Breaking the Emotional Bondage of Bad Relationships

Rejection and bad relationships

Many people are living in bondage, but not the kind of “bondage” that you can see…instead, they are bound by the worst form of bondage…emotional bondage.

Rejection is the most painful of all the emotions; it is one of the deepest emotions we experience, as it cripples our self-worth, cutting deep and going straight to our core.

Rejection can cause you to believe a lie about yourself and you can end up projecting it on other people. Rejection sends a false message to us that we are not enough, not worthy and ultimately keeps us bound. Parents do it to their children, and husbands/wives do it to their spouse; it’s a devastating form of control…and until a person recognizes the presence of rejection in their life and deals with it…they will remain troubled by it for the rest of their life.

We all know that domestic abuse is all about power and control.

Once upon a time, I was in an abusive relationship where I was constantly looking for validation from my ex…and the more I looked for it, the more he rejected me and validated that I was not enough.

The more I showed my thirst and hunger for his approval and affection..the more he deprived me of it; the more he rejected me…the harder..I worked to prove my worth to him and it became a vicious cycle.

There were times when he would punish me with “the silent treatment” by not speaking to me for days, all while living under the same roof. Despite him not “talking” to me…he was exerting his power and control and his rejection was speaking volumes emotionally. Over time, I began to second-guess myself and question who I was. According to him, I could never do anything right; no matter how hard I tried, he always found a way to twist my intentions and make them something that it was not. I began to believe I was a difficult person and hard to love. The thing about being rejected, is if you’re not careful, you will begin to reject others…especially yourself.

I reached a point in my life where I had to question myself regarding why I was so needy for validation from this person (despite his constant rejection)…I just kept coming back for more. He could see all my vulnerabilities and was using them as his leverage for power and control to keep me bound.  It all boils down to this important question that you must ask yourself: What is it in my past that keeps coming to the surface?  You must find out what it is, because it will be there until you deal with it.  You have to pray to God so that he will reveal it in your spirit and bring it to the surface so you can deal with it; otherwise, you may go through life being handicapped by the things that happened in your past.

In my healing and forgiveness journey with domestic abuse, God revealed to me that hurt people, hurt people. They are critical of themselves, of others and of YOU. In order for them to feel good, they have to bring you down to where they are. Some people reject you because they have a problem, not you…yet, they project it onto you and it then becomes your problem too!  God bestowed on me the clarity to see that his rejection was not about me at all…it was about him.

During our relationship, I recall my ex-sharing stories about how his father abused and rejected him as a child and how it still bothered him. You see, parents can set their children in a wrong direction very early in life and he was a prime example. I’m definitely NOT making excuses for his behavior (especially the abuse); however as I said: hurt people, hurt people and I am able to see his behavior of rejection towards me…was not about me and my worth..but about his own worth. It’s hard to give something you never had.

They say that hindsight is 20/20. Now that I am in an emotionally, spiritually and physically healthier place… I can see crystal clear that you can not get a person to satisfy a need that only God can supply. I was looking for validation and acceptance from someone that was never qualified to give it to me in the first place. I know my worth, I know who I belong to, and I will never again look for a person to fulfill in me…what only God can do.

Marica Phipps

Marica Phipps

Marica is the Founder of Battered Not Broken, Inc. a non-profit organization established to provide education, support,empowerment and resources for victims of abuse.
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435 COMMENTS

  1. Been there. I didn’t have any insight in my small existence and self and so someone else could do devastating damage inside of me…. and set a course for destruction… Now I’m healed but I whis I’d known God sooner….

  2. no one is worth giving you “power” to….. Instead they and you have to grow….and heal…. We have to learn to see ourselves in Gods eyes…..

  3. This is me… Especially the last sentence… This was my story and it is what I become… I pray and ask God to help me to forgive not only things that happened on my past but also to forgive myself. I know my worth and I know who I belong now. I am so blessed and so happy…

  4. The last guy I dated was this way. Not physically abusive but emotionally I was never ‘good enough’. Turns out he was writing his ex gf behind my back (one who left him for another man). He ended up leaving me for her. I still feel the pain from this rejction because he always told me I wasn’t smart enough to have an intellectual conversation with him. He was agnostice (former believer) and I am a christian. When he begged me to go out with him in the beginning I thought we would be good together. I am still trying to heal from the damage he has caused me…

  5. This was a lesson I learned…then I read a book by Sheila Walsh The Heartache No One See’s…It helped me sooo much to put it all into perspective.

