6 Personality Traits of The Proverbs 31 Woman

proverbs 31 woman

The description of the Proverbs 31 woman begins with a question…

“Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies”. (Proverbs 31:10)

I thought to myself, is this a rhetorical question, is she really out there? Yes, and she can be you as you yield your life to Jesus.  My second question was why does the Bible compare this woman to rubies? Rubies are considered one of the four most precious stones in the world.  The finest ruby is best described as being a vivid medium-dark toned red and is typically the most expensive.

In hardness, the ruby is actually the 2nd strongest gem the first is a diamond. Needless to say a ruby is definitely something special which is why I am not surprised it is compared to this Proverbs 31 woman. In the bible the word rubies were mentioned a few other times and mostly in reference to wisdom. I think it is safe to say that this Proverbs 31 woman was definitely a wise woman. You might be asking yourself what is a Proverbs 31 Woman?

Here are 6 Traits of The Proverbs 31 Woman we should all aspire to be…

1. The Proverbs 31 Woman invests in her husband

Verse 11 and 12: “Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.”

This Proverbs 31 Wife invested in her husband. I don’t find it strange that that is listed first why because that’s how God intended it to be. She knew how valuable her husband is and how much he needed her to be a woman that builds him not and not tears him down, but a woman that encourages him.

Part of me believes he became the well-known man because she invested in making sure she built him up everywhere she went. When she’s with her friends I’m sure she wasn’t talking down about him but instead highlighting his great attributes. She spoke LIFE into him and his life was enriched because of it.

My husband is a drummer, not only is it his God given talent but part of his ministry as well. It is what he finds joy and fulfillment in doing. My job among many other things is to build him up encourage him. There were times when he messed up on a song or at an event and felt down about it. That was my clue to step in, and invest in him by building him back up to where he needed to be through encouragement, and sometimes prayer.

We are chosen not only by God but by our husbands to be a Help meet not a hurt meet. Investing in your husband is key to becoming a Proverbs 31 wife.

2. The Proverbs 31 Woman invests in her community

Verse 16-19, 24: “She goes to inspect a field and buys it; with her earnings she plants a vineyard. She is energetic and strong, a hard worker. She makes sure her dealings are profitable; her lamp burns late into the night. Her hands are busy spinning thread, her fingers twisting fiber.  She makes belted linen garments and sashes to sell to the merchants.”

This woman was clearly an awesome worker and was even a great employer because she carefully planned out the schedule of her servant girls. She didn’t let a moment slip away because she knew time is money. I love that she was loyal to her job and it showed because her earnings was enough for her to plant a vineyard. This woman had it going on. Her “hands were busy spinning thread” not her mouth. She spent her time working on the job not gossiping.

As we are representing Christ in the workplace we need to make sure our work ethics and conversations are good and pleasant as described in Philippians 4:8. We are known by the fruit that we bear as stated in St. Matthew 7:16 make sure the fruit that you bear is worth eating.

3. The Proverbs 31 Woman invests in her family

Verse 15, 21 and 27: “She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household. She has no fear of winter for her household, for everyone has warm clothes. She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness.”

As much as it may seem a curse to some, children are a blessing from God as stated in Psalms 127:3. I am not a mother so I don’t know the ends and out of motherhood but I do believe God gives each mother a measure of patience and heart to handle what they may endure through their journey.

This Proverbs 31 Mother made sure her household was taken care of and often times I am sure she placed her family before herself. She made sure each child had duties, chores and was responsible as stated, nothing suffered from laziness in her household.

Mothers are so special and vital in their child’s life. You are the first person to teach them how to love, the first person to teach them about God. You are blessed with the opportunity to train them up to make a difference in this world. Please do not take this for granted and appreciate the gift(s) that God has blessed you with.

As the Proverbs 31 woman turned into a wife, then a mother, her role becomes even greater than before

4. The Proverbs 31 Woman invests in the poor

Verse 20: “She extends a helping hand to the poor and opens her arms to the needy”.

