3 Ways I Turned Heartbreak Around For My Good

Woman sitting with man for dinner

Many times I found myself praying to God to remove and eradicate the feelings I felt for the man who awakened feelings in me I thought had died when my husband died.  He strategically awakened feelings in me with the sole purpose of his gratification and nothing else. It was the Holy Spirit that revealed his deceptive nature to me.  Not trusting the signs, God sent a prophet to prophesy about the spiritual cleansing I was about to encounter.

Praying was not working fast enough to rid me of a familiar hurt I no longer wanted to feel.

The Holy Spirit guided me to 2nd Corinthian 8-9 when Paul pleaded with the Lord three times to remove the thorn the devil placed in him to torment him. I then began to understand why the Lord was not going to remove these feelings I so desperately wanted depleted from my being. 

I heard in His still small voice, “Faith, My grace is sufficient and My power works best in your weakness. 

What?  Never had I been in a situation when that particular scripture was applicable to my life; or I never realized it before then.  The relationship with this man literally broke me emotionally, but through much prayer and supplication, it resurrected me spiritually! 

I am reminded of the scripture, “in all things give thanks” .  I thank God I was chosen to endure such devastation because it prompted me to desire a closer relationship with God and it also awakened knowledge of the true love God has for me. 

No longer concerned with condemning this man, I was now searching for scripture (s) to help me get through this tough time. I found comfort in the scripture, He would never leave nor forsake me.  Meaning God has never disconnected Himself from me emotionally; it was I who disconnected from Him; nor has He left me; He was right there all the time, even though many times I felt so alone.  Once I came to the realization of God’s love for me, His protection, and my renewed connection to Him, I was ready to begin the healing process.

Here are 3 Ways I Turned That Heartbreak Around For My Good:

#1- I had to first start with the true meaning of love:

1 Corinthians 13:4-8:  Love is patient and love is kind. 

When I fully understood God’s unconditional love for me and the man who awakened such feelings in me, my focus changed from him to me. I had to love this man through the hurt, through the pain, and through his deception; agape love. It was not easy but it was necessary.  Yet, I was reminded of Mathew 5:46, for what reward do we have if we only love those who love us?

#2- I began to pray the prayer of David:

Psalm 51:10:  Create in me a clean heart and renew a right spirit in me. 

I wanted to rid myself of anger, malice, and any emotion that was not pleasing to God.  God never said weapons would not form, but He did say they would not prosper.  In prayer we have to be transparent, confessing our own sins before we can even ask for anything.

My father always told me, your name is all you have.  Opposite of Jabez which means pain, Faith, means confidence in God.

#3- I began to pray the prayer of Jabez:

1 Chronicles 4:10:  Oh, that you would bless me and enlarge my territory! Let your hand be with me, and keep me from harm so that I will be free from pain.”

And God granted Jabez’s request.  God also answered my request.  God never ends a story without showing His glory. Everything this man took from me through deception, God gave it ALL back to me, plus extra! 

Matthew 6:6 reminds me that if we pray in secret, God will reward us openly. 

Since that time, prayer has become a part of my daily routine seeking God’s direction and His will for my life.  I can only be thankful for the hurt I went through, it changed my life for the better.

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  1. Tony Jackson Osondu

    June 12, 2017 at 8:17 pm

    Yes ooooooo

  2. Dresses

    June 10, 2017 at 11:24 am

    I am posting this on my wall

  3. Lindywe Magagula

    June 9, 2017 at 7:30 pm

    Yeah indeed

  4. Rita Sofian

    June 9, 2017 at 7:26 am

    Rina Sofian

  5. ShaRon Lacy Crudup-Eskridge

    June 9, 2017 at 1:49 am


  6. Catina Ann

    June 8, 2017 at 9:25 am

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    June 8, 2017 at 7:48 am


  8. Gail Beams

    June 8, 2017 at 3:14 am

    Amy Rush Spencer

  9. Jessica Bueno- Zunitch

    June 8, 2017 at 2:39 am

    Yes !

  10. Sheryl Villanueva

    June 8, 2017 at 1:44 am

    Sheryl Villanueva Chen Tim

  11. Inreal Life

    June 8, 2017 at 12:00 am


  12. Adiri Aisaiah

    June 7, 2017 at 11:52 pm


  13. Arlene Buchanan

    June 7, 2017 at 10:48 pm

    Praise himx

  14. Chileshe Nawiti

    June 7, 2017 at 10:04 pm

    Was crying my heart out today over the same experience, God help me Amen .Thanks.