  6. Jodi Ann Hudgson U0001f629U0001f629U0001f629U0001f64cU0001f3feU0001f64cU0001f3feU0001f64cU0001f3feU0001f64cU0001f3feU0001f64cU0001f3feU0001f4aaU0001f3feU0001f4aaU0001f3feU0001f4aaU0001f3fe I love all of there blogs

  7. Bill perhaps you can read this article to me when you have time. Cant view it with my phone. I know my past is still affecting me. I’ve been praying that Father God will heal the wounds and scars. Thank you. Bill Golden Jr

  8. Is a form of soul ties only God can break him I deal with this for 37 years The past is the past and I’m going to leave it there but I asked him why did you hurt me why did you treat me this way what did I ever do to you and he said nothing you are a very strong woman independent Woman and he said I fear THAT !!!!! people that are in pain want you to feel their pain ……they’re not mad at you they feared you there mad at their self Also the demons that they’re fighting they also fear you

  9. I lost my relationship because of his addictions and now I miss him and the thoughts that hurt me and keep me depressed and broken please pray I will get thru this

  10. Ive experienced this losing trust to any man,its bcoz of what my husband did to me,he cheated on me,and we now Separated for 6yrs,but in the end of the i realized that it was the way of GOD to proctect me from my fraud x-husband Im now happy being single mom

  11. Irma, I’m certain you will grow stronger. God does not make mistakes. Your ex has his own work and healing to do in order to move past his addictions and issues; and you had the strength to know that right now, you can not be part of that season in his life. Loving yourself (and the other person) enough to let them go takes a lot of courage. Sometimes we have to let them go and if they are meant to be in our lives..they will come back. My boyfriend and I dated 20 yrs ago during that time, he went though his issues with addictions and many other things…and 20 yrs later he is now in my life and we are who we are and can appreciate each other because of our experiences. I had no idea we would be in each other’s lives…but God knew the entire time. :) Trust God’s process in your life..and in his. I’ll keep you in my prayers. #batteredNotBroken

  12. Thelma, I can relate. The same ex that I speak of in my article that physically abused and rejected me …also cheated and married my (former best friend) after 3 mos. I waited on him to marry me for eight yrs..and he married her in three. As painful as that could have been for me..I didn’t fret, because I know that delay..and even his cheating /marriage with her…was for my protection. Sometimes God ALLOWS things in order to save us from something that could have harmed us..even more than that. God protected you and saved you and saving you for the right person to come into your life. It’s all in his plan. #batteredNotBroken

  13. I can relate. The same ex that I speak of in my article that physically abused and rejected me …also cheated and married my (former best friend) after 3 mos. I waited on him to marry me for eight yrs..and he married her in three. As painful as that could have been for me..I didn’t fret, because I know that delay..and even his cheating /marriage with her…was for my protection. Sometimes God ALLOWS things in order to save us from something that could have harmed us..even more than that. God protected you and saved you and saving you for the right person to come into your life. It’s all in his plan. I will pray for you as you heal and I hope you realize that his rejection..was /is God’s protection for you. #batteredNotBroken

  14. Patrick Vink I think had we all “known sooner” we would not be who we are now..because of the things that broke us down to our weakst point (heartbreak, pain and rejection etc)…we are stronger. Our pain is our testimony to help others, we are Gods chosen, becuase he knew we could survive it…even if we didn’t know at the time. #batteredNotBroken

  15. be happy always as my wish to [email protected]

  16. Such a beautiful article! I felt delivered as I sat reading it on my couch! It’s amazing to know that hurt people will hurt you because of their own pain not because there’s something wrong with you.

  17. U0001f64cU0001f64cU0001f64cU0001f64cU0001f64cU0001f64cU0001f64cU0001f64cU0001f64cU0001f64cU0001f64cU0001f64cU0001f64cU0001f64cU0001f64cU0001f64cU0001f64cU0001f64cU0001f64cU0001f64cU0001f64cU0001f64cU0001f64cU0001f64cU0001f64cU0001f64c that hit the nail on the head honey. Perfect!

