” In a few months my daughter will stand in front of a minister and get married to another woman. I love my daughter dearly, but I am not okay with this so I do not plan to attend the wedding. The problem is, My daughter suffers from Bi-Polar and has already tried to commit suicide once a few years ago. Her reason was that she felt like no one (specifically me) accepted her for who she was so she would rather be dead. I have not expressed to my daughter yet my intention to skip the wedding. My fear is that she will have another suicidal episode. We’ve come a long way. There was a time when I wouldn’t even let her mention the girl’s name to me or allow her to bring her to my home. I’m getting better at accepting it, but I feel like this is pushing it too far. I’m torn. I’m not sure what the right thing to do is at this point. Am I disappointing God if I go? “
Weddings are celebrations of the unions between a couple whether it be a same sex wedding or a heterosexual wedding, the way God designed it. By attending a wedding you are sending a message that the bride and groom (or couple) have your blessing. You are rooting for them and you wish them a lifetime of happiness together. If this is simply not the case with you, why bother going?
In regards to your daughter’s mental condition, I would of course suggest you pray about it. Ask God to give you the gentle words to have a heart to heart with her without condemning her, belittling her, or making her feel as though you don’t love her because of her choices.
You can explain to her that while you’ll try to respect her decisions, you’ll appreciate it if she also respects yours. And this includes your decision to not attend her same sex wedding. Let her know how much you love her, but also let her know that by attending her wedding you would be going against your one true love, God.
You guys are in my prayers. God bless you both.