Three Things Women Can Learn From Ruth


Marriage was far from Ruth’s mind because she had not too long lost her husband. She was broken and wanted to hold on to the only sense of normality she had which was her mother-in-law, Naomi. Ruth was a Moabite, which means she did not believe in the God of our salvation.

However, Naomi must have made an impact on her life so much that she stated in Ruth 1:16  “Entreat me not to leave you, Or to turn back from following after you; For wherever you go, I will go; And wherever you lodge, I will lodge; Your people shall be my people, And your God, my God.

She was devoted to her mother-in-law, Naomi because in essence she was the only family she had. This story has so many powerful messages, but we will focus on three main points that stood out to me and I pray will help you in your season of preparation.

Here 3 things that Boaz found intriguing about Ruth.

1)  Ruth was Loyal. 

It was custom for a daughter-in-law to leave her mother-in-law once her husband died or remarried. In fact, Naomi begged Ruth and her sister-in-law to leave her and return back to their people. However, Ruth stepped out of the normal tradition and decided she would remain with her mother-in-law, Naomi. She had no desire to return to her people.

She instead decided to follow Naomi as stated in Ruth 1:17,Where you die, I will die, And there will I be buried. The Lord do so to me, and more also, If anything but death parts you and me.” 

***side note*** This is why it’s vital to live a life pleasing in God’s sight because you never know who’s watching and what impact you may have on their life.

Naomi became Ruth’s family and she remained faithful to her word by caring for Naomi. Loyalty is one attribute many men look for in their future wife. They want to be sure they can trust you with their heart. Boaz took note to Ruth’s loyalty to her mother-in-law and rewarded her greatly.

2) Ruth was a hard worker. 

Since it was just the two of them, Ruth knew she had to work to take care of their home. She went out in the field and asked the overseer if she could “glean and gather among the sheaves behind the harvesters.” Her hard work caught the eye of Boaz. He wanted to know more about this beautiful hardworking woman gleaning his fields, so he inquired about her.

The overseer of the fields told Boaz, “…She came into the field and has remained here from morning till now, except for a short rest in the shelter.”  

Ruth was not sitting around idle. She was busy working naturally while God was behind the scenes working things out spiritually. He watched her work day after day before he approached her.

Ladies here’s a little nugget for you, your future husband will watch you first before he makes a move because he wants to see who you are when you think no one is watching (your character). He wants to see how you interact with others, your work ethics, how you dress, and how you treat those “who have rule over you”. And how you portray yourself on social media.

True men of God are attracted to the “GODliness” within you. Ruth was not out in the field half naked twerking and flirting with man after man. She was busy working hard to earn enough to take care of her and her mother-in-law. Sometimes we have to change our perspective before God can change our present.

3) Ruth was respectful. 

After Boaz did his research, he then approached her and showed compassion and favor towards her. Ladies when the right man comes into your life, you will know because he will treat you like the queen God created you to be. He will recognize the value in you without you taking off your clothes. Boaz even protected her from other men in the field. He really cared about her. When you know your worth, you will not just accept anything that comes your way, but you will wait on God’s best for you.

The way Ruth responded to Boaz showed how she felt about him. “At this, she bowed down with her face to the ground. She asked him, “Why have I found such favor in your eyes that you notice me—a foreigner?”

Boaz replied, “I’ve been told all about what you have done for your mother-in-law since the death of your husband—how you left your father and mother and your homeland and came to live with a people you did not know before. May the Lord repay you for what you have done. May you be richly rewarded by the Lord, the God of Israel, under whose wings you have come to take refuge” (Ruth 2:10-12).

Boaz adored Ruth. He admired her loyalty and dedication to her mother-in-law. He spoke nothing but blessings over her life. God will send you a husband who cares about your soul and that will lead you to Christ not away from Him.

The rest of the story is like a fairy tale.  This poor girl from Moab marries a rich man and he takes care of not only Ruth but her mother-in-law, Naomi too. The Lord blessed her to have a son, Obed, who is part of the lineage of Jesus Christ. God knows everything about you. He has promised you that He will not withhold any good thing from you (Psalms 84:11). Your future husband may not be a rich man riding in a white Maserati, but he is handcrafted by the very hands of God just for you. It’s easy to get distracted by the imposters.

Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravenous wolves. You will know them by their fruit” (Matthew 7:15-16).