  18. Sometimes we make choices that aren’t part of God’s plan,no matter how much u love them. Don’t stop loving, but learn to put things in perspective. Look to Him for guidance

  19. I have a lady who needs to see this but has unfriended me because I told her this same thing tonight.
    Sam send this to her!

  20. I trust you Jesus and I trust in your plans and timing! I trust for a good husband, the best of all husbands, Lord i believe you’ll do it for me coz your for me
    I pray that that man destined for me doesn’t rest till he locates me in Jesus name! Father put me on his heart so that he thinks about me alone, whenever he is, connect him to me in Jesus name Amen! Thank u Jesus!

  21. Guide us Lord and protect us lead us to the rigth person for us for u knw whas best for us u sayd u wll give us our heart desires Lord we wait on u for ur time is perfect…thank u Jesus Amen

  22. Amen, this is why we got to have the patience of Job.
    Learn to wait on the Lord.
    I’m learning myself and i learned from experience when I try and fix something I make it worst.
    So…all i can say is we got to wait on Jesus.
    Amen

  23. Also, don’t underestimate the wisdom of friends and family- they see things objectively that perhaps the rose-tinted specs keep you from seeing. God places us in families for a reason, and this is surely one of them!

  24. I’m 50 with a kid,I’m divorced and ready to move on in life…I work with the department of defense and I would like to meet a hard working woman as aside for the rest of my life#SingleLadiesOnly

  25. Amen. Serve the Lord with gladness while patiently waiting. (cousin Ervie Nomos this one is for us, especially for you.) 💞💞💞✌✌✌

  26. So true. God is the only provider for all our needs. Let’s trust Him always, with everything our hearts desire.

  27. Just got out of a long and tortuous relationship that had a faulty foundation from inception. I have learnt my lessons and moved on. Whatever the future holds for me, l have left in God’s Hands. I will wait upon the Lord with an open mind.

  28. Wow, that really spoke to me. At times we are so desperate not to be alone that we settle. God does not want us to settle. If we only trust him the right person will come along.

  29. I really needed 2 hear the 2 day I’ve been doing online chatting 2 meet someone (I’m going 2 pray about an c what happens

  30. I believe nothing is impossible with God, so if your husband have experienced rejection in the past, he must first get to know who the Lord Jesus is, and have a relationship with Him. He will then see that what he has experienced is nothing compared to what Jesus had, being rejected and put to death by the people He loves. Then, Your husband must learn to forgive the people who did this to him. This needs a lot of prayer, as a wife, encourage your husband and pray with him that God may heal his wounds and learn to love himself because God loves him and you do too!

  31. This waiting thing is tearing me up! I’ve been praying, meditating, and patiently waiting. Lord help me to endure this lonely journey. I guess I need to pray for more patience because the little that I do have is starting to run out at a speedy rate….HELP ME LORD!!!

  32. God please guide me to make the right choices in my life. I have had struggles but with you God I am overcoming my faith has grown stronger and I am getting better everyday. Thank you God.

  33. For me, I’ve learned that He wanted me to fall in love with Him. He is my peace and comfort. I know especially on those nights that I’m lonely, He cradels me, I feel His presence all around, then fall asleep.

  34. I am a 44 year old and I know exactly what you lovely young women going through it do take patience to wait on your husband I waited on mine and I have 4 Kids and he took me and my kids now we’ve been married for 20 years in June and we love each other like we first seen each other so be patient on the Lord and believe and have faith and God will see you through

  35. God will send you the right person at the right time it is God’s timing that you need to wait on and not yours he was always on time at the right time he knows what you need amen

  36. We are not to make our own choices wher finding a life partner is concern our life has been pre determent before we were born,all that needs to be done from our side is to be patient and to have faith…i’m a good example.

