In need of some advice. I’ve always been a big girl. My husband didn’t have a problem with my weight when we married, but after having 3 kids, I gained a little more weight than to his liking. He stopped having sex with me. He was verbally abusive. He called me all kind of fat names and even threatened to divorce me if I didn’t lose the weight. My weight has never been an issue to me. A year ago, I was diagnosed with diabetes and that’s when my weight became an issue to me. I had Gastric Bypass Surgery and have lost a total of 152 lbs. Now my husband is all over me, loving me, but he keeps throwing it up in my face that he was with me when nobody else wanted me. He says that since I lost weight, I am disrespectful to him. To be honest, he might be right. I have so much anger towards him for not loving me when I was a big girl. I feel like he only loves the skinny me. Not for better or worse. Like the old saying goes “If you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best”. I’ve prayed for God to take these feelings away, but I’m having a hard time loving my husband now that the tables have turned.
Am I wrong for feeling like this?