Friendship

4 Benefits of Godly Friendships

godly friendships

A Godly friend will want to help us carry our burdens, not add to them.

godly friendshipsSolidarity in Godly Friendships is an essential part of our Christian walk. When we walk through difficult times in life, genuine Christ-centered friendships can help carry us through.

Here are 4 things to consider when looking for Godly friendships:

Transparency and Authenticity

Transparency is being easily seen, open and authentic. Godly friendships are built on authenticity; the ability to be open and vulnerable with one another. This however, takes the ability to trust.

A real friendship is built over time and formed firmly through trust. No friendship will always be perfect however; in sharing our triumphs and life struggles authentically with one another, a foundation of a quality and genuine friendship can take place.

When vulnerability embraces trust, we can form lasting and Christ centered friendships. By being authentic in who we are, we can be authentic and real in our friendships too.

“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another’’. Proverbs 27:17

Accountability

My most meaningful and lasting friendships have been with those who tell me the things that I don’t always want to hear.

At times, I am the queen of not taking criticism well, but we must realize the difference between criticism and accountability in Godly friendships. Criticism is an unwanted superficial judgment whereas accountability is being honest in truth out of an authentic love and genuine care.

A true friend keeps us accountable to the word of God, and when we are about to stumble, they tell us to ‘’watch out’’ because they care for us.

Though we don’t always like to hear it, a Godly friend will always tell us the truth and keep us accountable to the application of God’s word in our daily lives.

“Where there is no guidance a people fails, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety”. Proverbs 11:14

Steadfastness

Our friendships need to be firm in purpose and firmly established. A steadfast friend is one who is unwavering and unmovable. Grounded in faith and in the word of God, they understand His love and purpose.

When we are mutually following our purpose, and the call of God on our lives we can pursue Godly friendships that will jointly encourage us and sharpen us in the direction of our life.

A steadfast friend is one who when the storms of life come, will be firmly grounded, unfaltering and fixed on the foundation of Christ. They will be there for us no matter what, in times of trials, struggles and success.

“Steadfast love and faithfulness meet’’. Psalm 85:10

Selflessness

A true friend will be willing to sacrifice their interests for the interests of others around them. And a Godly friendship will reveal humility in action. A Godly friend will want to help us carry our burdens, not add to them.

Like, Jesus they will offer to take our heavy loads and come alongside us in a spirit of humility and love.

A great indicator of selflessness is time. When our friends give us their time, it encourages us to see that we are valued and loved.

Instead of an attitude of “what can I get from you?”, Godly friendships will show us a selfless attitude of, “how can I serve you?”

“This is my commandment that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one then this, that someone lay down his life for his friends’’.  John 15:12-13

Alicia Mckenzie

Alicia Mckenzie

Alicia Mckenzie is a blogger and writer. She seeks to mutually encourage others through writing about practical Christian living, with an emphasis on divorce and singles ministries.
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147 Comments

  1. Gucci BackHouse

    June 13, 2017 at 7:02 pm

    Quaeku Amoah Yirenkyi thanks bro

  2. Crystal Danielle

    June 13, 2017 at 6:33 pm

    Tanya Jones-Awolusi ❤️ thank you

    • Tanya Jones-Awolusi

      June 13, 2017 at 11:27 pm

      I pray that our friendship always remains open and honest. We have each other’s backs.

    • Crystal Danielle

      June 13, 2017 at 11:37 pm

      Tanya Jones-Awolusi always! Ride or die

  3. Phyllys Gitonga

    June 13, 2017 at 5:21 pm

    Lucky 2 have u @ Jerry Maeguire.

  4. Aderen Silalahi

    June 13, 2017 at 3:44 pm

    I need a friend like that

  5. Terry Daley

    June 13, 2017 at 3:21 pm

    Amen

  6. Gem Garcia

    June 13, 2017 at 3:16 pm

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  7. Doris Faniso

    June 13, 2017 at 12:24 pm

    Absolutely

  8. Carolina Nyambura

    June 13, 2017 at 11:18 am

    Thanks @ Jerry maeguire

  9. Jerry Maeguire

    June 13, 2017 at 11:17 am

    Phyllys Gitonga

  10. Jerry Maeguire

    June 13, 2017 at 11:16 am

    Carolina Nyambura

  11. Jerry Maeguire

    June 13, 2017 at 11:16 am

    Carolina Nyambura

  12. Hilda Maggie

    June 13, 2017 at 11:07 am

    I pray that God surrounds me with a counsel of wise men….

