3 Things Every Woman Should Pray For Her Future Husband

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As a single Christian woman who desires marriage, I can say hands down that nothing was more frustrating to me than getting bad advice from people who didn’t understand my situation. “Stop wanting marriage and it will come to you”. “Just be happy God gave you the gift of singleness”. “Ask God for your Boaz”. I’m sorry, but none of these has scriptural justification in every situation. David said delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart. Paul said if you’re burning – it’s best for you to get married. And Ruth didn’t pray for “a Boaz”. She met Boaz out working trying to survive. And anyways – every single Christian woman is not a Ruth! Some are Deborah’s. Others are Lydia’s or Hannah’s. Telling someone to pray for something that God may not have in mind for them… bad advice. 

But I’ve digressed. Many godly, well-meaning friends and family members really do want to see you happy, but they don’t really understand you or your situation. Others caught amnesia and forgot all about the nights they spent laid out on the floor praying and begging God to “please let me get married before the Rapture!” To the other extreme, people who aren’t thinking about living God’s way will give you advice that might get you married. But if you have fellowship with God, the method could cost you peace and could distance you from God. 

So what does a single Christian woman do when she desires marriage and feels like she’s not making any progress towards that goal? I’m still single, but what I’m offering my fellow single sisters in Christ is counsel that I know works. The best thing you can do to not only prepare for marriage but to speak it into existence – so to speak – is to pray for your future husband. The one who just needs to find you so you can date, court, and then get married – in God’s way and timing.

If you’re single, here are 3 specific things you should pray for your future husband:

Pray that God keeps him from counterfeit. Especially counterfeit that looks good to him. A male friend of mine told me that men want the real deal, but there’s a lot of counterfeit. To which my question was “So men don’t trust their ability to distinguish between counterfeit and the real thing?” He said “Afi, it’s hard. There’s a lot of counterfeit. There’s a lot of it out here”.  Ladies, men are moved so often by what they see. Not that we aren’t. But men in particular are. So pray that he’s able to distinguish between you (the real thing) and someone that is counterfeit.

Pray that he’s open to God’s leading. I say it like this because your guy may not have an especially strong relationship with God when you meet him. Whether or not you need someone exactly where you are spiritually is a discussion for another day. But every married Christian woman I know who dated and then married God’s way told me that they met their husband through a chance meeting. If she or her husband had turned the opportunity down – who knows what would have happened. Maybe they never would have met, or the dating process for them may have taken longer. Only God knows. So pray that he’s open to God’s leading in his life and in those things concerning you.

Pray that God is developing his character and his heart. So often we get caught up in externals. We get picky over how a man looks, the kind of job he has, the kind of clothes he wears, the car he drives. And as a result, we miss the true condition of his heart and character. A man with a good heart can easily buy new clothes if they’re outdated. Only God can change a man’s heart. 

John 14: 13 – 14 says that we can ask for anything in Jesus’ name and he’ll do it to glorify the father. So you’ll never know the possibilities in store for you unless you pray for your husband and pray over him in such a way that your request is for God’s glory. So identify what’s in your heart concerning a husband and keep praying! Keep praying and ask God to speak directly to you and give you a fresh understanding of dating to marriage – in His way and timing.

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  1. God bless you sis! This really encouraged me and reminded me that it’s really not about me, marriage is about fulfilling purpose for God’s glory not for my own selfish wants or desires. It also reminded me that I have a responsibility to pray my future spouse up.
    I pray that God will continue to increase the wisdom and knowledge He has deposited in you.
    Stay Blessed Sis Xx

    • Hi Esther! Indeed, marriage isn’t about just us but what God wants to accomplish through our union here on the earth. Pray him up, pray him up, pray him up! And then get ready to receive what you’re praying for according to GOD’S will! God bless you sis!

  2. Afi, please know my dear sister in Christ that God just used you to touch my heart. I was getting ready to share your post with my single sisters and then I see that you’re a Naval Officer. My daughter is going to be sworn in on Wednesday – something as a Mom I’ve been struggling with…Reading this was a special touch from the Lord and reassurance. I pray she will get to meet you & other Godly sisters in her new journey. Bless you my dear for your heart & service to the Lord’s work & our Country!

    • Hi Juli! I am glad that God has given you peace about it. My mother was worried too. But she was a praying mother and my bet is that you are too. The Navy changed my life and ultimately helped God make me into who HE wanted me to be. God bless you, thank you for sharing and I’ll be praying for your daughter.

    • And Juli, please have your daughter connect with me if you’d like – if nothing else I can give her some insight into the military life for Christian women.

