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5 Signs You Are Dating Your Distraction

dating distractionsI am saying this for your benefit, not to place restrictions on you. I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best, with as few distractions as possible. (1 Corinthians 7:35)

Distraction from God is extremely dangerous. As believers we believe that God is the captain of our ship. When you start losing sight of your captain, you start trying to steer your own ship. Not only does this lead to going the wrong way, but it can lead you in the direction of trials, sin, missed opportunities, and missed blessings.

When you lose sight of your captain you start to fear and worry. You start to think “I’m in this by myself”.

Your captain promised to guide you and help you, but instead of focusing on Him you started focusing on the huge waves and the other sailors around you.

I would have to say the relationship with the most danger of becoming a distraction from our walk with God would be that of a boy-friend, girl-friend. These relationships in their nature, demand the most time, and that is why it is extremely important that they are centered around God. If they aren’t, you will see your walk with God spiraling downward. In a dating relationship, don’t compromise your morals.

Being in a loving relationship can be joyous , but when we allow any one of these relationships threaten to become more important to us than God…well, they become a distraction. Remember, God calls us to love one another (1 John 3:11), so when we do, it is an act of obedience to God. But don’t forget about God in the process. We need to make sure we are giving God ample time everyday.

Today I ask you… Are you wrapped up in a distracting relationship?

If you are in a relationship, and you are wondering if you are honoring God, honestly ask yourself, “Have I grown in my faith and closer to the Lord as a result of being in this relationship?”

If you’re still not sure, here are 5 Signs Your Relationship is a Distraction:

No Time For God

Do you find that you are dwelling less on the things of God and more on the person you’re dating? You have time for movie night and late night phone sessions, but find it hard to squeeze in time for things of God.

If you are finding it harder to find time for devotions, prayer, and church that is an indication that you may be wrapped up in a distracting relationship.

God is not the Center of Your Relationship

The Bible is clear… “Let all the world look to me for salvation! For I am God; there is no other.” (Isaiah 45:22)

Are you putting your hope in this person in areas where you used to put your trust in God? If so, it is clear that Christ is not at the center of your relationship.

If your relationship is based on giddy feelings, with little spiritual foundation, you should expect a weak, easily breakable marriage. If your relationship is grounded in the Word of God and both of you are striving hard after Christ, you can expect a strong marriage and God’s blessing.

You Feel More Guilty Than Good

You find yourself repenting every time you’re with this person. This is a sure sign that this person is a distraction. Whether it’s for neglecting your spiritual duties or fornicating; If you feel more guilty than good when you’re with them this is a sure sign that this person is a distraction.

If this person is consistently causing lust, anger, frustration and confusion, they are not from God.

Unequally Yoked

Understand that if you two are going in opposite directions, there is no way for you to grow together. (Read Amos 3:3). You cannot walk with someone you don’t agree with. So the question isn’t how will you bring them to God, it’s are you following God? If you had faith in Him you would know to trust His timing. Dating an unsaved person just because you’re lonely shows that you listen to emotions more than God.

Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? (2 Corinthians 6:14). 

This verse was a command, not a suggestion. Many obey the verses that pacify our flesh or make our ego get bigger but ignore the ones that create friction with our lifestyle. You cannot serve God and date someone who is serving the devil.

You can’t change anyone, only God can. Focus on praying for them to be saved, rather than trying to date them to God. And don’t compromise God to keep them.

You Know the Relationship is Going Nowhere

Sometimes we stay in relationships because we are comfortable or out of fear of starting over. We stay in bad relationships for a number of reasons, but when you think about it… none of them are really good reasons.

The enemy uses these relationships to keep us from God’s best because he knows that by staying in these relationships, we are only blocking the one that God has already ordained.

Remember, when God wants to bless you, He will bring a person into your life that will be an asset and a blessing to you in some way. But when the enemy wants to hinder or destroy you, he will do the same thing; bring someone into your life to help him carryout his plan. So it is necessary to discern people, but most importantly keep your eyes on God.

In a nut shell, relationships are extremely important, but our relationship with God is of the utmost importance. Remember that!



  1. Angelina Dowdell

    May 23, 2017 at 7:14 pm

    Because god saids love your enemies but u don’t have to deal with them that’s were u need god with u because r crazy

  2. Andrea Mimi Densley-Babin

    May 23, 2017 at 5:26 pm

    Great article!

  3. Bran Welch

    May 23, 2017 at 3:15 pm

    Praying my two single sons wait on God to send them the right women for marriage, in His time.