  37. Not just in campanion relationships…
    Please pray for my Dad, my son, myself, family as my Mom past away last.night/evening. My dad, brothers, nieces all have verbally & physically attack us since my mom got sick-Alzheimers, when my son & I would visit. At times my Mom, (or Dad) was in the hospital my son and I were blocked, and yelled at to get out of here, as my Dad lifted his cane to block us, and my brothers, nieces all there, did nothing, and/laughed when we were told to leave, and now my Moms gone!!! Please pray for my son & I. I dont even know if they’ll let us know about services. We just found out they’re having her cremated, so I wont ever see my Mom. They are all blood relatives, and their only daughter, my brothers only sister, but my brothers have told me recently in our grown age, they’ve never liked me, cant stand me or my son, and as far as their concerned, they’ve NEVER claimed me or my son as family. Now in my Dads elder ailing age, hes acting the same towards us, saying us being around causes trouble between him and my brothers, so we were never invited, included, or rarly welcomed, and thats only quick visits so my brothers wouldnt find out…?! I asked my Dad why. and to my face he teplied “every family has one”. I asked I dont get what that means, what do you mean, and he said “every family has that one no one likes or wants around, and I guess you & your son are it, and thats about all I can say”. I asked one of the brothers and his response is when my son and I are around it takes away from him & his kids, grandkids. I asked the others brothers and they said “we cant stand you, we never have”, and “oldest brother said, and the funny thing is you know it, now we’ve told you, yet you still come around, or try to call. You already know most times we dont answer when you call, but no matter what we never call you or return you call, and yet you’ll still call.” I told him I was calling about my Dad, Mom, and he said you dont need to call, we all talk, we all know whats going on in each others lives, and no one cares about you or your son, so maybe youll finally get it”, and hung up on me. So my Mom passed last night/evening, and will be cremated, so I didnt/wont get to see her again…U0001f622U0001f622U0001f622 Last Nov my son & I went to see them, my Dad&Mom, and my dad made us leave, told us to “take everything we brought them, everything that has anything to do with us, cuz he doesnt want any memories of us around, and told my son and I, we can say bye to him/them at their funural, if we happened to be or come around, but for us to know its not up to my brothers, nieces, or him for that matter to keep us informed about them”. Please help, please pray for us, thank you!

  38. where human being power ends,God starts,but you have to move your feet for a journey, so God will help through your movement,but if you have a journey and you won’t move your feet God has nothing to help you,remember what he told Abraham.

  39. Waiting for God to send me someone to share my life with going to church go simple singing and other things that God wold
    Be pleased with its a lonely world since I lost my hu sbanbthree years ago we loved sharing are time living living are life for god

  40. As I read this article, it was speaking to me. I’ve never been in a abusive relationship. But I can say maybe towards myself kinda. Looking for approval to be accepted liked or even loved and wanted. I can go back far as a child feeling left out. Something came to me and I can’t say if it was was the holly spirit or the devil. Revealed to me you were not wanted while in my mother carried me. I would have this dream when ever she would leave me. In this dream, this Chinese lady a geisha would appear saying “I’m here to watch you”. I would have this dream every time she would leave me alone. I was very young I think I was 5 or younger. I think the lack of stems from the rejection of both parents. I want to ask my mother or grandmother but I think it would only cause a problem. She will never admit it. I sat down one day and wrote everyone’s name that I thought ( I thought) I was in a relationship with and everyone was a failure. I haven’t had many. But I wrote down what each one contributed and what I gave willingly. And each came out with just about the same answers. I question myself often. What am I doing so wrong. It makes you feel very to many words to describe the feelings.

  41. My motivations has to be pure ,for me it’s what is inside a person that could possibly be my help mate.I first must become what I expect threw looking into the perfect law of liberty, Christ has made me to be ,who I am already in him .I can’t look any other place ,can’t go in two directions, he is the way the truth and the life .I choose life, there is a way that seems right unto a man but the end is death.!!!! Seek first the kingdom of God and it will come, a man’s mind plans his way but the Lord directs his steps.

  42. I don’t what to say but pray for me guys.because my life is like a game I’m married and I have two kids but our family is not happy .because of my husn

  43. The bible says that a Believer must stay because it’s through the believer that the unbeliever sees him. But with that being said, God will remove the man if he starts replacing him. That is what happened to me. I stuck with God through it all though trusting him and this word until I couldn’t take it anymore and finally my husband left me, the unbeliever walked away. So after 30 years I am free and my spiritual life has blossom tremendously. The things that God taught me when I persevered with for the seven years of unhappiness was patience kindness humbleness all in his name. So, make sure you don’t think God doesn’t want you to work on your marriage because he does. He wants to see obedience in you as you lean on him for guidance. Only then, when he sees yu are ready, he will reward you with all that your heart desires.

