Seeking love and commitment can be challenging, as well as rewarding. It’s challenging because we have to kiss a few frogs before we actually locate our prince. It’s rewarding because dating is an opportunity for self discovery and should be enjoyable.
I strongly believe there are specific temptations and situations single folks must avoid. So without further ado….
Here are 5 Things Single Christians Should Never Do:
1. Pursue someone who is unavailable
“Unfaithfulness is a character flaw that we shouldn’t desire in a potential mate.”
Besides the fact that we all know it’s biblically wrong, a married man is simply not in a position to give you the love, time and commitment you deserve. Why cheat yourself out of the happiness you are worthy of receiving?
This includes the married but separated as well as those who are in a girlfriend/ boyfriend relationship. Someone who is willing to cheat with you, will definitely cheat on you! .
2. Settle or compromise on their core values
“Our core beliefs, those that make us who we are, should never be compromised.”
It’s true… in a relationship, sacrifices will need to be made. There are, however, certain areas of our lives we should hold dear. Our core beliefs, those that make us who we are, should never be compromised.
Your Spiritual well being, your Faith, and your relationship with Christ should never be sacrificed. A person who asks us to give up something or challenges us in a way that alters who we are really isn’t worthy of our love. Listening to your intuition is key. If it feels all wrong, it usually is.
3. Depend on a relationship to make you happy
“Honoring who we are with our actions shows the world just how amazing we are, whether we’re single or not.”
If you’re not happy with who you are, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either. You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else. Being wise with the choices we make is the beginning of self-love.
4. Give in to temptation
“Make a promise to God, and keep it.”
When you fall in love, it’s natural to want to express your love in physical ways. But you also know God wants you to remain sexually pure—in both your actions and your thoughts. It’s a tough balance, but showing love for another while remaining pure is possible.
Decide where you’re going to draw the line, and tell God that with His help, you are not going to cross that line until marriage. Don’t commit to it unless you mean it, though.
The Bible says it’s a serious thing to make a vow to God. At the same time, realize that you can’t stick to your promise without His help. That’s why it’s important to renew your commitment daily.
5. Give Up On Love
“Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work.”
Embrace who and where you are at this moment. In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you. But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.
There is nothing wrong with being single. If you are still single, examine your past relationships, look for common themes and anything that no longer works for you, be willing to make some changes.
Otherwise, embrace who and where you are at this moment. Your being single could represent a few positive things, like you weren’t willing to compromise who you are.