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4 Biblical Truths For Singles Who Desire To Be Married

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Dear Single Ladies,

The Lord has put it on my heart to share these truths with you. I hope that it will be an encouragement to you and I hope that together we can renew our minds concerning marriage.

1. You shouldn’t be ashamed to desire marriage.  

The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2:18

It can sometimes feel selfish to want to marriage but marriage is a blessing that God wants you to desire. Simply wanting to be in a relationship with physical benefits without the covenant is selfish, that is the way of our culture. But God’s way raises the bar and calls us to be in true covenant. As we delight in the Lord, we will see his heart in the institution of marriage and truly desire it. In the beginning when God created the world, he said that everything was good except for the fact that Adam was alone. In today’s culture, when we are alone we try to fill that void with unequally yoked relationships, experiences and even careers, but when God saw that Adam was alone he gave him a wife. If anyone ever tries to make you feel selfish for wanting marriage, gently remind them that it was God’s idea.

2. Satan wants to destroy your hope for marriage.

The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy”. John 10:10

Satan is very subtle in his method for destroying   your hope of marriage. He uses your friends, family and even church to keep your discouraged. The first thing that usually happens if a woman even mentions that she desires marriage is that she is quickly redirected and told that she should not think about it and just focus on other things. Many men who love the Lord are being attacked in their sexuality, careers, identity and finances and are not ready to seriously pursue marriage. Satan wants to destroy our hope for marriage because he knows that when women have even an ounce of hope and faith that she will pray feverently and the prayers of the righteous availeth much. Christian marriages produce christian children who will spread the truth of God’s kingdom throughout the earth. Satan will do anything he can to stop that.

3. Being single doesn’t mean something is wrong with you.

You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you. Song of Song 4:7 

Deep down women may believe that something is wrong with them and marriage becomes something that they have to earn or deserve.

One Saturday night, I cried out to the Lord because I had just accepted that my singleness was all my fault and that something was wrong with me. After all, people always asked me why I was still single. People always felt the need to give me advice of what I needed to do if I wanted men to be interested.

That Sunday a woman from my church who I’d rarely spoken to stopped me in the parking lot to tell me that God told her to tell me that “There was nothing wrong with me”. I was amazed that God not only heard my prayer but spoke his answer so powerfully to me.

There are so many educated, accomplished and kind women who love the Lord and are beautiful who are still single. There is nothing wrong with you.

4. Believe and cast off your doubt.

“But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt” James 1:6

Single women often disguise their doubt as independence or even spirituality. One moment we say that we are believing God for a husband and the next moment we are saying that we don’t have time for that in our lives or that we are just too focused on God to even consider marriage.

When asking God for something, we must believe that he will send it and not doubt. We must make up our mind concerning marriage.

True belief is combined with action. Some women say that they are believing God for a husband but they are not preparing themselves to be a wife. If you believe someone is coming to your house for dinner the corresponding action is to clean your guest bathroom, set the table, dust, etc.

Some of us say that we are believing God for a husband but our spiritual and emotional house is messy because we are not really preparing for him.

Ask yourself if your actions show that you truly believe God will answer your prayers for a husband.

Nina Borum

Nina Borum

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Nina Elaine Borum is a speaker, author and coach. She loves to encourage, inspire and motivate women. Nina currently resides in Nashville.
Nina Borum
112 Comments

112 Comments

  1. Wilhemina Hamilton

    May 18, 2017 at 8:21 pm

    So true

  2. Amanda-Paige Pollard

    May 17, 2017 at 11:21 pm

    Thank you for this post! Really needed to read it

  3. Cindy Perez

    May 17, 2017 at 8:04 pm

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    May 17, 2017 at 7:25 pm

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  5. Blessing Margarett Mbuyane

    May 17, 2017 at 7:14 pm

    Amen…

  6. Racheal Rejoyce Malindi

    May 17, 2017 at 7:02 pm

    God tym is the best tym . You hv made my day

  7. Monique Vaughan Hightower

    May 17, 2017 at 4:30 pm

    Stephanie

  8. Cindy Hull

    May 17, 2017 at 4:24 pm

    When the time is right it will happen . Could be 6 months could none never ., no none knows that . Have faith

