  157. Doddie Nicosia Fry

    April 24, 2014 at 10:38 pm

    Walking away from them keeps your peace. If they follow..protective orders are helpful.

  158. Nora Perez Pineda

    April 24, 2014 at 10:39 pm

    Amen, Amen & AMEN!!

  159. Sally Lucille Rubis

    April 24, 2014 at 11:01 pm

    for sure

  160. Msunderstood Plump

    April 24, 2014 at 11:27 pm

    Brass Candy this is interesting

  161. Kelly Greene

    April 24, 2014 at 11:43 pm

    Yes, that will do it!

  162. Jennifer Quinonez

    April 24, 2014 at 11:51 pm

    Melisa Jones

  163. Victoria Guzman

    April 24, 2014 at 11:51 pm

    EVERYDAY AMEN!

  164. Rhonda Johnson

    April 24, 2014 at 11:51 pm

    Yes Yes Yes it will do amen.

  165. Theresa Morales

    April 24, 2014 at 11:56 pm

    I have no problem slappin the cheek..if I love them….I will not let them go..so I will slap em with love ;)

  166. Janelle Monique

    April 24, 2014 at 11:58 pm

    A WORD IN SEASON, LITERALLY!!

  167. Athy Obadiah

    April 25, 2014 at 12:17 am

    Amen.

  168. Gail Newton

    April 25, 2014 at 12:26 am

    That still can’t help them

  169. Tenica TC Cofield

    April 25, 2014 at 12:30 am

    Yes lord

  170. Ruth Pandohe

    April 25, 2014 at 12:38 am

    i am trying this.hard because i feel terrible n harsh like i shud understand them n continue trying. but reassuring sum1everyday is tiring. sumtymz wish i cud do more. be sumkinda psychologist n find a way to lift this person esteem n self worth.

  171. Karey Warriner

    April 25, 2014 at 12:50 am

    Amanda Morris :-)

  172. Chrissie Juliet Masina

    April 25, 2014 at 1:45 am

    Amen.

  173. Javette Stone

    April 25, 2014 at 2:04 am

    My immediate family is disfunctional and negative. I pray for them everyday, but I don’t kill them with kindness. I love them at a distance. I am the black sheep, and I thank God everyday that I am nothing like them.

    • Annette Brown

      April 25, 2014 at 2:40 pm

      I feel you here depends on situation like if I got hurt real bad I say love from a distance but a lot of times im nice because it’s my personality to be nice and sweet. Some people push buttons o also thank God iam not like them and ask God to help those poor people.

  174. Varsha Aviet

    April 25, 2014 at 2:17 am

    Yes ,it’s true.

  175. Jossie Montanez

    April 25, 2014 at 2:31 am

    all things are possible with God..

  176. Prinsesa Eliiz

    April 25, 2014 at 2:55 am

    Eto para sayo Vern Malaga Hahaha :-)

  177. Mary Mosenke

    April 25, 2014 at 3:22 am

    Word…Amen

  178. Kumbilani Mazibisa

    April 25, 2014 at 3:32 am

    thats true Amen

  179. Lucy Wachira

    April 25, 2014 at 3:36 am

    true amen

  180. Maiki Montle

    April 25, 2014 at 3:55 am

    Honestly i keep a distance,dont want negative thinking ppl in my life.they delay progress of a’person

  181. Carmella Lashele

    April 25, 2014 at 4:10 am

    All the time

  182. Sasa Mokgethi

    April 25, 2014 at 4:27 am

    sooo true…

  183. Nelly Stephenson

    April 25, 2014 at 4:31 am

    No just stay away from them, theres no cure for negative neurons prolifirating in negative peoples body need i say more?q

  184. Brigitte Booysen

    April 25, 2014 at 4:49 am

    I used to kill negative people with kindness thinking it would help, it got worse :-( I avoid all nasty and negative people like the plague

  185. Bukeka Hermans

    April 25, 2014 at 5:06 am

    Oh yes

  186. Mavis Page

    April 25, 2014 at 5:12 am

    Tru

  187. Neliswa Mkwayi

    April 25, 2014 at 5:16 am

    Yes kill them with kindness

  188. Makgabo Gabi Ramoroka

    April 25, 2014 at 5:19 am

    Sometimes its a little hard.

  189. Nthabiseng Sambo

    April 25, 2014 at 5:32 am

    With grace. Amen

  190. Lisa Puoeng

    April 25, 2014 at 5:54 am

    am a very kind person but they dont realise it

  191. Lizzie Clever

    April 25, 2014 at 6:00 am

    Wat a lyf

  192. Phumzile Rejoice

    April 25, 2014 at 6:48 am

    Yes i had.

  193. Jocquise Robinson

    April 25, 2014 at 6:50 am

    I deal with this too often. I started wondering if it was me. LOL

  194. Zippo Barleah

    April 25, 2014 at 7:28 am

    very intresting.

  195. Jacqueline Nengi Nkwain

    April 25, 2014 at 7:29 am

    That is true

  196. Rahi Emma

    April 25, 2014 at 9:11 am

    Yes.

  197. Wiango Roselyn

    April 25, 2014 at 9:32 am

    is it easy?

  198. BabeDoll Richie

    April 25, 2014 at 10:36 am

    Yes I have one negative friend and I have just block her in my life to make things easy for my self .

  199. Linna Ooi

    April 25, 2014 at 12:10 pm

    Jeray Tan I always do that hehe

  200. Danielle Belgrave

    April 25, 2014 at 1:32 pm

    Tanisha Shenelle Lawrence-Ward

  201. Brenda Smitherman

    April 25, 2014 at 2:54 pm

    Yes Lord help me.. Amen

  202. Pearl Mandy Shabangu

    April 25, 2014 at 3:24 pm

    Am dealing wth de most difficult person in ma lyf i do everythng 2 mke sure i try 2 mke dat person happy it hard/difficult i cry everyday nd praying God it hard 2 b strong sumtyms i feel lyk am weak nd loosng ma mind bt wth God evrythng will be fine ,Amen….

  203. Priscilla Phiri

    April 25, 2014 at 5:10 pm

    Absolutely!!

  204. Jennifer Shimizu

    April 25, 2014 at 5:40 pm

    It is a hard job to be around a negative person when they are stuck there. God grant me patients.

  205. Carolyn Pope

    April 25, 2014 at 7:56 pm

    Very good read.

  206. Jackie Buzzetta

    April 26, 2014 at 4:44 am

    Especially if it’s family… It’s nice to be able to look at yourself in the mirror without regrets!

  207. Favour Oni

    April 27, 2014 at 3:52 pm

    Nice

  208. katrina

    May 13, 2014 at 11:57 am

    God is love!

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