2. Understand Where the Pattern Came From.
After you’ve forgiven yourself you can start to do some work to correct this yucky pattern you keep sewing into your life.
If it’s a pattern you’ve repeated multiple times you should be able to pinpoint some of the traits, characteristics, and symptoms. Think about them, write them down, analyze them.
What exactly do all these relationships have in common?
What were some telltale warning signs that you missed early on but can now easily identify?
What behaviors have these relationships brought out in you, time and time again?
What was it about those relationships that triggered such behaviors in you?
Now think about what led you to enter those relationships. What was it you were longing for? What feelings were you enjoying? What results were you hoping for? What emotions were these relationships triggering for you?
A lot of times we enter into relationships because they feel familiar to us, like a story we know well, so we fall right into them seamlessly, without even giving it much thought or prayer.
Understanding where the pattern comes from and how it was created is key to finding ways to break it.