  9. Ronica Thavar

    May 17, 2017 at 4:22 pm

    God is faithful always

  10. Siwe Phiwe Hlongwane

    May 17, 2017 at 3:34 pm

    Hard though

  11. Mutale Eunice Mutale

    May 17, 2017 at 2:25 pm

    exactjy

  12. Mercy Lamya

    May 17, 2017 at 11:30 am

    Exactly! And God’s time is the best

  13. Joanna Chua

    May 17, 2017 at 11:13 am

    Esther Seah

    • Esther Seah

      May 17, 2017 at 1:43 pm

      This was a good and timely read. Thanks jo XX ❤️

  14. Pam Thrasher Ford

    May 17, 2017 at 10:36 am

    I needed this

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    May 17, 2017 at 10:28 am

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    May 17, 2017 at 10:15 am

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  17. Sharl Favor

    May 17, 2017 at 10:05 am

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  18. Kevan Gosnell

    May 17, 2017 at 7:56 am

    Timing

  19. Connie Ellison

    May 17, 2017 at 7:36 am

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    May 17, 2017 at 7:30 am

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  21. Ntshumeleni Maliga

    May 17, 2017 at 6:06 am

    Interesting indeed

  22. Bukola Ade

    May 17, 2017 at 4:37 am

    Exactly, people who are married/in relationships to day we’re single once.

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    May 17, 2017 at 4:12 am

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    • Christina Cordero Tufuga

      May 17, 2017 at 4:35 am

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    • Raych Tera

      May 17, 2017 at 4:37 am

      Haha yeah so reassuring reading it
      Too aye. Praise the Lord. And I was sharing with Yolanda about how God blesses us beyond what we can imagine and that makes me more excited aye 😍😍💒💒🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

    • Yolanda Tupa'i

      May 17, 2017 at 8:42 am

      Yeah hard that’s awesome. We just have to be persistent in prayer and faith ❤❤❤

  24. Raimie Lewis

    May 17, 2017 at 4:05 am

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  25. Ellah Reu Cabaya

    May 17, 2017 at 3:50 am

    This is the best article I’ve read for today! I needed this….

  26. Elizabeth Velez Guzman

    May 17, 2017 at 1:22 am

    Anny GR

  27. Trina Owens

    May 17, 2017 at 12:35 am

    This is best article I have read in long time. It really speaks truth to me!

  28. Patricia Clay

    May 16, 2017 at 11:33 pm

    I enjoy my Life ” when I am ready God will give me someone worthy of his Princess” Amen!

  29. Terry Daley

    May 16, 2017 at 11:20 pm

    Amen

  30. Mary Nana Akua Boateng

    May 16, 2017 at 11:18 pm

    Quame Kyere

  31. Robby Elisa

    May 16, 2017 at 11:12 pm

    Needed this post…❤️❤️❤️

  32. Maggie May

    May 16, 2017 at 9:54 pm

    Samantha

  33. Froline Bernas

    May 16, 2017 at 9:47 pm

    Kate Rolene Respicio

  34. Yolonda Jackson

    May 16, 2017 at 8:40 pm

    you gave me answers to my questions now i just need to do as you say…have faith.

  35. Yolanda Vila

    May 16, 2017 at 8:23 pm

  36. Jenny Willoughby

    May 16, 2017 at 8:02 pm

    Stretch Stovall

  37. Scolastica Metuge Nkonge

    May 16, 2017 at 8:01 pm

    Thank you

  38. Amber Triplett

    May 16, 2017 at 7:45 pm

    Amen!!!

  39. Camille Grant

    May 16, 2017 at 7:42 pm

    Truth!!!! #waitingonmyturn

  40. Emily Dauma

    May 16, 2017 at 7:21 pm

    Be encouraged, there is a time for this event 🙂 being single is for a purpose…everything falls well in God’s timing Fredah Abigael Joses Michaeline Sunamist Alo Sibz Zey’Dee Wayne Caroline Mendai Lillyean V Daniells

  41. Ijeoma Amaka

    May 16, 2017 at 7:15 pm

    God is preparing your husband.

  42. Noel Wamanoma Makumba

    May 16, 2017 at 7:08 pm

    True It Only Means Your Time Has Not Yet Come.

