7 Things to Remember When God’s Plan is Painful

when god's plan is painfulSeveral years ago, my dear friend, Kalli, was diagnosed with breast cancer. She faced her diagnosis with courage and a smile. Treatment after treatment of chemotherapy was required, but that never stopped her from smiling or from serving others. Her motto was, “What can I do for you?” and every time she went for her treatment, she took gift cards to pass out to others who found their diagnosis discouraging in order to brighten their day.

As the years progressed, so did her cancer. It was moving through other organs until it was no longer possible for her to heal. Still, she was smiling to the end and asking with her bald head and puffy cheeks, “What can I do for you?” from the confinement of her hospital room. Last year, Kalli passed away leaving her husband and two young children behind.

You may feel Kalli’s story is a sad one since it ended with her death.

But Kalli’s story is truly beautiful because she lived.

We will all die at the end of our story.

But what is of greatest importance is how we live.

Sometimes, God will place difficult chapters in our story that will be hard to get through and make us want to quit. There will be pain, sorrow, sadness and suffering and at times we will cry ourselves to sleep at night. But we must remember God knows best, and in those most trying of times we must rely on him.

In my own life, when I hit those chapters that are painful, there are certain things I try to remember that help me get through those difficult moments. Some of those coping strategies, I’ve taken directly out of Kalli’s own storybook.

Here are 7 Things to Remember When God’s Plan is Painful

First, I remember that a chapter is a chapter, not the entire book

Chapters come to an end, and a new one begins. The pain may be strong in the chapter you’re living, but time and a willingness to move forward will help. The further you move into your story, the more God will heal your soul.

Second, I remember I am not the author

Even though I have the ability to choose, I do not have the ability to decide what happens. I cannot bring a loved one back from the dead nor heal my child from an illness. I can’t make choices for anyone else but myself. No amount of worry is going to change what God has already planned, and if I accept His will, He will comfort me when I need Him.

Third, I remember that every story has ups and downs

There has to be good and bad in every story in order for growth to happen. Part of this life is about gaining experience. If I always take the easy way out, then I will never receive the growth necessary for me to return to my Heavenly Father. At times, there is going to be wind and waves, but just like a ship out at sea, both the wind and the waves are necessary to take us to our destination.

Fourth, when my story’s a tough one to read, I try to remember to step away from my own story and into the story of another.

Kalli was the perfect example of this. Rather than dwell on her own circumstances, she looked around at others to help. She was an inspiration for others going through similar experiences, and for those of us who were experiencing far less. At Kalli’s funeral, they passed out magnets with her motto, “What can I do for you?” I have adopted that motto as my own, so should you. When your story is tough, ask what you can do for others. It’s the best way to get your mind and heart in a better place.

Fifth, I try to never forget my smile

Of course, there are days when it’s tough, but a smile can go a long way when it comes to helping you to walk through a tough chapter. Laughter is even better medicine. Try to cheerfully do all you can then stand still and let God do the rest. He’s promised you He will. Not only will your smile help your own mood, but it will be contagious and allow others to find inspiration through you.

Sixth, I try to remember I am not alone

When life is overwhelming, many of us have the tendency to lock ourselves in a dark room and suffer in silence. This is not a healthy way to deal with your pain. God has sent so many people into your life who are just a phone call away. Never forget there are people who love you and want to be a part of your story. Stories would be incredibly boring if they only included one character. Fill your story with others.

And finally, I remember to live

I remember that life is a gift. No matter how painful it may be at times, it is always a blessing to be alive. I remember to love, to laugh, to kiss my husband and hug my children and to tell my family I love them. I remember to spend time with my friends and share goodness because this life is full of small moments that we can’t ever get back again. And, above all, I remember to thank God every day of my life for giving me a brand new day to do it all over again.

God is a loving God, and I believe He sends us people like Kalli to help us recognize those things in life that are most important.

Kalli’s story helps us see how to follow God’s plan gracefully, even when his plan is painful. So when God’s plan requires you and I to do something painful, we can remember her story and live.



  1. Dresses

    May 28, 2017 at 1:53 pm

    omg this is soo nice (Y)

  2. Sally Esi Akosua Ansah

    May 28, 2017 at 1:01 am

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  3. Donna Southwick

    May 26, 2017 at 1:45 am

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  4. Danielle Bailor

    May 25, 2017 at 11:57 pm

    Isabella Melendez

  5. Janella Penny

    May 25, 2017 at 10:46 pm

    Absolutely ive been financially unstable to afford independent living,ive been saving my money for years ,i saved enough money to pay cash in full for my car.Now i need to find away to get out this living situation .I sometimes find myself falling on my knees asking God why me? Im a good person i help others im kind i work hard. But i guess its going to be hard and where theres a will there has to be a way.

  6. Mpho MrsMazzy

    May 25, 2017 at 8:28 pm

    Neoza Gifted Gift

  7. Pam Princexx

    May 25, 2017 at 7:40 pm

    Dan Kinyanjui Read this for the Lord is with you.

  8. Louise Spiret

    May 25, 2017 at 6:59 pm

    It’s just a bit of pruning!

  9. Veronica Kawonza

    May 25, 2017 at 6:37 pm

    gd is good all the time sisi dorothy . always watching us.

  10. Mzz Unilove

    May 25, 2017 at 6:27 pm

    It’s so painful sometimes when you really face a most difficult situation, disappointments etc and you think God has left /forgotten you and all you ask yourself and God is why me?? Prayer becomes very difficult. But God is faithful, when we rely on Him, We will surely smile at the storm.

