I was married to a great man from 2003 to 2011. He got hurt and became hooked on prescription pain killers. The drugs increased in type and frequency. Things were great until the drugs. I was lucky to have him. I loved him. He hit me while withdrawing. He was removed by Department of Family Services and the police. He served over 2 years in jail for his actions. While he was in jail, I left him for a low life person. When he got out of mail, I promised him we would be back together. Three times I tried but the other man kept saying all the right things so I would run right back to him. Now, as of 10/15/13, i kicked the low life out. I am done. Now the problem. For 7 weeks, I have been working with a counselor. I have told her how much I want my family and husband back. I never talk to anyone about my problems, so this is a real big deal. I finally got the courage to tell him and I got a big smack in the face….he has a girlfriend. I did tell him and I did sleep with him once. He said I have to prove to him the other guy is gone for good and until then he will not leave the other girl. Lord knows, I have hurt this man. He told me he still loves me and wants to be with me. My question is, how long do I sit back and prove that I am done with the other guy? How do I fight for him to come back without pushing myself on him? We have two kids together and see each other all the time. I love this man so much it hurts. I cry all day and night. He is on my mind 24/7. Everything I do relates back to him. I don’t know what to do, I’m going crazy.
What are your thoughts? Any advice for this young lady?