  13. MCee Connie Mofokeng

    June 13, 2017 at 10:55 am

    Amen…we need friendz like that.who arent scared to tell u the truth or sugar coat the truth all bcos theyre sxcared..truth will set u free

  14. RjAc Lynz

    June 13, 2017 at 8:45 am

    Absolutely!

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    June 13, 2017 at 8:43 am

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    June 13, 2017 at 8:12 am

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  17. Shelly Marie Scott

    June 13, 2017 at 7:23 am

    So true.

  18. Louis Grace

    June 13, 2017 at 7:19 am

    So true

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    June 13, 2017 at 6:23 am

    Kasanya Towela Minango that’s you

  20. Njoki Maina

    June 13, 2017 at 4:56 am

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  21. Trina Owens

    June 13, 2017 at 3:55 am

    Thanks Christina Gandara and Glenda Cummins!

    • Christina Gandara

      June 13, 2017 at 4:18 am

      Trina Owens thank you for being that sister/friend in my life

    • Trina Owens

      June 13, 2017 at 4:41 am

      Christina Gandara love you sis! Thanks for being my bff since 4. My sis in Christ for life!

  22. DeZyre Dennis Plummer

    June 13, 2017 at 3:37 am

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    June 13, 2017 at 2:23 am

    Christian’s

  24. MsDenise Norman

    June 13, 2017 at 2:23 am

    Amen hallelujah for Jesus Blood, true chrustiabs6 tell you truth; now if they straddling the fence themselves, you figure it out.

  25. RJ Linzee

    June 13, 2017 at 2:08 am

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  26. Carolyn Walker Blount

    June 13, 2017 at 1:08 am

    Jasmine Cierra, Teresa Hughes

  27. Elizabeth Guzman

    June 13, 2017 at 1:05 am

    Thanks Julie Pruden Sullivan

  28. Elizabeth Guzman

    June 13, 2017 at 1:05 am

    Thanks Michele Shelly Greene Moynihan

  29. Danna Mariee

    June 13, 2017 at 1:01 am

    Angelou Claire Dominique Taclob Miriam Silim love you memsssseu

  30. Amanda Boatner

    June 13, 2017 at 12:08 am

    Michelle Lee

  31. Sherre Williams-Anthony

    June 12, 2017 at 11:15 pm

    That one also refers to you Quateka Bolden!! Thanks 😘

  32. Rachel McNulty

    June 12, 2017 at 10:53 pm

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  33. Candice Ross

    June 12, 2017 at 10:49 pm

    Amen Jose Aparicio 🙂

  34. Emmy Ryks

    June 12, 2017 at 10:43 pm

    Amanda Talen! Thanks for being that godly friend! Love you!!!!

  35. Kabelo Highlyfavored Mashapa

    June 12, 2017 at 10:32 pm

    Amen….

  36. Fredricka Wright

    June 12, 2017 at 10:04 pm

    I love my Godly friends. Truth is what I need not colorful lies. God is great.

  37. Sarah Khouzam

    June 12, 2017 at 9:49 pm

    Elizabeth Bustamante ..see!!

  38. Jamie West

    June 12, 2017 at 9:36 pm

    Karen Berryman

  39. Kathy Holly

    June 12, 2017 at 9:27 pm

    Amen yes

  40. Linda Dean

    June 12, 2017 at 9:08 pm

    Amen!!

  41. Jamelah Henry

    June 12, 2017 at 9:02 pm

    Raelena Taylor

  42. Jamelah Henry

    June 12, 2017 at 9:02 pm

    Shante Hawkes-Hynson

  43. Robin Brown

    June 12, 2017 at 9:02 pm

    Vakiea Tashon

  44. Alpha Pascual

    June 12, 2017 at 8:54 pm

    Sissy Ninna Manahan

  45. Nuggets Darbouze

    June 12, 2017 at 8:44 pm

    Excellent insight and wisdom in this article to show exactly how Godly friendships are represented and established!!!!

  46. Michelle Jongsuksathaporn

    May 17, 2017 at 4:16 pm

    Jib Khammy Them Paweena Nannan Sky Kimberly Rujira Thankyou! ❤️

  47. Juliana Provenzano

    May 16, 2017 at 1:39 pm

    Hanna Crowe

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    May 16, 2017 at 12:15 pm

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    May 16, 2017 at 7:55 am

    Colleen Batalla Abrantes Daireen Fay :-*

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    May 16, 2017 at 7:43 am

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    May 16, 2017 at 4:22 am

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  52. Estela Yoshizumi

    May 16, 2017 at 1:25 am

    Amen.speak in truth

  53. Rebecca Bicalho

    May 16, 2017 at 12:43 am

    “A Godly friend will wan to help us carry our burdens, not add to them” – needed this!

