3 Straightforward Ways to Pray For Your Frenemies


3 Ways to Pray For Your Frenemies

Frenemies- Most of us have had them, but how do we pray for them?

Life is sometimes not easy to navigate, but with God’s guidance we can show His love to those in our life who need it the most.

There are people that we will meet in life who mirror an image of a true friend.

However, at times we can discover that the friendship mirror is actually broken. It’s not built on a firm foundation of love and trust.

Some friends can even harbor feelings of anger or resentment towards us. They may have even hardened their hearts, wishing us harm instead of good.

Speaking plainly, a frenemy, is a ‘fake friend’. I’m sure we can all relate to a time when we thought we had a genuine friend, only to realize that the friendship was never true or valid.

If we’re honest, at times, we may have been that person too.

Here are 3 ways to pray for our Frenemies…

praying for frenemies

1. Ask God to show you, His heart in yours.

‘’Lord, reveal to me the transparency of my heart and soften my heart in love towards this person’’.

Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God.’’ (1 John 4:7)

“Everyone who loves God, is born of God”. If we love God, we are called to love others too. Even those who may gossip, harm or hurt us in their actions or words.

This does not mean that we need to be best friends with everyone, but keep in mind that our witness in love should be greater than our anger in hate.

Even though our feelings of hurt are legitimate; we need to give them to God and love our frenemies.

And though, at times, we may need to surrender an unhealthy friendship to the Lord, we still need to pray for those who hurt us.

Checking our heart is not bitter but rather coated in the love and grace of Christ.

When our heart is in the right place, true and bona fide healing can take place.

praying for frenemies

2. Surrender the situation to the Savior and give thanks.

“Lord, how can I show them Your love?’’

Rejoice always,  pray without ceasing,  in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.’’ (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 )

Encountering daily situations in life with family members, work colleagues or friends can be difficult, but God’s word tells us to, “give thanks in all circumstances’’.

By giving thanks in all circumstances we can take the time to see God’s perspective in the challenging moments of relational life.

Whenever we are in a difficult situation or relationship, we need to ask God to show us how He can use it so that we can become more like Him, loving others as the mirror of Christ.

As we pray for our frenemies it changes our own heart, allowing us to focus on God’s will through the situation. Through doing this we can learn how to surrender it to Him, and not fix it in our own strength.

praying for frenemies

3. Ask God what can you do to bless this person.

‘’Dear Lord, what can I do for this person to show them You care for them?’’.

“Do not rejoice when your enemy falls, And do not let your heart be glad when he stumbles’’ (Proverbs 24:17)

When someone has hurt me, at times; I feel like I want to hurt them too. Or at least, if they stumble, there is a part of my human nature that doesn’t feel so sorry for them.

I remember in grade school, I was bullied. The two most popular girls in school invited me over for a play-date.

However, I soon realized they invited me over as a cruel joke and at 8 years old, they told me, “We’re the princesses and you’re the maid; you’ll never be one of us.’’ I ran home crying and my recess times were spent alone for the rest of my grade school years.

After that, a part of me wanted them to stumble. They had hurt me dreadfully and it took me years to truly forgive them in my heart.

Through growing in my own faith, I realized that when someone hurts us (though painful), we need to not take joy when they stumble and fall. 

Rather we need to help them in brotherly love and show them the true heart of Christ. Doing good unto them as Christ has done to us.

In the end, when we face ‘frenemies’, we love them, forgive them, do good unto them and treat them with brotherly love. After all isn’t that what Christ has done for us?

‘’But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return; and your reward will be great’’ (Luke 6:35)

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Alicia Mckenzie is a writer and speaker seeking to encourage women in embracing their calling to live in their purpose for Christ.

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Leave me alone please….thank you

Its true

But is 2ru

Jane Bornholm a good read and one to act out even though it’s hard to do. But with God within us anything is possible!

Hannah Magat

Great Advice


Great just take it to Jesus he will repay but we are to pray for enemies

I’ve had them live in my home, borrow money that I didn’t see again, make up all sorts of lies, and pretend to be the victim when it all fell down around their ears. God bless them. They will need it.

thank you Lord for continuing to keep my heart. help me to remain sober in all areas, give me immense courage, and help me do better guarding my heart. We are crucified with Christ, NEVERTHELESS I LIVE, yet not I but Christ liveth in me. Forever grateful!

So true!!!

When it comes to that god be testing u out to see how strong your u either stick with man r work with god

Very true.my family has a frenemy.when my mum and sibling’s were going through tough times.she always comes around.surprisingly, things turned around, she stopped coming and started cooking up all sorts of stories.

Experienced a few of them Being away with friends and acquaintances brings out the true colours in ppl. O my gosh how insecure can ppl get.


So true. There are people that envy you going to the beauty parlor. The truly dangerous frenemy envy you for having had parents because they didn’t have parents. Sad souls.

Syntiche Brenny Bittaa

well spoken

Amen to that ! As for me and my household, I’m gone trust in the Lord. Sometimes you gotta love people from afar.

Keep a distance

Say it. Very disappointing and unnerving when you notice those that you thought would be clapping have their arms folded.

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