1. Put yourself in their shoes
Try to see things from their point of view. Step outside of yourself for a moment and dig deeper to understand their feelings. You never know what a person is dealing with.
…and remember, hurt people, hurt people. Most times it’s not intentional.
2. Pray for forgiveness
If you are the one who was hurt, pray for a forgiving heart. God can soften the hardest of hearts.
If you are the one who has caused so much hurt, ask God for forgiveness, forgive yourself, and then pray for God to soften the hearts of those you may have hurt in the past so that they will be able to forgive you.
3. Find a resolution
Counseling, Intervention, and Rehab are just a few professional ways to find a resolution.
If you were the one who hurt your loved one, make a promise to try to do better in the future; not keep anymore secrets, get professional help, or whatever you need to do to fix the relationship.
Whatever you do, don’t keep secrets. Everything comes to the light eventually. It’s only a matter of time. Once you’ve gained your loved one’s trust back, it’s imperative to do everything you can to keep it.
If you were on the receiving end of heartbreak, and have chosen to forgive, make a promise to not hold them to their past and not be so judgmental. The main reason people keep secrets is because they are afraid of how they will be frowned upon if they come clean.
The idea is to provide an open line of communication so that the two of you can work through your issues together. Love them for who they are and accept them even if you don’t like the sin they commit.