  15. Bobbie Tompkins

    June 7, 2017 at 8:54 pm

    Amen. God is in control

  16. Brendasykes Sykes

    June 7, 2017 at 6:47 pm

    That is a fact Amen

  17. Shakiya F Koonce

    June 7, 2017 at 6:47 pm

    Samiya MyWorld Courton

  18. Terry Daley

    June 7, 2017 at 5:57 pm

    Thank you Jesus Amen

  19. Steve Fowler

    June 7, 2017 at 5:24 pm

    Look for the good in everything.

  20. Pula Pomperada Talero

    June 7, 2017 at 5:18 pm

    AMEN !!!!

  21. Van Essa

    June 7, 2017 at 5:11 pm

    Amen!! Going through this now!! Thank you Lord for showing me the way!!

  22. Persuade Ropafadzo

    June 7, 2017 at 5:00 pm

    Went through something of that nature ….but His mercies endureth forever .Thank God for his forgiving nature

  23. Jackie Turner

    June 7, 2017 at 4:57 pm


  24. Frances Jones

    June 7, 2017 at 4:54 pm


  25. Ashley Charmaine

    June 7, 2017 at 4:51 pm

    I am so glad God allows such great inspiration like this. #encouraged #itrustGod

  26. Chole Creer

    April 15, 2017 at 1:19 pm

    This was awesome SAUCE

  27. Christina Araujo

    April 14, 2017 at 6:04 am

    Yeap! Turn your mess into a message!🙏🙌🙏🙌🙏

  28. Maria Barrientos-Bostic

    April 14, 2017 at 6:03 am

    True Christina Araujo

  29. Monica Lewis

    April 14, 2017 at 12:21 am


  30. Roselyne Wanjiku

    April 13, 2017 at 10:36 pm

    And the spirit speaks to me through the prayimg woman.Bless you!

  31. Trish Simms

    April 13, 2017 at 12:24 pm

    Amen, so profound.

  32. Lorna Mainnah

    April 13, 2017 at 10:10 am


  33. Shakira Jesussaves Smithyfergi

    April 13, 2017 at 8:50 am

    Jovanni Charlton

  34. Irene Peace

    April 13, 2017 at 8:31 am


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    April 13, 2017 at 8:21 am


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    April 13, 2017 at 7:25 am


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    April 13, 2017 at 6:19 am


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    April 13, 2017 at 6:14 am


  39. Tina Keys

    April 13, 2017 at 5:12 am

    Amen .Jesus love endures forever

  40. Beatrice Hendricks Wences

    April 13, 2017 at 5:00 am

    so very true amen

  41. Wilberforce K Ndejjo

    April 13, 2017 at 4:27 am


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    April 13, 2017 at 4:00 am


  43. Bulelwa Maqogi

    April 13, 2017 at 3:23 am


  44. Janice Downing Bridges

    April 13, 2017 at 2:54 am

    Amen! Praise God

  45. Sherri Hull

    April 13, 2017 at 2:21 am

    Amen! Praise God!

  46. Ellah Reu Cabaya

    April 13, 2017 at 2:17 am


  47. Terry Daley

    April 13, 2017 at 2:03 am


  48. Simone Browne

    April 13, 2017 at 1:46 am

    Thank you for posting this. I am going through this phase right now. The hurt actually brings God into focus.

  49. Jaclyn Weld

    April 13, 2017 at 1:33 am

  50. Frances Jones

    April 13, 2017 at 1:20 am

    Just let go an let GOD.Amen.

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    April 13, 2017 at 1:16 am


  52. Sonya Alexander

    April 13, 2017 at 1:07 am

    A work in progress

  53. MelindaAnn Bailey

    April 13, 2017 at 1:06 am

    ~♡~ AMEN ~♡~

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    April 13, 2017 at 12:55 am


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    April 13, 2017 at 12:52 am


  56. Momof07

    January 15, 2016 at 7:29 am

    God doesn’t cause the trouble Joanna. We live in a sin filled world and there will be trouble. But God can use the trouble to bless us and bring us healing. When everything is going perfectly we don’t feel we have any need for God, but when our world is falling apart that’s when we seek Him. When the world was first created by God there was no sin or disease or sickness in the world. But once sin entered, all of these things are here now, God doesn’t send them, but he provides a way to live through them and on into eternity. God sent his son Jesus to die for all of our sins, so that we might have life and have it more abundantly. All who believe in Him even though they may die an earthly death, will inherit an eternal life. Jesus was the first to be resurrected from the dead, to show us what will happen for us. We need to just stay patient, trust God and teach others so that they may be saved as well. It makes your life more blessed here while we wait for eternity. God bless you.

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