Dear Single Girl: 5 Things I Want You to Know

Dear Single Girl

Dear Single Girl,

I don’t know you personally, yet, but there are a few things I want to tell you with the hope that I will get to know you some day.

Actually, there are 5 things I want you to know:

How to get a man’s attention.

The guy that you are looking for isn’t attracted to charm as much as he is Godliness because beauty fades but Godliness GROWS.

I know that the culture will tell you that guys are turned away and intimidated by girls that love Jesus and have strong values and convictions. Culture is wrong; boys may be turned away by strong convictions, but men are not.

Be the woman God has called you to be, and a godly man will notice.

Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.  For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands.  (1 Peter 3:3-5)

Run from “Prince Charming”.

Some girls seem to give attention to every smooth talker and cool dresser that comes their way.

Please don’t do that; be patient and wait on a man who is concerned with pursuing Jesus, not another trophy. Only give the GROWING, God fearing man a chance to pursue you.

Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain (Proverbs 31:30).

I am just a guy, not a God.

A guy will crumble under the weight of being your God. No other person can complete you or make you happy.

There are lots of great physical and emotional benefits that come from a relationship, but none of it is enough to sustain a healthy loving marriage if your faith is not in Jesus.

No guy will complete you, so don’t put him on that pedestal (he will fall).

Don’t wait on me, pursue Jesus.

From my male perspective, there is nothing more attractive than a woman being obedient to Jesus and taking the risk to follow Jesus wherever He leads.

Too many times I notice girls in the church just sitting and waiting on a man to come and rescue them from a life of boredom.

When it comes time for me to pick a partner, I want somebody that can follow me on an adventure, not someone that is used to doing nothing and complaining about the fact that no one is interested in them.

Pursue Jesus and I will pursue you when He gives me the green light.

Time is not running out. Singleness is a gift, not a curse.

You want to be beautiful? Put your hope in God and don’t give way to fear; trust His timing. Don’t waste your single years by always waiting on what is next and turning yourself into a man chaser.

Let’s follow God right now and trust Him to take care of the next. God is sovereign and able to direct both of us to each other when the time is right.

There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love. (1 John 4:18)

Until Then,

A Single Guy

The Praying Woman

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Single Girl in love with Jesus

Single guy, I hope to meet you someday to just say THANK YOU for letting God use you to write this encouraging reminder. I just got literally mocked by my ex boyfriend today because of my conviction and faith in God. I never regretted to stand firm on my faith but I started to doubt if I will ever attract any guy because of my faith. God just proved me wrong… I keep believing in His Perfect timing..Jeremiah 29:11

Comfort Obiageri Uko

This is great. Thank you Single guy for this advice!


Dear, Single guy
Thank you so much for this letter. Reading this was such a great reminder of not only what a man is looking for, but how to be a more Godly woman. If that makes any sense at all? Sometimes I get so caught up in wanting to be married (being surrounded by it) and wondering who my husband will be that I forget to focus on what’s truly important, Jesus. Thank you again so much for this! I’m praying for you and your future wife 🙂
A Single Girl

Suharen Vanessa

Well said. Thank u from Costa Rica!!


Thank you author of this blog. I agree being a single is a gift. I can serve my God in my all, and focus to do His wil to save souls. Indeed being single is not a burden its a presious moment for us to learn and focus on our self to develop. If we wan to have a perfect man, indeed be a perfect woman.

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