3 Steps To Break Free From Ungodly Relationships

Break Free From Ungodly Relationships


3 Steps To Break Free From Ungodly Relationships…

There are many reasons you may be in the midst of a toxic, unhealthy, or ungodly relationship or in the process of getting over one.

A toxic relationship is any relationship that cripples your ability to flourish in God’s purpose and plan for your life.

There is one theme that has always rang true for me as it relates to toxic relationships: I did not seek God before entering into the relationship.

It was always a relationship that I chose because it lined up with my desires at the time, which were very far from God’s desires.

No matter how right they feel, some relationships are better left in the past. Here are 3 Steps To Break Free From Ungodly Relationships…

Ask yourself this very crucial question: Did God approve the relationship to begin with?

If you are currently in a relationship that is draining the life from you, your first step should be an evaluation. How did you get there? I can guarantee you it wasn’t God who brought the two of you together.

God only ordains or approves relationships that are designed to help us live out our God-given purpose.

Any relationship that does contrary is most likely one we have chosen and choose to remain in because of our own personal wants and desires.

If you are in a relationship that God did not approve, it’s not the end of the world! It may actually be the beginning of something very liberating, if you can find the strength to admit your error.

The truth will make you free, and it will begin to lift the burden that you have been carrying around.

Only listen to Godly counsel.

The second thing you must do if you are trying to break free from a toxic relationship is:

When you are dealing with very stressful situations, it is your first inclination to seek the opinion of friends and family. There is nothing wrong with that if they are giving you Godly counsel.

But if they are just telling you what they personally think and feel, you are going to remain bound.

Friends and family mean well most of the time. Because we often want to please them and not upset them, we follow their advice even when God is speaking something totally different.

Don’t label fear as confusion.

The third thing that is important for you to know if you are trying to break free from a toxic relationship:Don’t label fear as confusion.

Often times when we begin to seek God about a situation that could change the course of our lives, He will speak something to us that we were not expecting.

When it comes to a relationship that we have chosen to remain in despite its toxic nature, we are overtaken with fear if God tells us to walk away. Instead of admitting we are fearful, we say “I am confused.”

Labeling fear as confusion feels better because it continues to justify our reason for not leaving. Listen to me closely, God NEVER intends for you to remain in any relationship that strips you of your dignity and self-worth.

Yes, every relationship requires work and will experience hardships. However, there is a very significant difference between the normal ups and downs of a relationship and outright physical, mental and emotional abuse.

God does not require you to endure anything of that nature. Not even to prove your love for Him or for the other person involved. Many times we choose to stay because we don’t want to feel like a failure.

I know from personal experience that God can and will restore you. It doesn’t matter how long you have remained in that ungodly relationship.

He will put your broken pieces back together and He will begin to rebuild you. You must make a decision that His purpose for your life is more important to you than how others see you or even how you see yourself.

Always remember, there is life after a toxic relationship!

Erica Wyatt
Erica Wyatt

Erica Wyatt

Dr. Erica Wyatt is a single mother of four beautiful children, the author of "Striving to Live a Life of Purpose: My Journey from Teenage Mom to PhD Graduate, an educator, and a Christian Life Coach

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The sad part is that you will only realise it later that it wasnt approved by God and you look at all the years, the children, the time that you spent trying to mend it only to realise they were wasted years. We need to pray for God to give us spiritual eyes and to guide us

I believe God brought us together but now that he left God to the side and became abusive, I’m convinced that God was protecting me as he left me last week to live a bachelor life instead of the Godly life he promised. Now we’re going through divorce and I’m counting it as a Blessing from God for my safety and well-being.

I’m going through the very same thing. I feel the same way as well, though it is heartbreaking & the biggest pain of my life. I hope that is the case, anyway, that this is god’s will. Im trusting that.

I’ve never met you but I’ll tell you one thing, we can do this sister! I have to put all my faith and trust in GOD before anything else. He will not let us down and remember HIS plan for us is always bigger then any plan we set. You got this ???

Quitting is not always a solution but praying for your spouse can create greater chances of making things better for your marriages. Remember as we believers don’t have to act according to our will but God’s will.when you got married you became one.my sisters my advice for you all hurting is to devote your lives to reading the Bible so that God can erase all the pain you all have in your hearts.Remember the words of Jesus chrirst to us .PEACE I GIVE NOT AS THE WORLD GIVES.

So pray for that peace that we get in a midst of a Strong storm.Sometimes people offend each other not because they want but because they are being pushed by the devil.My sisters quitting will give the devil joy.Right now what you have to realise in your marriages is that the enemy is not your husband but the devil who came to snatch your joy.prayer upon destroying the devil ,he will flee and your joy will be restored.

Read your Bibles ,remember faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of God.Read your Bible for the word to dwell in you then ,you will have faith in God to make your marriages better.

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Nandie Ndhlovu

Very interesting… That’s a good question

And if indicators show this wasn’t God’s will then what? What about the children between us? What about my happiness? What?


Encouraging article.

that’s a very big question

Thank you Jesus Amen

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Chaylyn Humphreys – hope this helps to make today greater xo

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Only the word people

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