  44. Some think love can be measured by the amount of butterflies in their tummy. Others think love can be measured in bunches of flowers, or by using the words ‘for ever.’ But love can only truly be measured by actions. It can be a small thing, such as peeling an orange for a person you love because you know they don’t like doing it.

  45. Let him go is right! I was in a horrible domestic violence relationship! But I Never cared about his approval! I just knew he was sick and I wanted out! And didn’t know how to get out!

  46. The devil is trying to break up your family stucture but keep praying but never stay in a mental or abusive relationship because this is not of God. Ask God to reveal to you whether to stay in or get out. Do what is healthy for you and your kids.

  47. What about the men in abusive relationships? When their partners are in control of everything including doing everything in the house. There are also children involved. U0001f622

  48. At the end of it all GOD will bring the man or woman that is for you. Never settle with someone just because you’re afraid of being lonely, that alone time is what is required sometimes to strengthen your relationship with GOD and prepare you for your life partner.

  49. Pray for your husband and your marriage. Prayer is a weapon he cannot take away from you. Let God fight this battle for you. I would recommend you read the book War Room, it’s excellent. I will keep you in prayers.

  50. Oh wow but the bibke says to honor your husband thats what Pastor joe was teaching at that time to follow cook clean for him

  51. You can’t force some one to love you,wen a man don’t want you let him go where is going will teach hlm and he Regan his sensess so let it go

  52. I am in a relationship, we both have a child together, domestic violence is the issue here. now i want to leave, but he doesnt want to leave just bcos we had a child together. this relationship is the worst ever. its not gonna work between us… just sick and tired of an unhealthy relationship. wrong one….very wrong one…

  53. I agree with you Pamala I was in a situation God removed my husband walked out he was a unbeliever I continue to pray and continue to walk with God doors began to open in doing more of what God wants me to do. Stay strong in the Lord and he will restore your strength follow God plan for us.

  54. Jesus said, “But I say to you who hear, Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you.” -Luke 6:27-28 (ESV).

  55. It is sad because woman who do those are not woman they come fro. Water ,Marine spirit, let her go because he marrie a wrong person, but God is the god of Justice he will give the right on who will take this children as his if the man is a child of God, he will he a Goldy wife

  56. I have been where you are, and I am so sorry that you are going through this. The one thing I didn’t do, when I was with my husband, was pray for him. I had put all my focus on the wrong that he was doing, and not enough focus on God. (John 4:24; 1 John 4:7-8; John 1:1,14; Galatians 2:20). I pray that God protects you and your child. I pray that He softens your spouse’s heart. I pray that God sends His angels to surround you, your family, and your home. I pray that God brings peace, comfort, love and every fruit of the Spirit into your life. I pray this all in Jesus’ name, Amen. U0001f49c

  57. Amen… i pray for them both and for their salvation. Though my son is a man of God, his partner is not U0001f622. Thank you. God is in control

  58. Marriage is husband and wife before it go to the family ,if your destiny is atache to marriage you will have war to figth, that why you need deliverance prayer before marriage, is not late, go to www lcccstore.com you will he book that will help your marriage, to be successful in Jesus name

  59. Get out before something really bad happens. He’s controlling u and he can’t force u to stay . This is sad he’s beating on you and you feel stuck . Don’t loose your mind sweetheart & u do have a choice. God will help and Guide u he will change these circumstances .. Lets claim this in Jesus name Amen#God Bless You !

  60. Yess were suppose to honor our husband’s & Their suppose to lead us right. Do right by us !! Were not suppose to loose ourselves or our souls to wrong doing or accept abuse. #Ask God to reveal the truth to u and your husband & to Guide u both & Bless your home. #God Bless You !!

