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The “Perfect” Man

Man with his Girlfriend

Man with his Girlfriend

I recently watched ‘The Perfect Man’, and realized that I used to be just like Sanaa Lathan’s character.

At one point it seemed like I constantly dwelled on settling down and getting married.

I analyzed most men that crossed my path as potential partners,  I had a checklist in my mind and literally checked off likes and dislikes by the first date looking for the qualified perfect man for me.

Soon some of my friends were getting married, this didn’t help my case at all, the pressure was on. I kept thinking  “God, what about me?

It was a frustrating season in my life. To know exactly what you want, pray for it all day, and yet see no results is annoying.

But God, The Bible says you will give me the desires of my heart” I would think to myself. 

The bible also says “Ask, and you will receive.

I didn’t understand what was going on. I focused my heart so much on what I wanted, that I forgot what I already had! Society plays a huge part in this mess. Most women are under pressure to get married and start a family, almost as if there is a deadline for love.

 But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.” (Matthew 6:33)

Sometimes we want something so badly that we focus all of our mind on it, and unfortunately end up pushing God to the side. If we seek God wholeheartedly, then our needs and the desires of our heart will be taken care of.

I found that once I focused on God, the right people started to come into my life, and the important things that I needed started to come into my life.

A crown that is meant for you will be yours regardless of time or circumstances. You just have to show that you are spiritually mature enough to wear that crown.

At a time when I only craved marriage, it wasn’t really what I needed, it was just what I thought I needed to be fulfilled. I think about it now, and I see that I wasn’t spiritually mature enough to handle all that marriage has to offer.  

When we look at the biblical stories of women like Ruth and Esther, we find that when they sought after God and made Him their priority, they received a blessing beyond their wildest dreams.  

Look at Hannah’s story for example, for many years she cried and prayed for a son, but once she showed selflessness and promised “to give him to the Lord for all the days of his life” God opened her womb and blessed her with Samuel.

God knows our heart and knows our needs. All we need to do is seek Him first and trust His will. Love starts internally.

When you start longing for a king, just remember the King of Kings and honor Him with your life first. Focus on God and everything that is meant for you, will come to you.

“The LORD will perfect that which concerns me”. (Psalm 138:8)