My Fears As A Single Woman

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Like any ordinary person, I’ve got fears. Fear for myself, fear for my loved ones, fear for my future, fear of being misunderstood. The most common fear I believe is the fear of the unknown. What might come, what the future holds, what’s out there, the uncertainties of life.

I have always believed that one of my callings is to be a good mother. I fear that God might have a different plan for me. I am thankful though that listening to inspiring talks and stories inspires me to live an awesome life knowing that God has BETTER plans for me. I’ve learned that if there’s something I want to do (like faithfully wait for “the one” and not just jump into relationships with anyone that comes my way), I will have to do it no matter how uncertain and scary it may seem.

Courage is not the absence of fear. Courage is doing it afraid.

I also fear that I may not be giving my all in all and that will leave me regretting so many things. I don’t want to grow old and grey full of remorse. This is why I try to tick off as many items in my bucket list as much and as often as possible. It’s scarier to live in regrets and could-have-beens.

I fear that I might miss out on a lot in life because I let work and other worldly things get in the way of the essential things.

I fear that I have become too engrossed on doing everyday stuff that my life will become a routine and I will end up in a limbo, doing things autopilot (God forbid!).

You can never buy more time or bring back the past no matter how wealthy you become. So as early as now, I try to make time for the people who matter to me and do the things that I want to do or have always wanted to try.

The future is very uncertain, but as my favorite lay preacher Bo Sanchez once said, “You are the prophet of your own words”. So I declare everyday that I have a beautiful and promising future. I claim God’s word; His promise of a prosperous future for me. I believe that He prepares the man who deserves me (and I deserve) as He prepares me for that man. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life (Psalm 23:6).

Yes I have a lot of fears as a single person, but I am in this state where I also have developed courage and boldness in facing whatever life throws at me.

It is scary to face life alone. Although I think ending up with someone who does/will not respect you and love you faithfully is scarier.

I have long decided that I will not let fear paralyze me and stop me from having the awesome life God intended me to have.

So I will live my single life, with all it’s ups and downs facing the unknown head on.