3 Questions To Ask Yourself When God’s Answer is “No”

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Sometimes it’s hard to believe that once we pray, fast, and make our requests known to God, that He would still not grant us the desires of our hearts. After all, His word says “For all things are possible with God” so what’s so hard about Him giving me a new car, or my dream home, or someone I can grow old with and share the rest of my life with?

“Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours” (MARK 11:24)

Being a Christian doesn’t mean we’re exempt

After reading this verse, For many years I thought of it as a “get out of jail free” card. I could have what I want, when I want, if I only believed. Sounds simple huh? Well, boy was I wrong? It doesn’t quite work like that. Not in the least bit.

Prayer opens the door for God to work, but it does not guarantee that we will always get what we want when we ask.

“Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” (HEBREWS 11:1)

By Faith We Understand

I don’t know about you, but it’s always during my hardest times that I draw closer to God. I think that’s the whole point honestly. If God gave us everything we asked for when we asked for it, we would never need to exercise our Faith. Faith is not faith until it’s all you’re holding on to. We can pout now and thank Him later or walk by faith and thank Him in advance. So go ahead and praise Him in the midst of your storm right now. Don’t wait until God gives you a “yes” to praise Him.

“Now this is the confidence that we have in Him, that if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us.” (1 John 5:14)

Always Pray God’s Will

This means that we have to have faith that even if God doesn’t give us what we pray for, we are okay with that because we trust His will. Sometimes we pray for things that are not God’s best for us. We don’t know it at the time, but we eventually realize it later.

For example: You didn’t get the job you prayed and fasted for, but months later you got a job paying 3 times the amount of the one you were willing to settle for. This is my story exactly. I had started to let fear take control and questioned God for allowing me to almost become homeless. Notice I said “almost”. Even without a job, God made a way for me to keep a roof over my head and food in my stomach. Interview after interview I was overlooked for positions I knew I was well qualified for. Looking back at it now, I thank God for His “no”.

But on the flip side, sometimes we can block our own blessings. If you’ve been praying and praying, but it feels like God is not listening, ask yourself these 3 things:

1. Does what you’re praying for align with God’s word?

Example: I had someone ask if I would pray for her and her boyfriend’s relationship. They were having trouble in paradise and she wanted someone else to pray for the two of them. Problem is…. He was married to someone else. Separated, but still very much married. I prayed for her, but just not what she wanted me to pray for her.

2. Will whatever you’re praying for, glorify God?  

Is this your testimony waiting to happen? A lot of times, the things we pray for are for our own selfish reasons and desires. Check your motives. Are you praying with a pure heart?

I’ve been guilty of this a few times. I prayed for God to bless me, but when He did, I was too ashamed to share with others what He had brought me through.

3. Are you doing your part?

Faith without works is dead. It’s not enough to believe that God can. Show your faith. What good is it if people say they have faith but do nothing to show it? Faith is dead when it doesn’t result in faithful activity.

God knows what’s best for us. We may not understand at times or like the process, but with faith, we can rest knowing that He is in control.

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