  4. Jaime Doctolero

    May 23, 2017 at 1:35 pm


  5. Sandra Axenov

    May 23, 2017 at 10:40 am

    Gionna Wampler❤️

  6. Gina Gandulpos Rosario

    May 23, 2017 at 7:17 am

    Sometimes devil uses your love ones…

  7. Pamela Geren

    May 23, 2017 at 1:38 am

    <3 thank you for sending <3 Nicolle Valles

  8. Nicolle Valles

    May 23, 2017 at 1:35 am

    Pamela Geren

  9. Terry Daley

    May 23, 2017 at 1:14 am

    Thank you Jesus Amen

  10. Tina Keys

    May 22, 2017 at 10:53 pm

    Amen. I needed this.

  11. Brina Doc

    May 22, 2017 at 10:29 pm

    Good Advise

  12. Evangelist Ope Kenny

    May 22, 2017 at 9:52 pm

    The devil is fighting hard to take away your
    salvation, he is sending demons after you,
    tasking them to destroy you, thats why you are
    battling with many things in your mind immoral
    thoughts, many temptations within your heart the
    motion of the carnal man, God wants to help you,
    and give you grace to overcome sin, lust, pride,
    burning anger, bitterness, envy, fear, evil
    thoughts and immoral desires. Since you are
    willingly to make heaven, He is deciding to help
    you and stop those demons, bad dreams, attacks
    from the devil to bring you back to sin’s yoke.
    Be committed to personal prayers and bible
    reading, to overcome
    Divine camera is watching you from heaven dont
    be keeping girlfriend secretly, masturbating,
    telling lies, watching pornography secretly,
    dancing worldly musics, watching worldly films,
    jokes, naked pictures and think no body is seeing
    me, God is seeing from heaven. God wants to
    help you live holy if you care for holiness, he
    wants to give you wisdom to do that restitution
    bothering you, He wants to help you.
    Sister, be humble and seek help from God and
    counselling, open up and confess your secret
    sins stop hiding, get rid of pride and come to
    Jesus for perfect salvation stop going to church
    and giving offerings only without repentance it
    will not cover your sins, repent and accept
    God is interested in you He wants to help you
    finish all your restitution, last minute grace for
    heaven, He desires you make rapture, stop living
    in secret sins, change.
    Brother, make sure you settle with everybody you
    offended, pay your debts, if you mistakenly tell a
    lie correct yourself dont say it doesnt matter,
    God wants you to make heaven.

    • George Man

      May 22, 2017 at 11:23 pm

      he cant take noones salvation away that is born again

    • Je Fer Peralta

      May 23, 2017 at 1:33 am

      Being a born again in words is not guaranty you are save. Salvation is day by day….. we need to workout for our salvation through adopting CHRIST likeness n words n actions.

  13. Terri LovestoLaugh Leatherwood

    May 22, 2017 at 9:41 pm

    Nicely written

  14. Margaret Garcia

    May 22, 2017 at 9:35 pm

    Needed to hear this

  15. Linky Roxy Kamo Moshidi

    May 22, 2017 at 9:19 pm

    I really needed this

  16. Rodjine Charles

    May 7, 2017 at 1:21 pm

    Lilianne IsThankful StLouis Santana D’amour Givincia Gi-gi Exantus

  17. Antoinette Burns

    May 7, 2017 at 5:20 am

    Shanice Jones what do you think?

  18. Kimberly Johnson

    May 7, 2017 at 3:30 am

    Josh Johnson

  19. Nicole Cato

    May 6, 2017 at 11:04 pm

    Needed this.

  20. Tanya Rose

    May 6, 2017 at 10:52 pm

    Alora Canty.good read

  21. Cheryl Lynne

    May 6, 2017 at 7:41 pm

    4 years ago I married myself to Jesus and haven’t known a man since. Best decision I’ve ever made.

  22. Cynthia Doughty

    May 6, 2017 at 6:16 pm

    That Was My Current Situation, Especially the Unequally Yoke statement! Back in GOD’S Presence! Hallelujah! Amen.

  23. Judy Peer

    May 6, 2017 at 12:53 pm

    Miss you too

  24. Brittney Cook

    May 6, 2017 at 12:22 pm

    Kindra McCleary

  25. Brinn Nicole

    May 6, 2017 at 11:50 am


  26. Lidya Nega

    May 6, 2017 at 9:10 am

    Its very true. Good relationship it always lead to Christ not bed. Christ always be the center of relationship. She and he will be very strong in their spiritual perspective. I advice for women marred someone who loves God so much because believe me most importantly believe God he knows how to treat women and he will stick to her forever. For men i advice you fellows marred women who loves God so much because she knows how to be a good wife and a mother God is a good teacher beside School. He is. :-). Its a good advice indeed. :-). I learn from it.

  27. Shalom Dhlomo

    May 6, 2017 at 8:53 am

    lts true ,

  28. Benitha Tambwe

    May 6, 2017 at 8:51 am

    Shekina Pilipili Rayssa Kapinga

  29. Aretha Broughton

    May 6, 2017 at 8:02 am

    Thank God for closed doors!