Think about it when was the last time you helped someone in need. I’m not referring to a family member but someone that had no money or no food. I understand many women including myself are very careful about giving rides to people or giving money to someone on the street but when you walk with God, he will nudge you and let you know “Hey give that person a few dollars” or “Take some food by that person’s house”. Be mindful and careful when dealing with the poor because most are broken vessel that just needs someone to invest in them.

If you can’t or don’t feel comfort giving them money, then just say a prayer for them or drop some food off to them. Make sure you speak with respect to them and treat them like a human being and not trash on the ground. Use wisdom and allow God to lead and direct you.

I could only imagine that when this Proverbs 31 woman extended her arm and opened her hands to the poor, she was at a position to receive more from God. I’m sure her intentions were pure and not for attention or accolades. God says in his word (2nd Corinthians. 9:7), he loves a cheerful giver! And that it is more blessed to give to then to receive.

5. The Proverbs 31 Woman invests in herself and her future:

Verse 22 and 25:She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns. She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future”.

Purple is a color of royalty. During this time it was a symbolization of wealth. The Proverbs 31 woman not only knew how to dress but she used the finest of linen. However that wasn’t what defined her, it was what she put on inside. She was clothes with strength and dignity. This woman knew she was a daughter of the One True King Jesus and did not feel shamed or embarrassed about it. She had integrity and character that made her beautiful on the inside out.

It’s not always about having a lot of money to buy the finest things but it’s the state of your heart that will get you where money can’t take you. She was so confident that she laughed in the face of fear. You may ask how I can laugh when the bills are due and I don’t have enough money to make this month’s mortgage.

The scripture states in St. Matthew 6:25 states “Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment?”

You may not have an understanding of how things are going work out but have the boldest of confidence in your Lord and Savior Jesus Christ because the same way he took care of the sparrows he can take care of you. A Proverbs 31 woman puts her complete trust and faith in her God.

6. The Proverbs 31 Woman invest in other women (church)

Verse 26: “When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness”.

Have you ever met someone and it seemed as if every word that came out of their mouth was like honey, it just gave you life? Have you ever left a conversation empowered and ready to take on the world? This is the type of woman God wants us to be. A woman of virtue and integrity as stated before.

God wants us to inspire other women to empower them. It’s time to start building each other up. We live in a society now where the music industry, movies and TV shows tear down the image of a woman from a beautiful work of art created by God himself into a sex object and a portrait of women that don’t recognize their own strengths and the power they has within. God is calling us out to be “separate” as stated in 2 Corinthians 6:17. We are the light of this world and until we stop tearing each other apart we will not see the power of unity.

Paul and Silas was delivered because of PRAYING women. This Proverbs 31 woman knew her worth and it wasn’t in man but it was in God. She invested what she learned into others to build them up. She wasn’t jealous or bitter towards other women but spoke wisdom and life into them. And now she is seen as the ideal example of a Woman of God.

Saviela E. Thorne

Saviela E. Thorne

Saviela is the author of "Seasons of a Woman's Life: Devotionals to Empower Women to Become Overcomers". She loves to encourage and empower women through her life experiences.
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  1. Ntshumeleni Maliga

    May 5, 2017 at 7:30 pm

    He has taken shame away, we called women again. Loving this..

  2. Ntshumeleni Maliga

    May 5, 2017 at 7:30 pm


  3. Janice Kater Jackson

    May 3, 2017 at 12:35 am

    Praise the LORD!

  4. Robert Mcneese

    May 2, 2017 at 6:12 pm

    Carrie Mcneese

  5. Geraldine Mothopeng

    May 2, 2017 at 6:09 pm

    So very true!!!!!!

  6. Veronica Mcdaniel

    May 2, 2017 at 3:32 pm

    Praying and Waiting ❤

  7. Veronica Mcdaniel

    May 2, 2017 at 3:31 pm

  8. Nuggets Darbouze

    May 2, 2017 at 3:30 pm

    Excellent wisdom it has been my desire since learning this bible verse at the tender age of 18 years old to become this woman as well as teach my daughter’s and all women I come in contact with Proverbs 31.
    This bible verse is a gift and treasure from Our Heavenly Father to show his percious daughters how to represent the Kingdom of Our Heavenly Father here on earth.

