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3 Amazing Lessons Esther Teaches Us About Waiting, Dating, and Marriage

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The biblical story of how Esther became queen is quite interesting. King Ahasuerus threw an extravagant party that lasted for several days. On the last day of the party he called for Queen Vashti to wear her crown and walk around for everyone to see how beautiful she was. I don’t know if the queen was tired or going through something, but she refused to be the king’s trophy piece. She did not want to parade herself in front of the king’s guests.

As Christians, we are to believe that God inspired every word of the Bible, not for the sake of vanity, but to teach us something that we can use today. Here are 3 things we learn from the book of Esther.

The Male Ego is Real

Needless to say, the king was embarrassed that Vashti disregarded his wishes. How dare she not follow simple orders in front of his royal friends?

He decided she was no longer worthy to be queen and began to look for a replacement. 

Not that I agree with such an abrupt decision to replace Vashti, but it’s important to focus on why he did it.

The thought of Queen Vashti rubbing off on all the other women in the kingdom made King Ahasuerus furious. If his queen won’t respect him, why would anyone else?

King Ahasuerus is not any different from men today. One of the biggest reasons men look for love elsewhere today is because they don’t feel prized in their own homes. 

They want respect and they don’t want to be publicly embarrassed; whether it’s in front of their family, friends or complete strangers.

I’m sure Vashti was shocked that something so small got her replaced, but it is a good indication of how fragile the king’s ego was. 

It’s more important to be a wife than a bride.

Esther was eventually crowned queen out of all the young women who applied for the position. On the day she was crowned, I imagine there was a huge celebration with lots of music and wine— similar to modern weddings but with one difference:

Esther went through a lengthy process of learning to be a queen before she was worthy to wear the crown. For 12 months she purified herself, applied beauty treatments, and learned how to impress the king.

Just about every modern woman dreams of her wedding day long before she has a suitor. She plans the color scheme, the cake flavors, and the song that will play as she walks down the aisle.

But how many women dream about what is supposed to happen in the years after saying “I do?”

There’s nothing wrong with planning the perfect wedding day, but it’s more important to learn how to communicate effectively, manage a household budget, and master the forgotten art of cooking.

We live in a society that puts more effort into extravagant one-day weddings than preparing to be a wife forever. And who can blame us. It’s really easy to get distracted by the idea of being a beautiful bride who is the center of attention.

But Esther didn’t go into the palace on day 1 planning a lavish wedding ceremony. She was more focused on what it would take to walk side-by- side with the king, long term.

She took the time to learn the position before she took the position.

Along with dreaming of the perfect wedding day, go further and dream of the perfect marriage.  Then do your part to make it happen.

How To Prepare to be a Wife

For 12 months, each woman had to purify herself and apply beauty treatments. Only at the end of 12 months would each woman get a chance to impress the king.

Twelve months of purification and beauty treatments sound rather vain— even by today’s standards.

But what if you took the time to beautify yourself on the inside? What if you took more time to make yourself attractive mentally and spiritually before getting married?

In modern times, we don’t have attendants and hand maidens to teach us how to be wives. But we do have the Bible, pastors, books, and blogs like this : )

What can you do now to prepare you to be the queen forever?

Marcee Woodard

Marcee Woodard

Visit her at preparingtolove.com
Marcee Woodard is a Christian Counselor who guides single women through self-discovery and teaches them how to love so that they can attract the relationships they deserve.
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33 Comments

33 Comments

  1. Hlulani Mthabini

    June 1, 2017 at 4:47 am

    so true, Amen

  2. Siwe Phiwe Hlongwane

    May 31, 2017 at 4:25 pm

    That’s true

  3. Analisa Marie

    May 31, 2017 at 11:43 am

    Kayla Cook

  4. Priya Raj Shukla

    May 31, 2017 at 8:31 am

    Superb lesson given from Esther’s life to improve yourself on many areas of life…. Thank u Lord

  5. Crys Skelton

    May 31, 2017 at 12:50 am

    Mary

  6. Holli Ingram

    May 30, 2017 at 11:41 pm

    Jessica Saragusa

  7. Terry Daley

    May 30, 2017 at 11:33 pm

    Amen

  8. Elizabeth Hill

    May 30, 2017 at 9:48 pm

    Daphne MaKayla

  9. Crystal L. Dorbin

    May 30, 2017 at 4:52 pm

    Amen!

  10. Monica Makuvise

    May 30, 2017 at 4:11 pm

    Amen an true

  11. Kathy Morgan

    May 30, 2017 at 3:46 pm

    Yes we do

  12. Nyaradzai Margaret

    May 30, 2017 at 2:31 pm

    God bless you

  13. Kate Dasco

    May 30, 2017 at 2:19 pm

    Amen

  14. Υβέτ Ασεβέδο

    May 30, 2017 at 1:59 pm

    Beautify yourself on the inside. Yes! Inviting God to beautify me by cleansing and changing my heart and mind and showing me how to become the woman He created me to be.

  15. Tintin BroñoLa Sabuya Muga

    May 30, 2017 at 1:27 pm

  16. Bonnie Carter

    May 30, 2017 at 12:30 pm

    Kennedy Carter

  17. Chioma Sandra Ezeribe

    May 30, 2017 at 12:14 pm

    Yeah !

  18. Rachel M Gichuru

    May 30, 2017 at 12:14 pm

    Sarah Pinochio

  19. Mai Chidochashe

    May 30, 2017 at 12:12 pm

    Raquel Albino

  20. Vickie Moss

    May 30, 2017 at 11:42 am

    Prepare me O Lord to be a wife who will love cherish honor and respect my future husband.

  21. Wendy Creamer Calhoon

    May 30, 2017 at 11:29 am

    Jana Calhoon

  22. Lia Wilkins

    May 30, 2017 at 10:22 am

    Kim Colclough ❤

  23. Claudia Angel Edwards

    May 30, 2017 at 10:20 am

    Ruthie Ruth Birech Sharon

  24. Cristina Albanez

    May 30, 2017 at 10:12 am

    Vale a pena ler!

  25. Georgina Corlett

    May 30, 2017 at 10:10 am

    Beth McGlashan

  26. Bertha Motlalepula Makuyana

    May 30, 2017 at 8:23 am

    Good reminder,we always need His Grace even when happy or having challenges

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  28. Elly Grace B. Paran

    May 30, 2017 at 8:18 am

    But what if you took the time to beautify yourself on the inside? What if you took more time to make yourself attractive mentally and spiritually before getting married?–b4 getting raptured…

  29. Elly Grace B. Paran

    May 30, 2017 at 8:16 am

    communicate effectively, manage a household budget, and master the forgotten art of cooking. –my score is low…

  30. Pauline Parchment

    May 30, 2017 at 8:14 am

    Pray for me please thank you God bless

  31. Carla

    September 16, 2016 at 6:06 am

    I learned to love myself first.

  32. diana

    August 17, 2016 at 10:56 pm

    Thank goodness I am married to a man with more integrity and decency than him. Throwing you wife away just because once she doesnt do as you ask, is not the action of a good moral man.

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