People deal with pain in many different ways.  We have our own survival stories and tactics to healing.  Here are some simple steps you can try to get to your healing process. 1.  Vent it all out before God.   Whenever I feel anger creeping inside of me and make me want to say and do things I won’t under normal circumstances, I cry it all out to God.  I know He already knows how I feel, but I tell Him just the same.  I believe more than being a Judge, Creator and King, He is a loving and caring Father…

People don’t always enter therapy with personal growth as their primary goal, but they almost always leave believing they’re a better human being. In several years of helping people improve their self-awareness, self-efficacy and self-esteem, here are nine commonalities I notice become more evident as my clients grow: 1. You notice and verbalize (with composure) when you’re wrong. It’s far easier to get defensive and deny responsibility, or become overwhelmed with shame for our act of imperfection or ignorance. Being able to acknowledge when we’re in the wrong takes humility, self-compassion and courage. 2. You’re aware of your biases. We…

Do not neglect to do good and to share what you have, for such sacrifices are pleasing to God. ~Hebrews 13:16 It’s funny to me how we ask to be more like Jesus yet when the time comes we cry, run, act like we can’t handle it. We get assigned to people and when their needs get to be too much for us to handle, we ask God to release us from them. Remove the load that has been placed on us because we can’t help them and ourselves.  We cry out that we have too much to handle in…

This video is so on point. We’re stuck in a generation that doesn’t believe in picking up the phone to share important news. It’s so much easier to just post it on their Facebook Pages. I have a cousin who got married a couple of weeks ago and guess how myself and the rest of the family found out? Yep… Facebook. Skyping is considered talking face to face. Sad, but true.

These three tips can help you avoid making the following mistakes. Here are three biggest mistakes Christians make when dating:

My devotion earlier this week dealt with the woman at the well’s encounter with Jesus in John 4:1-42. I have read this story countless times. In fact, I can recount it from memory. But the Holy Spirit showed me the passage in a different light this time around. After the woman had her encounter with Jesus, the text says in John 4:28-29 28 The woman then left her water pot, went her way into the city, and said to the men, 29 “Come, see a Man who told me all things that I ever did. Could this be the Christ?”…

If you’re anything like me, you ponder on where you are in life.  You look at where you wanted to be, where you could have been, and even where you should have been. One thing I’ve learned about myself is that I cannot spend too much time thinking about where I am in life.  Why?  Well, because if I think too long, I begin to compare my life to the lives of others around me: friends, family, associates.  I have dealt with self-esteem issues for most of my life, so sometimes, when my mind is idle (meaning, I’m not keeping…

“Eliminate physical clutter. More importantly, eliminate spiritual clutter.”  -D.H. Mondfleur With all the studying I’ve done related to clutter and to the Bible separately, I was surprised that I never considered studying what the Bible has to say about clutter until someone else asked me about it. Having taken three semesters of Koine Greek in college, my first thought was, “What would be the Greek word for clutter? I don’t think that’s in the Bible.” Upon further thought, I realized that even if I it doesn’t say that word specifically, it must talk about the basic principles. The Rich Young…

Prayer is the most important conversation of the day. Take it to God before you take it to anyone else!

Marriage is a gift from God. Yet often, the greatest gifts in life are not always cherished the way they should be. Maybe because life gets a little busy, or we get hurried and distracted. Maybe because we start to take one another for granted. Or we disagree and let resentment hang on longer than it should. The baggage we bring from our past doesn’t help much either. What worked for us as two individuals, coping through the everyday stresses of life, may not work so well when joined as “one.” We spin our wheels comparing our own marriage to someone…

If you are in a relationship or you are engaged and getting cold feet… Here are 5 Signs You May Not Be Ready For Marriage

When you’re busy thanking God in all circumstances, you don’t have time to worry or complain.

When God wants two hearts to meet, He moves both of them, not just one.

Venting and gossiping are both are equally common components of social groups. People who are in close proximity to one another sometimes develop problems with one another. Venting is when you get these problems off your chest by speaking about them to someone else. Gossiping, on the other hand, is when you talk about other people behind their backs. Nine times out of ten, It probably doesn’t even concern you, but rather just sharing a fact or opinion about one person with another person. It is important to understand the difference between the two so you know what is appropriate and what…

Many singles dread Valentine’s Day. While guys and girls have their own specific set of challenges that stem from this holiday; the single woman’s struggle is unique for many reasons. Many women have been taught to hold Valentine’s Day in high regard and often feel like they’re lacking in the relationship area of their life if they are single on Valentine’s Day or any other day of the year. Living in Los Angeles I have the privilege of being friends with women from diverse ethnic groups; and one thing they all have in common is that they’re all looking for…

People tend to look at someone’s appearance. God looks at the heart.

   Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised. ~Proverbs 31:30 Everybody wants to be beautiful and attractive.  The good news is.. you are. Everyone has something unique about them that makes them beautiful. Your flaws to you, someone else may see as beauty. And then there’s always those who are always going to see your flaws no matter how beautiful you are.  Here are Four Things To Remember When Insecurities Set In: 1. Be optimistic.  You become radiant when you are exuding with positive energy.  Sometimes you wonder why some…

One woman’s prayer request for her troubled marriage.

Early in my Christian walk I had a real issue with guilt and shame. Not with past sins, but rather the ones I committed after I became a Christian. My reasoning was that after becoming a Christian I should be perfect, that after confessing my sins to God and inviting Christ into my heart, I had to keep up the standard of purity God had given me. Of course I know now that my purity is God -given through Christ and Jesus’ gift of salvation to me can never be tainted or taken away because of my bad behaviour. It is not based on my merit or my…

When you completely trust God, you don’t have to wonder if everything will be okay… You just know. Here are 3 Things To Do When It Seems Like Your Life is Falling Apart