  9. Pauline Wambui

    May 2, 2017 at 2:55 pm

    nice one

  10. Dikeledi Tsuela

    May 2, 2017 at 1:48 pm

    Hallelujah Jesus

  11. Lukong Claire

    May 2, 2017 at 8:05 am

    the looks is ok but the most important treasure we ought to look and see into/through is the heart(good heart that fears God).a good look and charm with a nasty and evil heart is nothing.

  12. Priyansha Sharma

    May 2, 2017 at 7:53 am

    Reetika Raj Steffy M. Haric Karishma Kaur Preeti Rose Sarah Nathan Sonia Mathew

  13. May Allende Ombwayo

    May 2, 2017 at 7:20 am

    Amen, so true.

  14. Ong Victorious

    May 2, 2017 at 7:15 am

    Amen and Amen ! Hallelujah !!! Praise The Lord !!! Thank You Lord. All Glory To God !!! ❤❤❤⚘⚘⚘

  15. Ellah Reu Cabaya

    May 2, 2017 at 6:37 am

    Inspiring…thank you

  16. Eva Williams

    May 2, 2017 at 6:09 am

    Thanks, Well now I no

  17. Yolly Domulot Torrecampo

    May 2, 2017 at 5:22 am


  18. Trish Roberts

    May 2, 2017 at 4:57 am

    Dee Roberts

  19. Nila Salva

    May 2, 2017 at 1:20 am

    So,true! Amen<3

  20. Nihaima Stamper

    May 2, 2017 at 12:41 am

    Yes Amen

  21. Cynthia Washington

    May 2, 2017 at 12:25 am


  22. Penny R. Janson

    May 2, 2017 at 12:00 am

    31 is not a condemnation but a husband basking in the wonderful gift of his wife

  23. Dayna Blake

    May 1, 2017 at 10:53 pm

    Great read Stephanie Cole Juline Whyte Shaniel Morgan Janiel Beckford

  24. Ronda Perona Hayes

    May 1, 2017 at 9:06 pm

    Starkeisha Owens

  25. Bon Padigos

    May 1, 2017 at 8:51 pm

    ah ito pala yun! Uy Harge

    • Uy Harge

      May 2, 2017 at 1:22 am

      Yes Bon Padigos. Hehe 🙂

    • Bon Padigos

      May 2, 2017 at 10:04 am

      but what about a proverbs man haha

    • Uy Harge

      May 2, 2017 at 11:01 am

      Marami din sa Bible hehehe… hindi lang sa proverbs

    • Bon Padigos

      May 2, 2017 at 11:10 am

      send mo saken pls haha

    • Uy Harge

      May 2, 2017 at 11:10 am

      Un lang ndi ko memorize hahaha.

  26. DeAnna Ridley Keller

    May 1, 2017 at 8:37 pm

    Heather Montford King and Cassie Whiddon Ridley, I see you two in this!

  27. Fiona Ryan

    May 1, 2017 at 8:30 pm

    Yes this is me 🙂

  28. Jennifer Gmaw Kerr

    May 1, 2017 at 8:11 pm

    Sue Augspurger Molitor

  29. Alicia Marroquin

    May 1, 2017 at 7:52 pm


  30. Andra Racovitan

    May 1, 2017 at 7:49 pm

    Glad you liked it. Thought of you right away❤

  31. Rita Salinas

    May 1, 2017 at 7:46 pm

    The lord is my Shepard, and I shall not want….. Live according to god’s ways, he will provide

  32. Helen Jessica Indries

    May 1, 2017 at 7:44 pm

    Thank Andra Racovitan this was a good read!!!

  33. Brina Doc

    May 1, 2017 at 7:21 pm

    So True

  34. Marita Kramp

    May 1, 2017 at 7:02 pm

    Sabrina E Waterberg

  35. Andra Racovitan

    May 1, 2017 at 6:50 pm

    Alison Litzsey-Etherly ❤

  36. Shalon Taylor Wilson

    May 1, 2017 at 6:42 pm

    Amen. Great article! Please have editors double check for grammatical errors.

  37. Barbara Tifflin

    May 1, 2017 at 6:21 pm

    Beautiful article. A must read.

