5 Ways to Break the Cycle of Toxic Relationships

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2. Understand Where the Pattern Came From. 

After you’ve forgiven yourself you can start to do some work to correct this yucky pattern you keep sewing into your life.

If it’s a pattern you’ve repeated multiple times you should be able to pinpoint some of the traits, characteristics, and symptoms. Think about them, write them down, analyze them.

What exactly do all these relationships have in common?

What were some telltale warning signs that you missed early on but can now easily identify?

What behaviors have these relationships brought out in you, time and time again?

What was it about those relationships that triggered such behaviors in you?

Now think about what led you to enter those relationships. What was it you were longing for? What feelings were you enjoying? What results were you hoping for? What emotions were these relationships triggering for you?

A lot of times we enter into relationships because they feel familiar to us, like a story we know well, so we fall right into them seamlessly, without even giving it much thought or prayer.

Understanding where the pattern comes from and how it was created is key to finding ways to break it.


Written by Maya L. Ralston


Maya is a Relationship Counselor and Certified Life Coach. She loves using her God given gifts to pour into the lives of others.

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Hello Maya, I wish to pour out my heart concerning a relationship that as I write to you now, the guy has ignored me for some months and when I call to know his intentions, he can’t really tell whether he’s broken up or not

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