In this day and age there are many women that are willing to accept whatever a man is handing out and so often times what the man is handing out is nothing much. So how can a single Christian woman know what to look for in a man? The key is the Bible. Even though the Bible is old it is never outdated and there are so many lessons to be learned from the Bible including what to look for in a man.
Let’s take a look at these 3 Biblical Couples. I’m sure we can all learn a thing or two from them.
Boaz and Ruth
Boaz saw Ruth in the field working hard, and that is what attracted him to her. Even though he was attracted to her, he did not expect anything from her. Instead he helped her out. He gave her food to take home because he knew she was poor. He invited her into his home to rest because he knew she had worked hard all day and was hungry. He had his workers look after her in the field because he wanted her to be safe while she worked. Even when Ruth came to Boaz in the middle of the night, as her mother in law has directed her to do, he told her to leave before the sun came up so that no one would think badly of her.
What we can learn from Boaz:
A man will not only be attracted to your outward appearance but he will be attracted to what you have to offer, such as your hard work. A man that is interested in you will show his interest in you. You will not have to wonder what he is thinking or how he feels about you because he will show it. He will want to provide for you and keep you safe. And like Boaz, he will not try to have sex with you to take advantage of you. Instead he will want to make it official. Make you his wife.
Esther and the King
Once the king fell in love with Esther he made her the queen. Not only did he make her the queen but he declared a feast in her name, celebrated her, and pranced her around the kingdom. And most importantly he trusted his wife. When she came before the king unannounced he could have chopped off her head, but he didn’t. He listened to her and ultimately he believed her when she revealed the truth about Haman. And lastly he was able to forgive and accept her. Esther did not originally tell the king her Jewish heritage, but once she did, he forgave her and accepted her for who she was.
What we can learn from the King:
No one is perfect. Let’s face it, the king has been married before and he sent away his first wife. But when he meant Esther he was different. He treated her like a queen and really she was just a small time girl from a no where village. All women deserve for their husband’s to treat them like queens. It does not matter where you come from or who your parents are; a real man who wants to be your husband should see you as his queen and treat you as such. He should accept you for who you are and not be ashamed to show you off.
Jacob and Rachel
Jacob’s loved Rachel. He worked for Rachel’s father for 14 years because he wanted to marry her. The first 7 years before he married her seemed like nothing to him because that is how much he loved her. He was willing to prove to Rachel’s father how much he loved her by working hard.
What we can learn from Jacob:
A man who loves you will be willing to do anything for you. And most importantly a man that loves you will be willing to work hard to prove to your parents that he loves you and can provide for you as a husband.
If as a single woman you feel that these men do not exist. They do exist and they can exist for you. One thing that you may have noticed in all of these situations is that God brought the right man at the right time. None of these women went looking for a man. It happened when God said it was time . And most importantly none of the men were looking to shack up and play house, they were looking for a wife.
So be patient and when it’s time, God will bring the right man to you. You just need to know what to look for and that is a Godly man over just any man.