I’ve been married to my husband for a little over 3 years. I love him very much and I know he loves me. He’s a wonderful husband but at times he can be very insensitive. Lately he has been saying very mean things to me about my weight. He has even told me that he will not have sex with me until I lose weight. When we met I was around 5’8 125 lbs. I’m now around 165 lbs. I gained 25 pounds after having our first child and 15 pounds after our second. To me… I’m a nice size. I have no problem with the way I look. He says things all the time to me and I try to ignore them but they really hurt. It’s to the point where now he says them in front of anyone. He makes jokes with his friends telling them never to get married because she’ll go to bed skinny and wake up fat one day. It’s embarrassing. He told me that he didn’t want to have more kids with me because if I got pregnant again, I would be at 200 pounds. I always remind him that he is not acting like a man of God by disrespecting his wife and he always says that none of the women in the bible were fat. I know the easy fix would be just to lose weight, but I feel like I shouldn’t have to lose weight for my husband to respect me. Besides my weight, we really don’t have any other issues and I don’t feel like it’s a big enough issue to leave him over but I’m getting fed up. Please pray for us.
What are your thoughts? Any advice for this young lady?