2. Be kind to yourself
If you are someone that is used to being there for others, recognize that in your own suffering, it might be difficult, or even impossible to be there for others like you may have been in the past.
Some will tell you that taking care of others is the best way to keep your eyes off yourself, and while it is always good to love others, do not beat yourself up if you’re unable to do so.
If you are suffering, take the time to heal and do whatever you need to do this.
Again, if you ignore your own healing it very well may prolong the time you spend suffering, thereby prolonging the time away from being able to be there for others, fully healed. The best thing you can do is focus on your own healing at this moment.
What does this look like practically? Well, it’s different for everyone. For me personally, I cut back my hours at work to just the hours I had to work to live. I cooked – which is very therapeutic for me, and cooked for others – which always brings me joy to serve in that way.
I even bought myself flowers every Saturday. Lot’s of rest; I slept – a lot. Also, I stopped seeing people that made me feel bad about myself, and started only going to social occasions I actually wanted to go to.
For the first time in my life, I took time to do what I needed to do to feel ok – and was unashamed about doing so. As soon as I stopped worrying about what others thought of me and took time to focus on what I needed, I started to heal.