Is he dominating?
Does he have the need to control you and take hold of everything in your life and his? Or can he give his control to God and trust in Him?
If you’re dating someone, he must love you enough to give you the freedom to be who you are. If he is controlling you, you will never have the freedom to find who are and grow in Christ. Opportunities will be missed and you can miss your purpose and calling from the Lord.
In a past relationship, I was controlled; what I ate or drank became a problem and even what I would wear, or who I wanted to hang out with. This is red flag and if he is controlling you, then you need to let Him go and take Christ’s control instead of his.
“Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.” (Proverbs 3:5)