Make sure you take time to evaluate their fruit (their lifestyle). Don’t just jump into a relationship, but take time to be friends first. Friendship is what is going to sustain your relationship. Continue to seek God and WAIT for the man God designed for you. I am a living witness that God will bless you with your heart’s desire when you trust Him with your heart and place it in His hands. It’s not your job to look for your husband.

Proverbs 18:22 says: “HE (not she) who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD.”

While you are waiting, work on yourself and ask God to reveal areas in your life that can help you to be a wife after God’s heart. Ruth had no idea her entire life was about to change because she was busy taking care of business. Consume yourself in God and enjoy this season.

Saviela E. Thorne

Saviela E. Thorne

Saviela is the author of "Seasons of a Woman's Life: Devotionals to Empower Women to Become Overcomers". She loves to encourage and empower women through her life experiences.
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  1. LarryThe Bless OneThorne Jr.

    April 23, 2017 at 11:02 pm

    Awesome very well written Saviela Edwards Thorne

  2. Garmei Kennedy

    April 22, 2017 at 1:41 am

    That is so true

  3. Karen Palmer

    April 21, 2017 at 9:19 pm


  4. Michelle Busse Givens

    April 21, 2017 at 8:53 pm

    Stephanie Allen

  5. Nihaima Stamper

    April 21, 2017 at 7:23 pm

    Yes Thank you Amen

  6. Annet Naki

    April 21, 2017 at 5:47 pm

    Your right dear

  7. Santhakumari Amuthan

    April 21, 2017 at 5:44 pm


  8. Judith Lovejoy Main

    April 21, 2017 at 5:20 pm

    Rachel Ascazos, Tinoe Sibanda, Ruvimbo Mercedes Mubayiwa,Joy Muhirwa

  9. Gofaone Ferguson

    April 21, 2017 at 4:41 pm

    Move on. The world has about 8 billion people

  10. Angelina Thomas Madoda

    April 21, 2017 at 2:01 pm

    Well said

  11. Regina Irvin

    April 21, 2017 at 11:35 am


  12. Danielle Diaz

    April 21, 2017 at 11:25 am

    They present this story like a beautiful love story. Let the man find you (and that’s all well and good). But the part that’s always glossed over is Boaz, initially, wasn’t interested in her as a wife….he liked her work ethic, that’s all. When you read the story and i pray that you do, you’ll see that it was her mother-in-law Naomi that told her to go to him. Ruth took her advice and got showered, put on some nice clothing and some perfume and went to him (NOT ON HIS INVITE lol) and laid at his feet. Fast forwarding just a little that whole marriage thing was approached by her, not him. So when i hear “he who finds a wife not she who finds a husband” and they use Ruth as a reference, i always think..did they actually read that story?? Cause she went and got her man, not the other way around lol

  13. Justina Fanaglibuw

    April 21, 2017 at 10:35 am

    Joan Fanaglibuw Mahana Giltamag
    I love this…thought I’d share.

    • Mahana Giltamag

      April 23, 2017 at 3:26 pm

      “When you know your worth, you will not just accept anything that comes your way, but you will wait on God’s best for you.”

      While waiting praying that God will reveal to you how to be a wife after God’s heart.

      Wow that’s powerful! Received this! Thank you sis for sharing.

  14. Alina Ratu Nkhethoa

    April 21, 2017 at 9:29 am

    Well said!!!

  15. Pearl Mc Fall

    April 21, 2017 at 8:52 am

    Siatua Lautua Gabriel Cordelia Rosetta Brown Teagan Moore Jolivette Ete-Thompson Maletina Setaisu Sua such a good read. Reminded me of that Sistas night sermon

  16. Kylie Collard

    April 21, 2017 at 8:09 am


  17. Rebecca Burgess

    April 21, 2017 at 6:32 am

    Amen. God I live for you solely. If you want me to be married, you will reveal my husband to me.

  18. Abigail M Seoloane

    April 21, 2017 at 6:28 am


  19. Precious Marewo

    April 21, 2017 at 6:23 am

    all the Glory Jehovah…

  20. Grace Shonga

    April 21, 2017 at 5:49 am


  21. Daisy C. Chagina

    April 21, 2017 at 5:33 am

    Maslina Apondo please read

    • Maslina Apondo

      April 21, 2017 at 3:28 pm

      Consume yourself in God and enjoy the season!
      Really Deep,Thanks Dear.