  54. Yenny Rios

    May 15, 2017 at 10:26 pm

    Elizabeth M Ruiz

  55. Lekeya Sayles

    May 15, 2017 at 9:33 pm

  56. Amber Ramirez

    May 15, 2017 at 9:25 pm

  57. Diann Bond

    May 15, 2017 at 8:17 pm

    Elora Leann Palmer

  58. Patience Boanor

    May 15, 2017 at 8:07 pm

    Sure

  59. Essie Beckles

    May 15, 2017 at 6:47 pm

    In a perfect world.

  60. Ogunfeyimi Temidayo

    May 15, 2017 at 6:37 pm

    Spiritual truth

  61. Shelley Boyd

    May 15, 2017 at 6:36 pm

    Amen!

  62. Rebecca Howard

    April 27, 2017 at 2:56 pm

    LeGina Watson

  63. Noby Nagalie Maria ClaySarago

    April 26, 2017 at 3:04 pm

    Amen ma sister Janine Illin xo

  64. Janine Illin

    April 26, 2017 at 2:59 pm

    Noby Nagalie Maria ClaySarago <3

  65. Kefilwe Sakoma

    April 25, 2017 at 7:18 pm

    Portia Rasekhumba, my Godly friend!

  66. Christina Jeremiah

    April 25, 2017 at 7:11 pm

    I’ve been praying for true genuine life long friendships for a very long time now. It seems as though at times, if they’re not competing, they’re jealous, if it’s not jealousy, its strife or someone sowing discord, lying etc. I get it! Nobody is perfect however, these things ought not be counted among us as Christians. It should not be a battle to find good Christian friends especially in Church. God have Mercy!

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    April 25, 2017 at 7:08 pm

    Tarrin Calverley❤

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    April 25, 2017 at 6:06 pm

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  71. Mary Saidi

    April 25, 2017 at 9:29 am

    VERY TRUE

  72. Maijhi Millie Samukonga

    April 25, 2017 at 7:21 am

    Kuzo Hamoonga I bless God for you

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    April 25, 2017 at 6:48 am

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  74. Agbonoga Blessing

    April 25, 2017 at 5:44 am

    Chidimma Tonia Luckiest

  75. Agbonoga Blessing

    April 25, 2017 at 5:43 am

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  76. Brittany White

    April 25, 2017 at 5:25 am

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    April 25, 2017 at 3:59 am

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  78. En Elle

    April 25, 2017 at 3:55 am

    Sophie Chee-Yonge Carmen you bless me! 😀

  79. Gina Young

    April 25, 2017 at 3:49 am

    Godly friendships? Where does one find those?

  80. Jordyn Nicole

    April 25, 2017 at 2:56 am

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  81. Antonine Julien

    April 25, 2017 at 2:34 am

    Had a friend i meet in church 24 years ago but something along the way happen and now we are no longer friends. Looming for new godly deep long friendships.

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    April 25, 2017 at 1:35 am

    Angeli D. Dacera❤️

  83. Shani Robertson

    April 25, 2017 at 1:14 am

    I’ve given up on Godly friendships. Maybe one day I’ll have one that sticks around.

  84. Jen Englis

    April 25, 2017 at 12:21 am

    Hannah Faye Reoma Laarnie Buenaventura

    • Hannah Faye Reoma

      April 25, 2017 at 12:51 am

      thank you Lord for the gift of Godly friendship 🙌🙏❤️

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    April 25, 2017 at 12:18 am

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  86. Ande Zul

    April 25, 2017 at 12:01 am

    Is tbere a way I can share this article with a friend who is not on facebook?

  87. Tera Massey

    April 24, 2017 at 11:30 pm

    Jennifer Cochran Townsend Penney Bates Lisa Asbell O’Neal Myra Gibson Jen Slade Paniagua My sisters in Christ! I am so grateful…

  88. Miriam Haile

    April 24, 2017 at 10:14 pm

    Lidia Dawit Yizu Berhe

    • Yizu Berhe

      April 25, 2017 at 4:18 am

      Miriam Haile 😘😘, So thankful to have you🙏

  89. Janet Hettle

    April 24, 2017 at 10:00 pm

    Petra Graves

  90. Henry Owusu Agyemang Sencherey

    April 24, 2017 at 9:57 pm

    Perfect

  91. Ruth Mcneil

    April 24, 2017 at 9:38 pm

    I need friends like that in my life

  92. Jasmine Walters

    April 24, 2017 at 9:23 pm

    Amen.