  43. Zippy Abigail Philips

    April 6, 2017 at 8:32 am

    #. 3 (“

  44. Gwendolyn HopelnJesus Burkett

    April 5, 2017 at 3:11 pm

    Amen

  45. Jenni Ann

    April 5, 2017 at 3:00 pm

    Loda Alic Tremosadakanami na article. heheh

  46. Shakira Adams

    April 5, 2017 at 12:35 pm

    , Allison Terblanche

  47. Pricilia Anne Alex

    April 5, 2017 at 12:22 pm

    Stephanie Steph

  48. MO Thompson

    April 5, 2017 at 11:47 am

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  49. Dee Jones

    April 5, 2017 at 10:02 am

    Amen

  50. Eva Yuniah

    April 5, 2017 at 8:22 am

    Small or big Jesus is the answer,Amen

  51. May Pacs

    April 5, 2017 at 7:48 am

    Amen…thank you lord

  52. Taresa Love

    April 5, 2017 at 7:08 am

    Sooooo good

  53. Maureen Muyaka

    April 5, 2017 at 6:38 am

    Amen

  54. Donard Rugasiira

    April 5, 2017 at 6:32 am

    That’s why am committed to praying every time

  55. Marcellina Highly-Favored Zuniga

    April 5, 2017 at 6:11 am

    AMEN

  56. Stella Cheeks

    April 5, 2017 at 6:09 am

    Amen.

  57. CrackerJack Boswell

    April 5, 2017 at 5:39 am

    Dallas Lovell

  58. Millicent Ladyline Agamolga

    April 5, 2017 at 5:20 am

  59. Ramesha Johnson

    April 5, 2017 at 4:59 am

    I claim and know that God will join us together

  60. Louvinna Bell

    April 5, 2017 at 4:18 am

    Amen

  61. Lisa Malinao

    April 5, 2017 at 4:13 am

    CH Rachel

  62. Leighnia Nance

    April 5, 2017 at 3:32 am

    The book 31 prayers for my future husband is amazing as well and they have a version for men also. Pray and wait on the Lord

    • Angie Tyra

      April 5, 2017 at 12:04 pm

      I’m always praying for you!!! One day , you will be amazed with the man of God our Father brings you because of your faithfulness! Love you girl!, Leighnia Nance! Keep the faith!
      Hebrews 10:23 < +><

  63. Terry Daley

    April 5, 2017 at 2:12 am

    Thank you Jesus Amen

  64. Micah Hankins

    April 5, 2017 at 1:19 am

    Annaliese Sutherland this is really good

  65. Gisel Martinez

    April 5, 2017 at 12:51 am

    I learned to die to self, including my desires, and as soon as I did that, God told me, I have your promise, seek my kingdom first and everything else will come! I’M SOLD!!! THANK YOU JESUS!! I trust God that whoever He places in my path is going to be more then I can ever hope for, that is my God!!!

  66. Marquita Coston

    April 5, 2017 at 12:04 am

    Keondra Pittman

  67. Kaycee Rempe

    April 4, 2017 at 11:58 pm

    Kelsey Ballard

  68. Ellah Reu Cabaya

    April 4, 2017 at 11:57 pm

    Amen

  69. Angie Tyra

    April 4, 2017 at 11:23 pm

    Leighnia Nance

  70. Karen Taylor

    April 4, 2017 at 11:04 pm

    Amen nothing too small or too big

  71. Cathy Ume

    April 4, 2017 at 10:51 pm

    Amen. Glory, Praise and Honour to our loving and merciful Father. Thank you Jesus Christ for your Divine Presence in our lives.

  72. Mocha Williams

    April 4, 2017 at 10:36 pm

    Amen! Thank you Father God for preparing me for what you have for me…

  73. Chioma Ilo

    April 4, 2017 at 10:20 pm

    Amen and Amen

  74. Margaret Reuben

    April 4, 2017 at 9:45 pm

    Amen

  75. Darkus Shantella Scipio

    April 4, 2017 at 9:25 pm

    I loveee this#GOD Let my Boaz find you and then come find me.
    Prepare Us to be A Couple who is ready for marriage and a stronger relationship with you.

