5 Signs You Are Chasing Him

Relentlessly pursuing a guy was never God’s intention for us. And instead of chasing a man we need to be chasing Christ.

Here are 5 ways to know if you are chasing a man and 5 key verses to keep you stay grounded in your relationship with Christ first…

1. You’re Seeking a Man’s Validation Instead of God’s

It can be easy to seek validation from a man to fill a void through companionship. It’s natural that as people, we want to be liked.

Whether it’s a work colleague, friend or a relationship interest we often seek validation through people, forgetting to find it in our relationship with Jesus first. It is important to remember that our ultimate self-worth and value is found in Christ alone and not in the opinions of others.

Desiring a relationship is a good thing, but when we use it to validate our self-worth we are missing the mark as Christians. At the end of the day, only God can fill our heart shaped hole.

Growing up, I would often seek validation from men. If I had a crush on a guy, I had a desperate need for him to like me. And if he didn’t I was left feeling slightly worthless and not up to par. Having not found my true worth in Christ alone, I had left it in the hands of another human being and as a result, I was left disappointed.

In my later years, I found that people and relationships can never validate your self-worth; because the only validation you ever needed was already paid on the cross.

‘’This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us’’. 1 John 3:16