  93. Quateka Bolden

    April 24, 2017 at 8:45 pm

    Sherre Williams-Anthony

  94. Otsanya Onmonya Comfort

    April 24, 2017 at 8:40 pm

    Yes, yes, yes

  95. Mande Goodin

    April 24, 2017 at 7:46 pm

    Sonya Steward Getman…love ya!!

  96. Bobbie Deal

    April 24, 2017 at 7:38 pm

    True

  97. Josi LiveNlove Villagomez

    April 24, 2017 at 7:36 pm

    Kristen Veras

  98. Millicent Mamaila Mmalai

    April 24, 2017 at 7:33 pm

    I pray that I have the good ones

  99. Amy Eicholtz

    April 24, 2017 at 7:30 pm

    LeChae Stoneberg and Chanan Gilbert ❤❤

  100. Terry Daley

    April 24, 2017 at 7:25 pm

    Amen

  101. Epifania Marasigan

    April 24, 2017 at 7:08 pm

    True..and this needs discernment..

  102. Priscilla Nnenna

    April 24, 2017 at 7:08 pm

    Nice article

  103. Shaneka Cole

    April 24, 2017 at 7:05 pm

    i dont have friends right now

  104. Aaron Mccoy

    April 24, 2017 at 7:02 pm

    It’s about God!

  105. Posibi Omotayo

    April 24, 2017 at 6:54 pm

    Dat’s true

  106. Thobeka Sikgakgane

    April 24, 2017 at 6:49 pm

    So true.a friend from God will always show you the way and never talks behind you.my sisters from God encouraged me in prayers

  107. Debra Houghton

    April 24, 2017 at 6:44 pm

    Looking to join a group Lehigh acres Florida

  108. Jennifer Carole Underwood

    April 24, 2017 at 6:40 pm

    SO thankful for the few I have!!! Couldn’t do life without God or them❤

  109. Peggy Baloyi

    April 24, 2017 at 6:33 pm

    Powerful true friend never hurts

  110. Zah Dlamini

    April 24, 2017 at 6:29 pm

    Amen

  111. Lorna Marie Lariviere

    April 24, 2017 at 6:20 pm

    Amen ❤️

  112. Kathee Alexander McCarl

    April 24, 2017 at 6:19 pm

    An excellent article. As a pastor’s wife, however, it is very difficult to have lasting friendships. I’ve had “friends” leave the church, try to get my husband fired, leave because they didn’t like something my husband preached on, etc. One couple tried to get my husband fired, and that women was someone I considered a close friend. I was shocked, hurt and devastated. It took me a long time to trust women in my church again after that incident. I still do not have really close friends in our church, with the exception of our asst. pastor’s wife. My closest friends are from childhood and I live 500 miles away from them. If it wasn’t for Facebook, I don’t know how I’d get through the rough times… :/

    • Faith Ellingwood

      April 24, 2017 at 6:22 pm

      Being a pastor’s family is so tough…. My mother went through the same thing as you with friends. The last thing her very best friend ever said to her years ago was so extremely hurtful and she never got over it.
      I too have experienced this. It’s so important to watch the company we keep.

    • Julie Moment

      April 24, 2017 at 6:22 pm

      Bless you its difficult being at the top, more attack. We need to always pray for church leaders. X

    • Faith Ellingwood

      April 24, 2017 at 6:25 pm

      And I said, My strength and my hope is perished from the Lord : Remembering mine affliction and my misery, the wormwood and the gall. My soul hath them still in remembrance, and is humbled in me. This I recall to my mind, therefore have I hope. It is of the Lord’s mercies that we are not consumed, because his compassions fail not. They are new every morning: great is thy faithfulness. The Lord is my portion, saith my soul; therefore will I hope in him. The Lord is good unto them that wait for him, to the soul that seeketh him. It is good that a man should both hope and quietly wait for the salvation of the Lord .
      Lamentations 3:18‭-‬26 KJV

      God bless! <3
      What a friend we have in Jesus!

    • Alicia Mckenzie

      April 24, 2017 at 8:55 pm

      I’ll be your friend xoxoxo I am praying for you from Sweden, and pray that God will bring Godly, strong women in your life to support and uplift you in His name

  113. Jeniffer Kaizen

    April 24, 2017 at 6:19 pm

    Thanalachmi Singaroo Magdalene Aren

  114. Nafisa Kamara

    April 24, 2017 at 6:17 pm

    Yes

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