  22. Grace Shonga

    April 21, 2017 at 5:14 am

    Sitwala and Rizwana

  23. Helen Tabowei Omede

    April 21, 2017 at 5:08 am

    Vry true

  24. Brina Doc

    April 21, 2017 at 3:27 am


  25. Telly Manuel

    April 21, 2017 at 3:22 am

    Very true…..

  26. Tonya Dayhoff

    April 21, 2017 at 3:16 am

    So very true

  27. Melissa Asante

    April 21, 2017 at 2:45 am

    Juliana Asante

  28. R.k. Durham

    April 21, 2017 at 2:44 am

    Nicole Durham

  29. Ritah E Twins

    April 21, 2017 at 2:28 am

    He is a faithful God. Thank you for the message.

  30. Samantha Ruggy Mudarikwa

    April 21, 2017 at 2:12 am

    Great lessons

  31. Tshidi Masemola

    April 21, 2017 at 1:50 am

    Thank you,Amen

  32. Priscilla Mueller

    April 20, 2017 at 11:56 pm


  33. Laura Stafford-Jacobs

    April 20, 2017 at 11:55 pm

    Rachel Alanza Harrison Brandi Hollingsworth Jacob Harrison

  34. Karly Murrel

    April 20, 2017 at 11:49 pm

    Great Read!!!

  35. Bernadette McKinnon

    April 20, 2017 at 11:41 pm


  36. Olivia Mukumba

    April 20, 2017 at 11:10 pm


  37. LaVerne Richardson

    April 20, 2017 at 11:09 pm

    Give God The Glory ,Amen…

  38. MsChinadoll Patterson

    April 20, 2017 at 11:02 pm

    Well said, embrace the word of God, because he is the beginning and the ending and no one absolutely no one goes to the Father without going through Him (Jesus). Put your trust in Him, not man because man will fail you every time.

  39. MsChinadoll Patterson

    April 20, 2017 at 10:56 pm


  40. Stephanie Warmack

    April 20, 2017 at 10:08 pm

    Marcia Turner

  41. Elizabeth Hoover Rotan

    April 20, 2017 at 10:05 pm

    Nina E Rotan Ellie Rotan

  42. Jennifer Lajoie Muanza

    April 20, 2017 at 10:05 pm


  43. Jane Amador

    April 20, 2017 at 9:49 pm

    Ma Teresa Agustin Abad

  44. Veronica Ross-Wade

    April 20, 2017 at 9:42 pm

    Praise The Lord

  45. Gugu Eleanor Ngwenya

    April 20, 2017 at 9:37 pm

    i heard about ruth twice this easter n today was the 3rd tym.this message was intended for me. i now understand it much,much better thank you told for this facebook group, which is powerfull n thanx to you Lord for delivering this message,Holyspirit thx you for ur faithful spirit the is the spirit of understand Goodnight saints…

  46. Sonya Alexander

    April 20, 2017 at 9:32 pm

    So sorry

  47. Izay Saye Zhaye

    April 20, 2017 at 9:27 pm


  48. Valerie O'Ryan

    April 20, 2017 at 9:21 pm

    I was all that and more where did it get me nowhere. Heading fr the court after 21 years. I am so done.

    • Selina Reyes Toro

      April 20, 2017 at 9:25 pm

    • Selina Reyes Toro

      April 20, 2017 at 9:25 pm

    • Selina Reyes Toro

      April 20, 2017 at 9:26 pm

      So sorry!!! I was betrayed recently and feel the same way!

    • Gugu Eleanor Ngwenya

      April 20, 2017 at 9:56 pm

      ladies remember tht God is with you all the tym trust im him with all ur heart….we as Christians should be christ like and live like him following his foot steps….so that we attract people who are in the dark to come into the light.therefore we as Christians have forgiveness jst like he is always forgiving us on our wrong doing….ladies connect with God and trust in him remember ruth ddnt wanna loss the connection of his mother in law but the other daughter in law lost it cause she was full of her self…may u be filled with God,Jesus,and holyspirit so that ur flesh and thoughts are not over taken by the world but by the man above…may you find peace,comfort,love,trust,care,in ur lifes.

    • Gugu Eleanor Ngwenya

      April 20, 2017 at 10:09 pm

      GOD doesnt want separation he wants us to be united all the tym….he hates divorce i say pray for ur marriages its not yet over God has the power turn things arount…he said he’ll never give you a mountain that would be to high to overcome trust in him connect,connect,connect to him ur marriage,relationship,friendship,infect ur lifes so he wil control it as we have no power to control anything.trust in him ladies

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