By: JJJ

JJJ — Fri, 18 Sep 2020 09:47:22 +0000

And you are supposed to be a relationship counselor? I see so many wrong things with this story. Blaming God? Saying that He did not bless you with fixing your marriage? That is TOTALLY putting YOUR responsibility ( like most women nowadays of the world do) out and trying to blame someone else (normally women blame the man, but you outdid most women by also blaming God). How about ALL those years you talk about that you were too busy doing YOUR own things and catering to your kids? Did you forget that you also had a husband? Then you claim you prayed and prayed and THEN you looked at yourself in the mirror to see what you had done wrong? You had it all backwards, and also you have backwards that slippery slope of thinking that God did not bless your marriage in the first place, so now you have the door open to divorce because you just justified it by thinking “Oh this marriage was not from God”. This is worldly thinking, not Christian. Even a secular psychologist like Jordan Peterson would recognize all that you are saying wrong here, from a secular perspective, even looks worst from a Christian one. Your husband said that he felt he was in a loveless relation, so what was your part on that? You possibly were dedicated to your children and career( which is what most women do, as they come to a marriage with their own plans, not God’s ), and then forgot that your husband was there for more than just providing. Where 2 jobs really necessary if your husband was a successful businessman? Did you ask God and church counselors if you were doing it right? Did you ask your husband in the first place what were his needs and how could you help him to feel appreciated? The thing is you are describing here the same mentality of secular women, and you are using a secular mind to justify divorce. You had everything, and could had saved your marriage in time, but were too busy having your own plans to realize family(including the head of the house, your husband) is more important than money, success or careers. I cant possibly take advice from anything on this page after reading how you are using a slippery slope to justify this, and I hope that other women do not follow this example that just justifies divorce in their minds.

By: Jennie

Jennie — Mon, 30 Sep 2019 13:34:57 +0000

I prayed and waited upon the Lord for 40 years until I found the one who I thought He wanted me to be with forever. This man wasn’t a Christian and had just been divorced and I felt the Lord calling me to bring him back to the fold and stop drinking, which thankfully he did. We married this past November after dating for 5 years, never living together, only spending a few nights together. I wasn’t too thrilled about getting married in the first place, but thought that love would grow and we’d be fine. After considering suicide at least 3 times since we’ve been married, we’ve separated, but talk on the phone every day and see each other a few times a week. I want a divorce but he refuses and cries and whines and is very controlling. I don’t know what to do, please offer advice. Everyone says that my happiness matters most, but I don’t want to hurt him. Thanks

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