Don’t Let The World Make You Bitter


Wherever you are, no matter what the weather may be like, it’s a beautiful day!!! Claim it!

So here it goes! I FOUND OUT WEDNESDAY THAT WE ARE HAVING A LIL MAMA! AHHHHHH!!!! Instantly I became nervous because I have 2 sons. “What am I going to do with a girl,” I thought. Yes I actually said that! Almost every woman’s dream is to have a “lil mama”, but for whatever reason I begged to differ. I thought about the cards I was dealt in this life before coming to Christ. Although my life was not very hard-knock, I had several heart issues (from a psychological stand point). I am naturally a “stuffer”, meaning I stuff my emotions instead of being vulnerable and letting them out. I understand that OUR daughter is made up of me as well as my husband’s DNA, but I was in my feelings and just thinking about ME! I was afraid that she would suffer the same types of heartache I did. In the midst of all of these emotions I forgot how blessed I am, and that she is such a precious jewel from God. My husband was ecstatic and I was moping around, truly in fear of her life. We received so much encouragement from our family and friends, and a light bulb went off for me. Seeing these people so happy and excited about the arrival of “lil mama” allowed me to see our blessing from God! He sets the times and places for everything; he makes everything beautiful in its time (Ecclesiastes 3:11).

As I reflect on the ultrasound, I’m reminded of the gentleness of God! How much he has protected me, and spared my life. He has used me to give life to 2 human beings. I cannot fathom his love if I tried. Let’s not get started on the grace he’s given me. My brain will explode if I even try to understand that!

Philippians 4:5 says, “Let your gentleness be evident to all”. I believe it is so important for us, as women, to imitate God in this way. We are known to be “unstable creatures”, when in fact we are just complex creatures. Being a complex creature is a beautiful thing because it means God took his time and put more into our genetic make-up. He gently designed us. He designed us to be vulnerable, and gave us vulnerable body parts. The problem I see in myself as well as other women is we treat ourselves as the opposite of what God intended us to be. We’ve had a ton of help in destroying God’s intended purpose for us, from the Garden of Eden to present day. It’s uncommon in this day and age for a woman to be gentle in everything she does. We are usually beyond aggressive in way or another, for various reasons, whether it’s our attitude in the work place, or toward our children, and even our sexual response. We are becoming more and more like MEN! Scary huh?

1 Peter 3: 3-4 “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight”.

The greatest beauty secret in the world is allowing the gentleness God created in you to be evident to all! Also learning to be quiet in spirit is powerful for a woman. It requires humility, point blank! If you cannot humble yourself before God, you will NEVER humble yourself for any human-being. Ladies let’s get our lives, the way God intended! As I continue to work on my heart and learn through God’s word and grace how to be gentler, I pray our daughter will exude the gentleness of Christ. I pray the same for you!