  61. Jane Ogude I am like that and it is metal abuse ,take it to the Lord .ask God to change him and let him fight the battle .and pray that the Lord will help you ,

  62. I’m in a disastrous relationship with someone who is full of himself ,moody,abusive and a cheater . I don’t know whether I love him or I’m just afraid of being lonely and now I even blame God for every bad thing that happens to me I feel like God has turned his back on me

  63. I have been married to my husband for 5 years now, in the beginning he was totally selfish and mostly didn’t want to see anything from my point of view. Often he wanted to make me feel less than what I am, he rejected me or made up something that would just make me feel bad about myself. I prayed to God each night to make him change and he did actually! But it was just for one year, now he’s again getting back to being like he was, not caring about anyone else but himself. I don’t know what to do, it takes a lot of my energy and joy from life, being around such negativity and selfishness. I would just like to be happy because I know I deserve it and I feel like it’s just wasting life being negative and nasty all the time. I also feel like it takes so much energy to try and pray for him and trying to make him see somehow that life is beautiful and worth being happy. But I’m really tired. We have 2 children together and wouldn’t want to break the family apart but it just takes so much energy from me. He is not religious either like I am and many times I feel that he doesn’t respect my believes at all. I know God is with me but I don’t know what he wants me to do, I pray for His guidance.

  64. Musa when you feel like this, I think God is trying to tell you that that person is not good for you, when you are listening to your heart you are listening to God, God bless you and guide you on your way!

  65. Precious Pearl my friend I wish I can advise you or say something that will help you but after reading the comments above I realized that I have to pray about it and leave the abuser maybe God has better plans for me as he promised on Jeremiah 29verse 11

  66. You know I feel you,I’m a miserable woman, I want to let so bad but fear of the unknown is holding me back eeish ,my husband is abusive physically,emotionally, verbally and financially, he cares less about our child’s needs and mine ,I have been maintaining him ever since ,eeish it’s a long story ,my granny feels that if I divorce him he might be a serious to me ,I have been praying a lot about this ,just want God to break us up ,I badly want to live my life without this man it even makes me cry ,I hate his hard heart

  67. Some churches have been covering this lately.
    2 Corinthians 6:14
    Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?

  68. Father I plead the blood of Jesus that you will give this woman the courage, the strength to set her face straight and look at you and start walking toward you. That you would provide the place to live, the money, and anything else for her and her child. Father I plead the blood of Jesus that you will heal her emotionally spiritually mentally and physically. Lord give her wisdom where she may lack it. And after all of this Lord bring in her life a man that you select to add to her. Not complete her for her completeness will already be done in her walk with you. In Jesus name. amen, amen and amen!

  69. Me too I was in a relationship that was so abusive I pray to God why me untill I saw that Im killing myself everyday so I did get out of it, we have two kids 12 and 3 years old ,he started to cheat on me after that he lays the blame on me but thank God Im starting to pick up my pieces of life My problem is one I dont have love anymore bcs he abuse me for more than 14 years I need strong prayers to love my self and others again

  70. God please help us to be strong, please help us not to be afraid of life challenges and disappointment, I was in a very good relationship for 14years until my boyfriend got a better job he cheats like hell. We have 2kids together, I pray to God to help me be strong, God please give me the power to protect my heart, I love ds man but he is making me loose interest in him,

  71. God let me put you 1st in everything i do n commit my ways thought plans to you abide in you no matter what my circumstances maybe

  72. It’s none of my business, but I might tell him it’s time for a trial separation to see if being in a relationship is what we both want. Move into a small apartment if need be, take a little help until you can get on your feet. Ask grandparents or parents to babysit. Get a PT job or something, maybe talk to a Pastor to see if there are any community resources you are not aware of, pray morning and night for God’s guidance. Maybe join a Support group .. I feel bad for you, he needs to be respectful of you. You can’t tell him this, you have to put down a boundary line he can’t cross.

  73. All things are possible with God, this relationship might be healed down the road. He needs to turn to Jesus….God has someone for you..Your children can bounce back from this..

  74. God will always have your best interest @ heart
    He takes great care of your heart if you let him and I have never regretted that decision!

  75. Amen. ❤ it’s very hard and you may go through years and years of depression that comes and goes….but you have to keep looking forward and know in your heart that YES you are enough and YES you are loved.

  76. ““If anyone comes to Me and does not hate his father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters, yes, and his own life also, he cannot be My disciple.”
    Luke 14:26 NKJV
    That’s where putting God first is key above all. Something I am even teaching the child she must love God first even before me or anyone.

