5 Signs You Are Chasing Him

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Relentlessly pursuing a guy was never God’s intention for us. And instead of chasing a man we need to be chasing Christ.

Here are 5 ways to know if you are chasing a man and 5 key verses to keep you stay grounded in your relationship with Christ first…

1. You’re Seeking a Man’s Validation Instead of God’s

It can be easy to seek validation from a man to fill a void through companionship. It’s natural that as people, we want to be liked.

Whether it’s a work colleague, friend or a relationship interest we often seek validation through people, forgetting to find it in our relationship with Jesus first. It is important to remember that our ultimate self-worth and value is found in Christ alone and not in the opinions of others.

Desiring a relationship is a good thing, but when we use it to validate our self-worth we are missing the mark as Christians. At the end of the day, only God can fill our heart shaped hole.

Growing up, I would often seek validation from men. If I had a crush on a guy, I had a desperate need for him to like me. And if he didn’t I was left feeling slightly worthless and not up to par. Having not found my true worth in Christ alone, I had left it in the hands of another human being and as a result, I was left disappointed.

In my later years, I found that people and relationships can never validate your self-worth; because the only validation you ever needed was already paid on the cross.

‘’This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us’’. 1 John 3:16

Alicia Mckenzie

Written by Alicia Mckenzie

Alicia Mckenzie is a writer and speaker seeking to encourage women in embracing their calling to live in their purpose for Christ.

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Basaha Hanna Sybil Badayos Abueva 🙂

Chase God only. Run 2 him not man.

Christien Rougeau

Psych!!!!

never chase anyone!

Abby Mullin this is a good read☺❤

Denielle Wittrowski

Timely..

Derek Rosen

Still in love with someone my self. He broke it off 9 months ago

Sorry Rebecca!

Yes DeNora. He lives less than one mile away. I am never going to be over him. Just have to go on the best that I can?

So sorry my story has now turned into a 30 marrige!

I am happy for you. Believe it or not I am holding onto hope. But right now his Mommy is in the way!

So sorry to hear that Rebecca.

You need to tell Mommy that its time to step back Rebecca!

Try to keep your faith that he will realize where and who he needs to be with Rebecca?

That is exactly what I am doing Lisa. God bless you ?

Yes I am going keep praying about this.

Maybe I will have a happy ending to this.

Calahna Camille

It’s not being forced cuz I have a ring

Lol…….. mind your business

Sandy Fore this is what its about.

That i can’t force one

I know its hard to wrap your brain around this now but do you remember the night you introduced me to Bobby and we just hit it off from the start and started I guess they call it today “going out” but we didnt go out really you and I would go to his and Junior Jones place and hang out every single night for about 3 months….I was head over heels in love with him and then he just broke it off and broke my heart, I wouldn’t give up but he continued to turn me away, giving me… Read more »

Yes I sure do remember this.. And it is funny now that it has all turned around.. Him chasing you.. I’m so happy that the 2 of you finally found each other.. And true love.. Be blessed that he still loves you the way he does.. Just knowing that the 2 of you made it through all the good and the bad.. Back in our days, all the boys thought that was funny to treat all the girls bad, and break our heart’s.. Now whom is chasing who now.. lol

Yep when he did decide about 6 months after breaking my heart that he wanted to be in a relationship I wasnt so sure then I was having to much fun! I even remember Junior telling him the second go around that if he broke my heart again he would n’t ever get another chance lol funny how we remember stuff like that! Junior was right too!

Yep when he did decide about 6 months after breaking my heart that he wanted to be in a relationship I wasnt so sure then I was having to much fun! I even remember Junior telling him the second go around that if he broke my heart again he would n’t ever get another chance lol funny how we remember stuff like that! Junior was right too!

Im still making him chase me Gayla Jones Mayhall haha

Im still making him chase me Gayla Jones Mayhall haha

LisaJane Gant Burroughs that’s what’s keep the fire going!!

Thats right! It all worked out the way it was supposed to because you know he really had a great life from the start, when he married me my family is the same way yours is we are close knit….and my family loves him as much as they do me

Thats right! It all worked out the way it was supposed to because you know he really had a great life from the start, when he married me my family is the same way yours is we are close knit….and my family loves him as much as they do me

I meant to say he really DIDNT have a great life.

I would say I defenetley chased him Now he does all the chasing!! And calling, and calling , calling whenever I am not right by his side. My friends have always been like really??? We are just having lunch and he has called like 5 times!! Lol

That sounds more like stalking than love. Be careful girl.

Melissa Monroe

Hmmmmmm

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