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  31. Rebecca Howard

    April 27, 2017 at 2:57 pm

    LeGina Watson hmmmmm….

  32. Itumeleng Kgaile

    April 25, 2017 at 8:46 am

    Thank you and much appreciate for sharing… How I needed this

  33. Anna Katrina Canta

    April 25, 2017 at 1:56 am true. Relate ako sa lahat girl. Must read.. Kzel J. Maninang

  34. Giovanni Mckenzie

    April 24, 2017 at 10:25 pm

    Wow!!!!! Confirmation

  35. Timika Lewis

    April 24, 2017 at 4:59 pm

    Thank you for sharingneeded this!

  36. Missy Doak

    April 24, 2017 at 12:24 pm

    So true. Great read

  37. Cassandra Cayaditto

    April 24, 2017 at 10:27 am

    Augh.. I’m my own distraction

  38. Cristiana Paez

    April 24, 2017 at 4:56 am

    But what if you already have kids… and he says he wants change, wants his family, and wants to go to church…. but there is history and a lot of pain involved. Very confused, but glad I read this.

  39. Pearl Taylor

    April 24, 2017 at 4:45 am


  40. Kimmie Baker

    April 24, 2017 at 2:18 am

    Definitely needed to read this one

  41. Antinelle Keepitreal Francis

    April 24, 2017 at 1:45 am


  42. Ellah Reu Cabaya

    April 24, 2017 at 1:30 am

    I needed this for Guidance…thank you

  43. Rebz Engbecky

    April 24, 2017 at 1:25 am

    I needed this

  44. Esther Alvarez

    April 24, 2017 at 12:56 am

    I really needed to read this i need god so much at this poiny in my life

  45. Marcy Murillo

    April 23, 2017 at 11:56 pm

    Betty Murillo

  46. Natassia Hoke

    April 23, 2017 at 11:44 pm

    Krystle Keys

  47. Pamela Andrews

    April 23, 2017 at 11:35 pm

    Unique Meeka Williams praying this helps some.

  48. Memory Sandra Marowa

    April 23, 2017 at 11:27 pm

    Lord I need your help

  49. Rosie Love

    April 23, 2017 at 10:30 pm

    Nikole Draft :•/

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    April 21, 2017 at 7:30 am

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    April 21, 2017 at 7:30 am

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  57. Sailas Mali

    April 20, 2017 at 4:35 pm

    The two go together.

  58. Robbie Benita

    April 20, 2017 at 2:34 pm

    Wow!!! Wonderful

  59. Mary Demmer

    April 20, 2017 at 11:59 am

    Amen !

  60. Fiyinfoluwa Alabi

    April 20, 2017 at 11:43 am

    Awesome words. Thanks

  61. Tiffany Wrobel

    April 20, 2017 at 9:37 am

    Always …. my Life is a disaster right now. God… please guide me!!!!!

  62. Junior N Nomez

    April 20, 2017 at 9:30 am

    Aggie Delai Nategunivikai ❤️

  63. Eliana Heke

    April 20, 2017 at 9:04 am

    Drew Manu its a good read babe

    • Drew Manu

      April 20, 2017 at 9:09 am

      Read it soon just having a feed

  64. Cyrille Gatdula

    April 20, 2017 at 9:02 am

    Must read Julliana Kei Pino Rocen Jerly B. Sentillas Ella CasipitIBelle Ivy Baloloy Isna Baloloy Anna Kristine MayvAnn Maire Jamili Ivy Galleza Modelo

    Is he a dirstraction or inspiration?

  65. Diana del Aguila

    April 20, 2017 at 8:07 am

    This is an awesome article Manuel Delaguila!! I pray you will read it and then pray and ask God for His instruction! I love you son!

  66. Melissa Ford

    April 20, 2017 at 4:38 am

    Nothing but the truth.. I’m listening Lord

  67. Shaniva Sass

    April 20, 2017 at 3:39 am


  68. Sandy Arnold

    April 20, 2017 at 3:21 am

    God is first.

  69. Milagros Garcia

    April 20, 2017 at 2:50 am

    Yes it’s true

  70. Terry Daley

    April 20, 2017 at 2:04 am


  71. Mocha Williams

    April 20, 2017 at 1:58 am


  72. Ellah Reu Cabaya

    April 20, 2017 at 1:42 am

    Thank You The Praying Woman..You Inspires me a lot.You give me wisdom and understanding to encourage others as well…

  73. Lorena Manzano Bitantes

    April 20, 2017 at 1:41 am

    absolutely true!

  74. Bobbie Deal

    April 20, 2017 at 1:41 am

    Amen soooo true

  75. Miriam Reyes

    April 20, 2017 at 12:55 am

    100% truth!

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