3 Steps To Break Free From Ungodly Relationships…
There are many reasons you may be in the midst of a toxic, unhealthy, or ungodly relationship or in the process of getting over one.
A toxic relationship is any relationship that cripples your ability to flourish in God’s purpose and plan for your life.
There is one theme that has always rang true for me as it relates to toxic relationships: I did not seek God before entering into the relationship.
It was always a relationship that I chose because it lined up with my desires at the time, which were very far from God’s desires.
No matter how right they feel, some relationships are better left in the past. Here are 3 Steps To Break Free From Ungodly Relationships…
Ask yourself this very crucial question: Did God approve the relationship to begin with?
If you are currently in a relationship that is draining the life from you, your first step should be an evaluation. How did you get there? I can guarantee you it wasn’t God who brought the two of you together.
God only ordains or approves relationships that are designed to help us live out our God-given purpose.
Any relationship that does contrary is most likely one we have chosen and choose to remain in because of our own personal wants and desires.
If you are in a relationship that God did not approve, it’s not the end of the world! It may actually be the beginning of something very liberating, if you can find the strength to admit your error.
The truth will make you free, and it will begin to lift the burden that you have been carrying around.
Only listen to Godly counsel.
The second thing you must do if you are trying to break free from a toxic relationship is:
When you are dealing with very stressful situations, it is your first inclination to seek the opinion of friends and family. There is nothing wrong with that if they are giving you Godly counsel.
But if they are just telling you what they personally think and feel, you are going to remain bound.
Friends and family mean well most of the time. Because we often want to please them and not upset them, we follow their advice even when God is speaking something totally different.
Don’t label fear as confusion.
The third thing that is important for you to know if you are trying to break free from a toxic relationship:Don’t label fear as confusion.
Often times when we begin to seek God about a situation that could change the course of our lives, He will speak something to us that we were not expecting.
When it comes to a relationship that we have chosen to remain in despite its toxic nature, we are overtaken with fear if God tells us to walk away. Instead of admitting we are fearful, we say “I am confused.”
Labeling fear as confusion feels better because it continues to justify our reason for not leaving. Listen to me closely, God NEVER intends for you to remain in any relationship that strips you of your dignity and self-worth.
Yes, every relationship requires work and will experience hardships. However, there is a very significant difference between the normal ups and downs of a relationship and outright physical, mental and emotional abuse.
God does not require you to endure anything of that nature. Not even to prove your love for Him or for the other person involved. Many times we choose to stay because we don’t want to feel like a failure.
I know from personal experience that God can and will restore you. It doesn’t matter how long you have remained in that ungodly relationship.
He will put your broken pieces back together and He will begin to rebuild you. You must make a decision that His purpose for your life is more important to you than how others see you or even how you see yourself.
Always remember, there is life after a toxic relationship!
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Grace Vitt Mary-Ann Vitt love you both.
Amen
Amen, it is so liberating
Guillane Joy Ruiz Bumatay
Amen
Not just everyone can work for police. You’ve got to know the law and have an education as well, and it is really dangerous for the unqualified.
God used to send me signs and warnings but I didn’t pay attention I only realized after six years. I believe its not too late to let God guide me again
Isiah McGill
I totally agreee….our God is a faithful God, he will never leave nor forsake us. All warnings and signs are realeved with time. No one is obligated or responsible to stay in an abusive relationships. We all have the ability to be whatever we want through christ
Lindsey Carpenter you are such a strong beautiful woman! Keep leaning on Him and trusting in His plan. I love you and am here for ya girl!
Seek the Lord in all things.. He alone gives wisdom and teaches the right path, points the right decision for your good. obedience is a must to prosper His plans for us!
I’m very encouraged reading this, thank U for posting this wisdom!
56 yes… when? I don’t believe he is saved… says he is, but absolutely no evidence.. never reads bible never prays… never wants to watch or listen to any Christian radio etc .
But When God is in it , it feels right. And when he’s not it doesn’t. God will send all kinds of signs and warnings. We just have to be paying attention and follow our heart and instincts. I’ve been through this and thank God I was obedient because I feel better and happier than ever now since I divorced
Amen lesson learned
Mae Ruth Navarro Talag
So true
Amen
Never again Amen
Peej Perese ❤️