5 Things To Do When You Feel Unsatisfied With Your Life


Don’t expect others to fill your empty cup. They just might be as empty as you are and you’ll end up draining each other.

woman feeling empty and broken

Only God can satiate the deepest longings of the soul.  When you’re real about it, where have you been turning to quench the longings?  When the darkness settles, and you’re along with your longing, what do you do about it?

We hear well-meaning Christ-followers speaking of turning to Christ alone to satisfy, but what does this actually look like? 

When I’m real about it, I admit that opening my Bible isn’t always satisfying.  Closing a door to pray feels like the very kind of work from which my weary soul needs rest.  Listening to a sermon sounds somewhat boring. 

So how can we satisfy our souls with God in ways that bring life?

Here are five suggestions:

1. Find a hobby you genuinely enjoy

Pursuing a hobby sounds quite unspiritual, but God created passions and interests in us so that we would have parts of our lives that purely fun and recreational.  Being outside is a big one for me, but for a few years, I considered it a waste of time to hike just for the fun of hiking or go running just because it felt good.  It didn’t seem spiritual enough. 

In the 1981 movie, Chariots of Fire, Olympic runner Eric Liddell says, “I believe God made me for a purpose, but he also made me fast. And when I run I feel His pleasure.” God is pleased when we pursue activities we sincerely enjoy.  Pray about it, search your past, and consider what truly brings life to your soul.  Make time to pursue that passion. 

Whether it’s a raised garden in the backyard, a new set of paintbrushes, or a rekindled passion for baking, set aside some time to pursue it without guilt.

2. Learn to walk in constant dialogue

We’re less depleted when walking in constant conversation with God is the habit of our days.  When I’m continually listening for his promptings, enjoying the life at my fingertips, and communing with him like a best friend, his ongoing voice in my life brings life.  It satisfies my soul.

3. Reinvent the way you read the Bible

When Bible reading gets boring, it’s time to mix things up.  Sometimes, I get online and find a new translation for under five dollars.  In other seasons, I’ve found journaling Bibles and read through with the goal of journaling in the margins after each daily reading.

There are two Bibles in the closet with prayers written in the margins of each page: one for my son and one for my daughter.  When they leave the house, I plan to give each of them a Bible with prayers for them filling every page.  Reading with the perspective of looking for blessings to pray over my children revitalized the way I read the Bible for a few years.

Other times, I find Bible reading plans to guide my daily reading. The Book of Common Prayer provides daily Scripture reading from the Old and New Testament.

4. Do something for someone else

When I desperately seek satisfaction for my soul, the best solution can be doing something to bless someone else. 

Bake a batch of cookies for a lonely neighbor, write a note to a friend, send a message to someone you love just to tell them what they mean to you. 

It is true that he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed (Proverbs 11:25).

5. Change the way you pray

Similar to changing the way I read the Bible, changing the way I pray helps me connect with God when my prayer time has grown dry and monotonous.  This might mean praying through a series of prayer steps systematically, such as stillness, worship, thanksgiving, confession, and petition.  Or it might mean making a colorful prayer poster with names of friends to pray for.

Prayer journaling can be refreshing – writing our prayers to God.  Creating gratitude lists, writing out names of God from Scripture, and listing attributes of God’s character can be filling ways to mix up our prayer lives.

Walking with God is about walking in relationship, and just as every earthly relationship is different, there is no formula for walking in relationship with Jesus.  The secret is to keep ourselves grounded in the truth of his Word, and then find a way that works.

Stacey Pardoe

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Stacey Pardoe is a mother, wife, writer, and mentor. She lives in Pennsylvania with her husband and two children, where seeking God is her greatest passion.
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  1. Tamara Watson Simon

    May 27, 2017 at 1:01 am

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  2. Dana Marie

    May 26, 2017 at 11:44 am

    Hello whoever is reading this! Jesus loves you, and he has an AMAZING plan for your life! “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” Matthew 6:33 AMEN! Decree it and believe it sister!

  3. Terry Daley

    May 26, 2017 at 7:38 am


  4. Bonnie Carter

    May 26, 2017 at 2:50 am

    Kennedy Carter

  5. Gisel Martinez

    May 26, 2017 at 1:57 am

    It’s a process of praying, seeking the Lord reading His word and dying daily to self!!! But it’s all worth it!!!!!

  6. Lillyrose Crichton

    May 25, 2017 at 10:25 pm

    Amen, he’s got everything I need.

  7. May Skosana

    May 25, 2017 at 8:01 pm

    God is good all de time.

  8. Rossitah Mhango Mwandwanga

    May 25, 2017 at 7:12 pm

    Amen thu’s how our loving god is

  9. Sonya Alexander

    May 25, 2017 at 6:32 pm

    Find gratitude in whatever you are doing.

  10. Trisa Billings

    May 25, 2017 at 6:31 pm

    I enjoyed reading! I ever so needed that!

