Your belief system greatly impacts the quality of your relationships. What you believe is possible in terms of commitment, love, trust, and happiness, is possible. And what you don’t believe is possible is terms of love and relationships, is not.
Simply put, your belief system lays the foundation for your entire experience in love. You have to believe something is possible in order to make it a reality.
Because our beliefs strongly influence our lives, a crucial step in finding love is confronting the limiting beliefs you have about relationships.
Below are three of the main limiting beliefs that keep love at a distance. If you identify with these statements, take the necessary steps to shift what you believe. Doing so will transform your entire experience in love.
1. I’m too ______ to be loved.
Fill in the blank with whatever unimportant detail you want: old, young, fat, thin, dark, light, whatever. I’m not saying this to minimize your experience, but I am making the point that there’s nothing about you that makes you unlovable. That’s all in your mind.
Lovability has nothing to do with physical characteristics, or any other quality of the personality. It has nothing to do with your past or your future. It’s not dependent on your age, your degrees, or the amount of money you make.
Your ability to experience love with another person has to do with one thing only: your belief that you are lovable.
If you believe you’re not lovable because of certain qualities or traits, you’re going to experience that in your relationships. But if you can recognize that you’re inherently lovable, then you have no choice but to see and feel love in your life, as well.
2. Love hasn’t worked in my past, so why would it work now?
Many of us are carrying baggage from the past that causes us to fear intimacy. This is natural — we’ve been hurt and we don’t want it to happen again!
But think about it: if you’re constantly re-living the past by fearing the same experience today, then it isn’t in the past at all. It’s your current reality.
If you can simply shift your belief system from, Relationships don’t work for me, to I have struggled in the past, but I’m determined to grow and get better at relationships, you’ve already added so much hope into this area of your life. This simple shift will make a huge difference in the success you’ll feel in your love life.
3. No one is going to love me that much.
Really? I beg to differ!
You are incredibly lovable. Yeah, you! But until you know this, you’re not going to be able to accept love from another person. It’s just a fact.
If you secretly doubt that another person can love you the way you want to be loved, then you are keeping love at a distance. If this is the case for you please take a moment to do the following exercise:
Close your eyes, take a few deep breaths and repeat these mantras, from your heart:
I am lovable.
I am deserving of love.
I am worthy of love.
Are you able to feel the truth of those statements in your heart? Keep practicing to shift the internal belief that love is not a possibility for you. I promise you, when you believe you are lovable, that love will be mirrored back to you by others, too.
Remember, you’re beliefs are very powerful; they’ll influence and shape your life. In order to shift your experience in love, you must start by shifting your beliefs. Know that great love is a possibility for you, and you’re on your way to making it a reality.
Please leave a comment below and share just one limiting belief that’s keeping love at a distance for you, and how you are going to shift it.