  77. Hurt people, hurts other people. This is the only time any person guilty of such behaviour can say “baby, it’s not you, it’s me”. May God help us to recognise these traits within ourselves. And remember, those living in glass houses should not throw stones.

  78. We have all been there male or female but when you think that your loosing your actually winning. Pray on it. It’s not easy but gods plan is better and the pain you feel is evidence that god is trying to tell you something. Stand firm and dismiss what is no longer making you smile. If I can do it you can to. When there is a will there is a way. Pray for strength, in Jesus name.

  79. Satan will say anything and do anything to keep you in his grasp. You been hanging out with him ….so Satan is like why leave me? And he will do ANYTHING to get you to stay …..

  80. Yes he knows you; so he thinks,as Satan thought he knew Job…#ButGod….. resist the devil&flee…. close yo eye,plugg your ears….resist him…flee

  81. I did this I left a man for God and he chased me and asked me to marry him and we were married till he passed…. leaving for God was right :)

  82. Ask God to look for a good Husband for you, and when he gives you one you will love him on till death do a part

  83. Just because you have a child together don’t mean ya gotta stay with him. I was with an abusive man for 10 years, and we have 2 kids. I finally decided that I didn’t want to be his object of abuse anymore and left. I’m happier and my kids are happier. The kids no longer have to see their daddy physically and emotionally abuse their mom. You don’t realize the mental and emotional effect it has on the kids. My kids would hide in the closet when I was getting abused and my oldest had bad panic attacks.

  84. I could scream this from the mountain tops!!! I’ve made the wrong choice before, and the price is much higher than you’ll ever want to pay.

  85. Growing up with a very abusive father instilled an abhorrence for men and marriage. Being bullied throughout secondary school gave low self-esteem and almost no self worth. I went through my early twenties with no relationship because I didn’t want to have anything to do with men and because I felt I was too ugly to be desirable by any. Taking stock of the men that has come my way, they are predators that manipulate my naive heart. But early this year, I met a guy who presented himself to be ready to help me work on all these issues however he turned out to be the most abusive of all the men I’ve ever met apart from my father. He began giving me silent treatment and withholding affection. His rejection was so obvious that he refused to start seeing me until I passed certain parameters. I got tired of the emotional abuse and I left. He is not the only man in the world since he has let me know that I’m not good. God has better plans for me. That he rejected me doesn’t mean that I am a write off.

  86. Amen… Plz pray for the strained relationship between me and my husband, to be mended in the mighty name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that our marriage be strong, full of love,care,respect,understanding, respect and blessed. M troubled at heart with the very thought of my husband leaving me and giving up on our marriage, please pray for my married life.

  87. I Praise You God – I read this and fully understood it, Finally Only ..since giving my heart to you I comprehend – Thank you I am Blessed!

  88. Sounds like he is the one with the problem Krystean, not you! Stay strong sweetheart, and love yourself. You are beautiful just the way you are – and that is from a total stranger from the other side of the world!! xxx

  89. God’s love is all that we need, he promisedn not to leave us but a man can leave u, let’s trust in him, his name is Jehovah

  90. My sister, this is from my experience of 21 years of blaming God for giving me the kind of father I had that set the pace for the life of abuse and rejection I lived. Lack of an earthly father’s love can severely impair our relationship with God but we all need to get to a point where we have to accept that God is not man. He has demonstrated His unconditional love to us in such an infallible way. Doubting it will keep us in bondage but accepting it makes us whole. Whole people attract whole men. Read my own comment, the guy I just walked away from less than a week ago is just like who you are describing. Mine was worse, he knew my low self-esteem and further went on to reject me. Refusing to ask me out: I needed to grow more hips, dress better etc. So I feel you. Place a worth on yourself now by first accepting that God values you and live that out by refusing anything that makes you feel less than who God sees you as, especially conceited, abusive, narcissistic, controlling, manipulative (the list is endless) men. My priority is to heal properly and be fully prepared for the whole man God will bring my way so that I won’t reject the real deal at the right time. Stay loved in God, sis, He’s got your back. He’s waiting for you to turn to Him. I love you.

  91. Jst be firm ma all men r da same. I want u 2 watch a certain film called”WHY DID I GOT MARRIED” it will strengthen u en yr marriage i love u

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