  11. Winnie Tsakane Baloyi

    May 25, 2017 at 2:51 pm

    That is true. I have been looking for a job for the past years but I get my applications are unsuccessful. I am still sending out my cvs cus I know God will one day open my doors to success. I wont give up

  12. Lori Pettibone

    May 25, 2017 at 12:47 pm

    Tekuhiminiwi CaaSeep

  13. Osasu Udinyiwe

    May 25, 2017 at 12:04 pm

    AMEN,,thank you Jesus

  14. Angelina Dowdell

    May 25, 2017 at 10:32 am

    That is so true sometimes you want to throw the towel in but you. WAnt because u got to have faith in god because i know for myself he’s not going to give me no more than i can bare it may seem hard BUt it’s fair

  15. Mariz Chua

    May 25, 2017 at 9:26 am


  16. Cathy DubYa

    May 25, 2017 at 6:56 am

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  17. Blessings J Darlene

    May 25, 2017 at 6:54 am

    inspiring article

  18. Diana Adams

    May 25, 2017 at 5:42 am

    Good article. Well said!

  19. Zanele Mthembu

    May 25, 2017 at 4:53 am

    im in pain my heart is in pieces even if I want to pray I dnt knw where to start

    • Annah Elizabeth Kesentseng Ditsele

      May 25, 2017 at 5:00 am

      just follow ur heart and say excatly how you feel….tell it all on God…

    • Zanele Mthembu

      May 25, 2017 at 5:31 am

      I tried so many times bt I cant

    • Jenny MaJoko

      May 25, 2017 at 6:35 am

      Zanele crying is another way of praying, just cry ur heart out to God, He knows and He understand. He knows da pain u are going through. Even if there is no words coming out of ur mouth bt ur tears say it all (Psalm 56:8).

    • Zanele Mthembu

      May 25, 2017 at 8:14 am

      thanx Jenny

    • Jenny MaJoko

      May 25, 2017 at 8:42 am

      You welcomed cc, hope all will be well with you, in Jesus name

  20. Caro Kotei Gyan

    May 25, 2017 at 4:20 am

    Through it all i will learn to trust in Jesus. Amen

  21. Dar Cameron

    May 25, 2017 at 3:53 am

    So needed to see this during my hard times I’m going through atm

  22. Patricia Brown McCray

    May 25, 2017 at 3:39 am

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  23. Ronnelene Dolendo

    May 25, 2017 at 3:01 am

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  24. Melissa Bailey Pursley

    May 25, 2017 at 2:31 am

    Needed this.

  25. Esvilla Danica Villanueva

    May 25, 2017 at 1:53 am

    Yami Binay

  26. Cikizwa Vikilahle

    May 25, 2017 at 1:11 am

    Amen you talking yo me right now

  27. Estela Yoshizumi

    May 25, 2017 at 12:43 am


  28. Lia Wilkins

    May 24, 2017 at 11:49 pm

    Nadjia Ellis-Clark

  29. Mimie Yakson

    May 24, 2017 at 11:40 pm

    Amen, help me Lord Jesus

  30. Elaine Samson

    May 24, 2017 at 11:23 pm


  31. Alice Palandjian

    May 24, 2017 at 11:14 pm

    Amen i know Lord you are there for me in my trouble times hold my hands.

  32. Cho Lonitz

    May 24, 2017 at 11:01 pm

    AmenThank you Lord! for blessing me more…e.

  33. Lorna Marie Lariviere

    May 24, 2017 at 10:54 pm


  34. Mary Buku

    May 24, 2017 at 10:38 pm

    Amen b4 it he knew it all

  35. Amber Triplett

    May 24, 2017 at 10:36 pm

    I needed this! Thank you Lord! Amen!!

  36. Paul Kesa Toga

    May 24, 2017 at 10:34 pm

    God you kno me too me in my painful moments!!!

  37. Kim Fincanon Edwards

    May 24, 2017 at 10:26 pm

    Jordan Gulledge

  38. Mary Demmer

    May 24, 2017 at 10:23 pm

    Amen ! Please stay with me DEAR LORD !

  39. Brina Doc

    May 24, 2017 at 10:07 pm

    God is Still in Control .. Amen

  40. Kara Rachelle Pickering

    May 24, 2017 at 10:05 pm

    I needed this! It’s in His hands. ✝️

  41. Becky Arnold

    May 24, 2017 at 9:33 pm

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  42. Tambudzai Tsapo

    May 24, 2017 at 9:21 pm


  43. Selma N Gwadaafita Ampweya

    May 24, 2017 at 9:15 pm


  44. Frances Jones

    May 24, 2017 at 9:14 pm

    I’ll put it in your hands Lord,

  45. Blu Amante'

    May 24, 2017 at 9:13 pm

    Idk everything that’s goin on but I kno this can def help u love u Melanie Sims

  46. Pauline Leger

    May 24, 2017 at 9:11 pm


  47. David Ofosu-Appiah

    May 24, 2017 at 9:11 pm

    Amen, God knows best, we have to trust Him and have faith in God.

  48. Yubi Atsituabselaznog

    May 24, 2017 at 9:11 pm


  49. Francinah Msiza

    May 24, 2017 at 9:09 pm

    Thank u God. U are with me all the time as u said in u word that u will be there for us until the end of time Amen.

  50. George Man

    May 24, 2017 at 9:09 pm

    i ignore the pain just shut that emotion down with silence

  51. Rebecca Khunoana

    May 24, 2017 at 9:07 pm


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