  11. Ufere Ngozi

    May 25, 2017 at 6:22 pm


  12. Aaron McCoy

    May 25, 2017 at 5:57 pm

    Y B …. …

  13. Michelle Risk

    May 25, 2017 at 5:47 pm

    This is an EXCELLENT read!!

  14. Wilson Kainga

    May 25, 2017 at 5:09 pm

    Amen and Amen

  15. Doris Wright

    May 25, 2017 at 5:06 pm

    Amen Lord yes and Thank you so much for the Loving me

  16. Patrice Parker

    May 25, 2017 at 4:29 pm


  17. Angelina Dowdell

    May 25, 2017 at 4:09 pm

    That’s the way god want u to live be content not sad u live longer when a on your face

  18. Cathy Ume

    May 25, 2017 at 2:35 pm

    Amen. Amen. Thank you Lord.

  19. Steve Fowler

    May 25, 2017 at 2:18 pm

    Amen!! It’s different for everyone seek God’s face and his hand will show you what to do.

  20. Valerie Dearborn

    March 31, 2017 at 7:14 am

    Joanne I used to be so impatiant I couldnt stand it, I often wanted all the answers, my Mom taught me high speed drive life. Work it out get it done and dont waist time. In other words NOW !!!
    I had to drink slow me down drinks like ginger tea, at first I added honey to it.
    Then I started drinking Mineral Rich
    it calmed me down and stopped what made me want to hurry somehow I just started enjoying my life. God has a way of working it out. Remind God of what he says in his word. He has better plans for us than we have for ourselves . Thank You God for your goodness in Joanna’s life and Family ! Touch them in the areas of their lives where they need it.
    Wrap your arms around each one showing them their abilities to come even closer to you as you heal their lives.

  21. Jarde Moore

    March 31, 2017 at 6:25 am

    Ya it’s called get your mind off yourself and help others… Or do what u love

  22. Valerie Dearborn

    March 31, 2017 at 6:06 am

    How wonderful is the Name of Jesus who keeps you lifted up and strong in time of need. Oh Lord, My God, I cryed out to you and you heard my cry and healed me !!!

  23. Nu-dae Nu-dae

    March 31, 2017 at 3:29 am

    I agree its a Great post❣ God is faithful… And He will show up❤️ Stay Connected

  24. Sharon Kakopa

    March 31, 2017 at 2:45 am


  25. Dimp Cummings

    March 31, 2017 at 12:58 am

    I’m sorry but I do not agree. The bible is really interesting to me because I’m either going through it or went through it, or I’m witnessing others go through. But that is just me!

  26. Joanna L Kearns

    March 31, 2017 at 12:52 am


  27. Valerie Dearborn

    March 31, 2017 at 12:21 am

    Start with Loving God he changes everything When we dont diserve it !!!

  28. Cindy Hull

    March 31, 2017 at 12:18 am

    Hey i am happy with my life I have lots of friends and family . And always into something . So no. You are not the only one in my world .

  29. Gina Gandulpos Rosario

    March 30, 2017 at 11:15 pm

    Workout yourself for your own salvation..

  30. Jackie Tyrell

    March 30, 2017 at 8:44 pm

    Hallelujah Amen

  31. Terry Daley

    March 30, 2017 at 7:48 pm

    Thank you Jesus Amen

  32. Pulani Magubane

    March 30, 2017 at 6:26 pm


  33. Vickie Tillman

    March 30, 2017 at 6:25 pm


  34. Sonia Perez

    March 30, 2017 at 6:20 pm

    So true

  35. Otsanya Onmonya Comfort

    March 30, 2017 at 6:18 pm

    Wise up

  36. Angie Wienczek

    March 30, 2017 at 6:07 pm

    Emily Wienczek ❤❤❤

  37. Blessings Mpunga

    March 30, 2017 at 5:49 pm


  38. Nakisha Aaliyah Murray

    March 30, 2017 at 5:48 pm

    Great post…

  39. Noxolo Radebe

    March 30, 2017 at 5:44 pm

    That why we need 2 stay n god all the tym

  40. Nhloza Kunene

    March 30, 2017 at 5:39 pm

    Very true!

  41. Doris Jeen

    March 30, 2017 at 5:37 pm

    Thank you so much!

  42. Carol Little

    March 30, 2017 at 5:21 pm

    Great post.

  43. Dannie Marie

    March 30, 2017 at 5:17 pm

    True story!!!

  44. Uba Tanaka

    March 30, 2017 at 5:16 pm

    thank u

  45. Maria Stols

    March 30, 2017 at 5:16 pm

  46. Andile Songs

    March 30, 2017 at 5:15 pm


  47. Bobbie Deal

    March 30, 2017 at 5:10 pm

    Amen fill my cup Lord

  48. Anita L. Robinson

    March 30, 2017 at 5:09 pm


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