Going through heartbreak can feel like being underwater when you need to breathe. We build our lives with someone we trust and care for, and then, in the blink of an eye, it’s all gone. This can leave people feeling sorrow, anger, and some serious questions about themselves and the future.
If you’re dealing with heartbreak and want to heal, Here are 10 Things You Should Never Do After a Breakup:
1. Don’t hold a grudge.
Forgive them. Even if they’re not sorry. That doesn’t mean you have to get back together with them. You can forgive them, wish them well, and part ways. Forgiveness is an essential part of healing your broken heart. In order to move on, you need to forgive the other person.
2. Don’t be afraid to admit to your feelings.
Let it out. It’s normal to feel sad. Don’t feel weak or stupid if you cry or get upset. These things are normal. Going through grief is just another step along the path to recovery. Let yourself grieve.
3. Don’t expect to heal overnight.
If you expect to be completely healed in a day after being in a relationship for three-years, you could be sorely disappointed.
4. Don’t be so hard on yourself.
Give yourself some ‘me’ time. You’ve probably been in a relationship for a while. Now is the time to take a step back, look at your life, and move on to the next challenge. Everyone falls down. It’s how you get back up that defines you.
5. Don’t obsess over whose fault it was.
We all make mistakes. There are probably some things you wish you could change or take back. If so, focus on fixing those issues for your next relationship.
6. Don’t Speak out of Emotions.
Avoid doing and/or saying something that you will end up regretting!
7. Don’t add insult to injury.
Distance yourself from your ex. This includes social networking. You can’t heal if you’re constantly opening up old wounds. Think of it as cutting a wound open that has stopped bleeding and started closing.
8. Don’t rush into another relationship.
Start dating other people once you feel ready again.
9. Don’t compare everyone else to your ex.
A lot of times, we keep ourselves from entering into new relationships because we are looking for someone just like the one who has already hurt us. (sad but true)
10. Don’t be afraid to love again.
You have to open yourself up to possible heartbreak if you want to love again. But it’s worth it. Allow God to place your heart in the hands of the right person and He’ll reward you infinitely.