  76. Simone Archibald

    April 4, 2017 at 9:24 pm

    Karen Bruce

  77. Bobbie Galloway-Folie

    April 4, 2017 at 9:20 pm

    Amen

  78. Delcevelyn Bunsa

    April 4, 2017 at 9:02 pm

    Amen He is able to to exceedingly abundantly than we could possibly imagine.

  79. Kediboni Ndlovu

    April 4, 2017 at 8:56 pm

    amen in Jesus name

  80. Andrea Mimi Densley-Babin

    April 4, 2017 at 8:45 pm

    Amen

  81. Boledi Precious

    April 4, 2017 at 8:44 pm

    Amen

  82. Jenny London

    April 4, 2017 at 8:38 pm

    True

  83. Getrude Xawes

    April 4, 2017 at 8:37 pm

    Amen

  84. Yvonne Sithole

    April 4, 2017 at 8:33 pm

    Amen

  85. Vivian V Kulasingham

    April 4, 2017 at 8:31 pm

    Nothing can prevent the Lord’s blessingn on me .TQ God for everything most of all love hope joy peace.Tq Lord for a bright future and family
    I place all my needs before u lord
    Tq lord for everything and providing for me.I claim your blessings n favour Jesus.Be powerful in me .

  86. Sandra Roberts

    April 4, 2017 at 8:24 pm

    Thanks for sharing with us.

  87. Zandi Mbatha

    April 4, 2017 at 8:23 pm

    Thank you so much. Seasonal Word for me. We thank God for you.

  88. Bobbie Deal

    April 4, 2017 at 8:19 pm

    Amen to that

  89. Tam Tye

    April 4, 2017 at 8:14 pm

    Jillian Wyatt this is a must read

  90. Tjoet Chelle Kwasie

    April 4, 2017 at 8:14 pm

    Nic Oll

    • Nic Oll

      April 5, 2017 at 10:30 am

      Ik heb het gelezen heel mooi verwoord🌹

  91. Valerie Dearborn

    April 4, 2017 at 8:12 pm

    Who puts the desire in your heart?
    Your not your own your bought
    Our God is Great he makes no mistakes.
    Praise you Lord God for your devine intervention and Loving kindness you are God alone. You said you take care of the sparrows an youd care for us, Love You Lord !!!

  92. Pheladi Mathabatha

    April 4, 2017 at 8:11 pm

    Shazia Baker

  93. Reitumetse Tummie Maleka

    April 4, 2017 at 8:11 pm

    Lord today I just wanna thank you..for providing me with a job after being jobless for a long time..father thank you for being an awesome father that you are..thank you for taking care of me..thank you for blessing me despite my failure to do your will..God I can’t even find enuf words to thank you..meet each and everyone here at their points of needs..provide for them in the mighty name if Jesus my Lord and savoir Amen

    • Ashibuogwu Angela

      April 4, 2017 at 8:31 pm

      I thank God for blessing you with a job, and tap into your testimony as I look forward to praising him for also providing a job for me.

    • Reitumetse Tummie Maleka

      April 4, 2017 at 8:42 pm

      Our God is really an awesome..he is just and faithful to do as he promised to do in our lives.. He will provide for you.. He is Jehovah Jireh..just stay prayed up and be still knowing he is soon to come through for you..I’m a living testimony of his grace and mercy.. it really know no limits…I pray he gives you a job as you put your faith in him..Amen

    • Mariama Touré

      April 4, 2017 at 9:42 pm

      Amen Lady’s. Beautiful testimony. God is amazing and always know the best for us. No matter the time it will take. He will fulfill all the promesses. Father bless them more and more.

    • Reitumetse Tummie Maleka

      April 4, 2017 at 9:53 pm

      Amen…Lord you are a great Father.. we thank you for moving in our lives.. we thank you for answering our prayers.. we thank you for opening doors..for making a way even where there seems to be none..Jesus Christ..you woke up Lazarus from death..there is nothing you can’t do..Father we bless and glorify your mighty name…Amen

  94. Sonja Guinyard

    April 4, 2017 at 8:08 pm

    Amen

  95. Zanele Siwele Mtungwa

    April 4, 2017 at 8:05 pm

    Miyelani Masinga

  96. Sandy Arnold

    April 4, 2017 at 8:05 pm

    Amen to that their is nothing that God don’t already know.

  97. Monique Asiimwe

    April 4, 2017 at 7:59 pm

    Amen

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