I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. Not by coincidence or chance, but for a purpose. The reason doesn’t always present itself right away, but usually it is for our good. Sometimes the reason is staring us right in our face but it’s hard for us to accept. Particularly when it comes to relationships or matters of the heart.
Relationships can be rough especially if we try to take matters into our own hands when God has already spoken. When a relationship ends it can feel like the end of the world for most of us. Whether it’s a friendship, courtship, or business relationship, it hurts!
Here are 3 things to remember when relationships end:
Your destiny is never tied to someone who walks away from you.
Healing is a process. You can’t heal if you’re constantly speaking defeat over your situation. I’ve heard women say…
“He was my one true love. I don’t think I’ll ever find someone else like him.”
“I’ll never love anyone as much as I love him“.
“He was my one shot at love and I think I blew it.”
“He was my “soulmate”. There will never be another“.
Does any of this sound familiar? The funny thing is most, if not all of the women I’ve heard say this are now happily married, engaged, or in a relationship with hopes of getting married. God eventually revealed His beautiful plan in these ladies lives, but not until they were ready. It wasn’t until they decided to lay their burdens down at His feet and trust His will. It wasn’t until they realized life goes on.
It will get better.
While in college, I had a friend who committed suicide following a breakup with her boyfriend. For years I was consumed with guilt. I would often think back to her last day on earth, she called me… I didn’t answer. Maybe if I had answered and reminded her that “It will get better”, she would still be here. She just wanted the pain to end. Here she was 19 years old, had her whole life ahead of her, yet she couldn’t see life beyond this young man.
If you’re going through a difficult breakup, just know that it will get better. God heals all wounds. You don’t have to suffer alone. Whenever you start to think evil thoughts, Read your bible, Pray, and call a loved one who can offer spiritual guidance and Godly advice.
Whatever you do, Don’t allow the enemy to use this difficult time to get you right where he wants you.
Be Careful What You Pray For
Some of us are praying for a husband. Nothing wrong with that. The problem is… some of us are in relationships with people who are not intended to be our husband. In this case, You can’t get mad at God when He removes the wrong one from your life to make room for the right one.
With that being said, you have two choices:
1. Let God guide you through the healing process and prepare you while you wait patiently for the right one.
2. Become bitter, Live in reverse, and Refuse to move forward.
If you are bold enough to pray the prayer you have to be wise enough to trust God with the outcome.