  3. Hi Afi, I got caught up in your first few paragraphs and I skimmed over the others and I had to go back and read it again. I believe that Christ lives in me and when I continue to follow my Father’s will, we become one…more and more intimate. So, I said to myself, why would she tell women to not ask God to find her a husband. We are to talk to our Father all the time. Although he knows what we want, we are to practice prayer (talk) as a means to growing in intimacy with our Father. When we ask of him, he will give us the desires of our heart as long as it is in line with his will. If you are living his will, then anything you ask will be of his will. Remember, I said “if you are living his will”. And, this means, doing everything according to his will and seeking his advice and his will for all things in your life (NOT YOU IN CONTROL). When we ask him to find a husband for us, all those things you mentioned will be in place. Because, he will give us his best, because we gave it to him to find a husband for us. This does not mean that he will be perfect, but no one is perfect. As we grow in intimacy with our Father, we will become more and more like him. I recommend for all persons who are seeking to become more and more like Christ to visit Bott Radio and listen to some of the scheduled speakers like Dr. Charles Stanley, Dr. John MacArthur, Adrian Rogers, Dr. Tony Evans etc. For marriage and family, check out Focus on the Family and Family Life Today. These are some wonderful GODLY programs that deliver GODLY information. You will change your life based on the information you received from THESE programs. When we are delivering information to a multitude of people, we need to be very sure that we are ONE with Christ when we share information. We are accountable for everything we do and say that may cause one of our Christians to stray and/or to sin. Talking to our Father is NEVER a bad thing to do. Go ahead women and ask our Father to find you a husband, he welcome your prayers.

    • I appreciate your well thought reply but I must say, there is nothing wrong with anything Afi said. Why would you pray to God to FIND a husband for you? If you have a relationship with the Father, you know that His timing is not our timing and therefore He will deliver your husband at the perfect time. If the Word says that He knew me in my mother’s womb, it would make sense that He already knew every desire my heart would have and would plan accordingly. If I desire to be a wife, why would I pray for God to find me a husband when I could be living as a wife by praying for my husband before I even know him? If I truly believe that God has a plan for my life, if I believe that He knows the desires of my heart, then I can pray over my husband rather than for my husband. And these would be prayers in faith knowing that I don’t have to ask God to find him or change His schedule to bring me my husband in my timing. I claim my husband and cover him in prayer just as I plan to do for the rest of my life. Awesome article!

      • Hi Kim! Thank you so much for your reply. YES! You got the intent behind my message which was to pray in faith – not to pray to dictate that God moves outside of his divine will. And I agree, you absolutely position yourself as a wife when you pray for your husband before you’ve met him. God bless!

    • Hi Cynthia. I appreciate your concern that single Christian women receive godly counsel. I have the same concern which is why I base my counsel off the Word of God, not just my opinion or experience. And asking for specific things regarding a spouse is biblical. It’s how Abraham found Rebekah for Isaac. In a different context, Hannah also prayed a specific prayer before God opened up her womb to have Samuel. I could go on and on, but I’ll close by saying thank you for your response. God bless you on your journey.

        • Hi Cynthia, I do not tell single Christian women to NOT pray for a husband. What I did say is telling someone to pray for something that God may not have in mind for them (i.e., praying for a “Boaz” when that type of man may not be best suited for her) is not good advice. Again, thank you for your concern and God bless.

  4. am impressed by such a heart filled message from such a young christian lady. We need to pray equally for our future wives too. God bless you.

  5. Love this! Especially the first part.It’s so true that we are not all Ruth and honestly if were were,we’d find ourselves laying at the foot of some man’s bed hoping for a proposal! LOL!!

    • Hi Nina! Ha! That is true. That particular detail is one that I got caught up in when I first started growing in the word. God bless you and thank you for your reply.

  6. I just prayed for a husband with specific good characters and had this image of someone in my head that I think fits those good characters ( although he might not be the one God planned for me ). I tried to be brave enough to pray and ask for a husband, based on my limited memory of the the verse in John 14 : 13-14 that we can ask ANYTHING in Jesus’ name and glorify His name. Then, after I prayed, I googled this : may I ask for a husband in prayer? Your article was the first one appeared on top so I opened it first. How I was surprised the same verse in my head was written in your article!
    Looking forwaed for next surprises from Him. Thanks Afi! Your writings are very uplifting. Bless you!

  7. thanks for your inspirational post .am a single young male looking for someone to date ,but hey I came cross a painful separation with the one that I have planned to marry hey to the exetend that am now doubting women but I want to marry.help

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  9. Thank you so much for that. I really needed to hear that. I have been single for almost seven in and out of relationships. I gave my life to God a little over a year now. But I also decided to take a break from the whole dating scene and wait. It’s a struggle but I would rather wait on the Lord.

  10. Great to read some sound advice. It is so hard listening to advice from well-meaning people, all of which are married and have no idea what its like to be single-again (for 17yrs) or single in their 40s. This is going to my journal!

  11. Nice talk, in seach of good heart is better in mantion of bondage, as a lady, ur prayer can make ur kind of man to successful to locat u, there is no mistake in the spirit, as long u have pray an continue prayin, when the man come , it wil be costomize to u, praise the lord

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