  38. Lekeya Sayles

    May 1, 2017 at 6:13 pm

    Excellent read… Lord help me to exhibit this from the inside out. I ain’t perfect but willing! ❤

  39. Peace Ugwu

    May 1, 2017 at 6:11 pm

    Indispensable words of wisdom

  40. Wambui Mainah

    May 1, 2017 at 6:05 pm

    Wow, inspiring.

  41. Rosalie Gonzalez

    May 1, 2017 at 6:00 pm

    Amen.. Charm will give you nothing but tears..

  42. Missp Missp

    May 1, 2017 at 5:59 pm

    oooh how i love this verse,thank you

  43. Wilberforce K Ndejjo

    May 1, 2017 at 5:52 pm


  44. Pinky Moeng

    May 1, 2017 at 5:44 pm


  45. Leah Gina Ramboyong

    May 1, 2017 at 5:44 pm

    Amen to that

  46. Abigail Harding

    May 1, 2017 at 5:42 pm


  47. Julia Makgekgenene

    May 1, 2017 at 5:40 pm


  48. Sophia Kater Benson

    May 1, 2017 at 5:40 pm

    Janice Kater Jackson

  49. Terry Daley

    May 1, 2017 at 5:26 pm

    Thank you Jesus Amen

  50. Nahomi Paramo

    May 1, 2017 at 5:25 pm

    We are the woman that we are pretty we are…

  51. Bobbie Deal

    May 1, 2017 at 5:17 pm


  52. Danica Elizabeth Henry

    May 1, 2017 at 5:15 pm

    Leeah George

  53. Stella Cheeks

    May 1, 2017 at 5:15 pm


  54. Garmei Kennedy

    May 1, 2017 at 5:13 pm


  55. Cristiana Paez

    May 1, 2017 at 5:12 pm

    Gloria Paez Ada Sophia Lupita Paez Hernandez Estrella Paez Martinez
    #MOM ❤️

  56. Steve Fowler

    May 1, 2017 at 5:12 pm

    Ladies whomever reads this page make sure to take a few moments to look over the traits of the Proverbs 31 Woman.

  57. Rheetah Bakyayita

    May 1, 2017 at 5:12 pm

    Halleluiah. ….

  58. Nanan Moiane

    May 1, 2017 at 5:11 pm


  59. Emu Yegeta Lij

    May 1, 2017 at 5:10 pm


  60. Salvation Thabo Kebonang

    May 1, 2017 at 5:06 pm


  61. Denise Jackson

    May 1, 2017 at 5:05 pm

    I remember dating this guy,I was just blown away by his charm,and told him as much…He ended up being one of most evil,ugly,narcissistic(which is just a demon plain an simple)beings I EVER met,beware of charm,test the Spirit by the Spirit to be sure it’s genuine

    • Amber Dewitz

      May 1, 2017 at 5:15 pm

      Same 🙁

    • Denise Jackson

      May 1, 2017 at 5:16 pm

      Amber Dewitz I pray you are better, believe me,I know what they can do…

    • Zoé Louise

      May 1, 2017 at 5:26 pm

      I have known my fair share of charming beings! Absolutely toxic. After years and years of not getting involved with anyone as I hadn’t met anyone right, I thought I had. 3 months I allowed this poisonous man in my life. When the mask slips you’re right demonic is what was left. Xx

    • Melinda H Welker

      May 1, 2017 at 5:28 pm

      Amen sister! Same here! Incredible isn’t it.

    • Denise Jackson

      May 1, 2017 at 5:28 pm

      Absolutely Zoe Zoé Louise,when the mask slips,things get UGLY..

    • Denise Jackson

      May 1, 2017 at 5:29 pm

      It really is Melinda H Welker..

    • Zoé Louise

      May 1, 2017 at 10:22 pm

      It’s amazing how someone can look so beautiful on the outside but when they show you who they really are, are truly ugly in every way possible. Thankful that God bought me through it. I’m stronger for it and learned a lesson xx

    • Denise Jackson

      May 1, 2017 at 10:37 pm

      Amen sister

    • Renae Elizabeth

      May 2, 2017 at 12:02 am

      So true!

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