Unless the LORD builds the house, those who build it labor in vain. Unless the LORD watches over the city, the watchman stays awake in vain. – Psalm 127:1
One of the most disheartening things for me is a woman who doesn’t know her worth.
Most times I can only shake my head and say a silent prayer. On other occasions, I try to get a word in, share a little bit of wisdom with them, even sharing my own personal experiences at times.
Just remember, God’s way is always the best way! When we step out of God’s will we open ourselves up for all kinds of trouble.
Here are 4 things to remember when you step outside of God’s will…
1. Your body is a temple
Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own – 1 Corinthians 6:19
You are not a car on a parking lot for sale. Don’t let a man ‘test-drive’ you (nor you him). He’s not your husband and God designed sex to be between husband and wife. As one saying goes “stop giving your boyfriend husband privileges”.
Your body is God’s temple; the place where the Holy Spirit dwells (if you are a Christian). Paul says that all other sins are outside of the body but sexual sin is against it (1 Corinthians 6:18).
If you have to give it up to keep him and compromise your values…Maybe it’s time to re-evaluate your relationship with him as well as your relationship with God.
Which relationship has priority in your life? Don’t sell yourself short. Know your worth!
2. Red flags are there for a reason
Because I have called and you refused to listen, have stretched out my hand and no one has heeded, because you have ignored all my counsel and would have none of my reproof, I also will laugh at your calamity; I will mock when terror strikes you, when terror strikes you like a storm and your calamity comes like a whirlwind, when distress and anguish come upon you. – Proverbs 1:24-27
Don’t ignore the red flags. They are God’s way of protecting you from something you can’t see.
If God does not approve of your relationship, believe you me – He will let you know. You just have to listen and act accordingly.
Don’t accept lying and cheating as a part of a relationship.
Sometimes we are so caught up in him that we are blinded by love. Accept nothing less than honesty and commitment. Know your worth!
3. There will be wolves in sheep’s clothing
Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience. – Ephesians 5:6
Beware of the man who’s willing to go to church and become a Christian just so that YOU can be comfortable in the relationship. This is dangerous and has the potential to backfire since he has no solid spiritual foundation.
As he becomes relaxed in the relationship, there is the strong possibility that he may revert to his old ways and where will that leave you?
Where would that leave the relationship?
Wait on God for the Godly man He’s preparing for you and you for him.
4. Separated is still married
Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. – Hebrews 13:4
Please leave the married man alone… he’s not yours!
God’s word is clear about adultery. The Bible is full of scriptures that warn us against adultery. It is so serious that there was a time when women were put to death because of it. Vows made before God are no joking matter.
The Bible is clear “You shall not commit adultery.” – Exodus 20:14
Why do you want a man who can only give you SOME of his time; a few hours a day maybe while sneaking around?
Why settle for the broken promises since his allegiance is to his wife?
Oh right…you don’t want a commitment right now so this works for you? Come on sis, want more for yourself. Know your worth!
Just remember, God’s way is always the best way!