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5 Godly Characteristics To Look For In a Man

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When there is greatness on the horizon, the devil will always send “The Counterfeit Man”. His witty methods are designed to block blessings, good juju, and a great man, but when God has something amazing for you, it will go beyond your comprehension.

I am sure you are wondering who is the counterfeit man? The counterfeit man is any man who distracts, delays, interrupts, or totally obstructs God’s plan for the single woman’s life. God’s plan for the single woman’s future is often hindered when she becomes involved with “The Counterfeit Man”

I found myself in an all wrong relationship when I turned 30. I never once considered if the ‘great man’ who found me was counterfeit or legit. He spun an impenetrable web delicately laced with dreams of an amazing life. We were all sold: my family, friends and most importantly me. I imbibed it, no questions asked. I later discovered the depth of my counterfeit’s ramshackle and debatable character and paid a hefty price for my naiveté.

Character must take precedence over charisma. I learned the hard way. Anyone can be charismatic. Mr. Charisma spots you from across the way, is ridiculously attractive, says all the right things and is magnetic.

You can’t put your finger on it, but you know you feel connected in some way. That doesn’t mean he has the character to back up all that finesse and allure. That is substantiated by time and consistency.

There are 5 characteristics I now look for in a Godly man.

1. Committed

Say yes to the man whose mind is already made up. He is the man you’ll be able to set your watch by. You can count on him to do his very best. His mind is made up, he’s all in and consulting God every single step of the way. Say no to the man who is ‘making up his mind’ about you, his life and living in general.

2. Protection

Physical protection is important; but it is a given. Say yes to the man who will protect you with his words. He will be gentle and always address you with respect. He won’t put you down in public nor will he ridicule you behind closed doors. He will have your back even if that means he has to stand up to his friends, family or his mama. This is a man who will be encouraging and supportive. He will make you feel provided for (financially, emotionally, and mentally) and he will make ‘it’ work–all of it.

3. Reliable

Don’t get it tangled with boring. Say yes to Mr. Reliable. He is the man who will be consistently dependable. He will have resilient character; and will also be a good judge of it. This man will walk in wisdom and use the spirit of discernment to lead and cover his family. You will count on him to make good decisions and right choices, even if you’re not around to assist. You will trust in his reaction to certain situations and overall he will be reliable in how he does life and how he studies God’s word. One thing he won’t be is boring.

4. Motivated

This man isn’t just sitting around waiting for someone else to stir his pot. He’s already gassed up and ready to drive. He will be motivated to work, get things done and be the provider that he was called to be. It’s not about the fancy education, the latest pair of sneakers, those perfect set of pearly whites or the rippling abs that have helped him get by all this time. Ask yourself: Is he a hard worker? When the tough times come, will he be so prideful that he won’t take a menial job temporarily to make ends meet?

5. Mindful

Say yes to the mindful man who thinks of you—always. You may not always like him, but you will always love him. You will value his mind and appreciate the way he thinks. His heart and intentions will be pure. He will consider that you’re a light sleeper. He will think about how your daughter is scared of the dark and ensure her nightlight will always shine. He will understand you live in a hurricane area and will stock extra canned goods, water and kerosene lamp. This is the man who’s got those broad shoulders to carry you and his family.

Of course there are additional traits I would like in my husband: humorous, easy-going, good-looking and so on. But when I consider my future vows, the solid foundation wins. The other desires held in my heart and his will be added to us as God promises in His word.

A great man will reveal these characteristics over time.

To the man of good character and pure heart—say yes. Choose him. Want him. Pick him. Love him. Don’t just love him because of; love him in spite of—in spite of his flaws and insecurities, his past pains and failures along with all the mistakes he will make.

He won’t be perfect, but this great man will have his priorities straight. He’ll have a heart after the Lord. He’ll love you not just the way he wants to be loved, but the way you need to be loved.

Don’t settle. Wait for him—the right ‘him’. You’ll be blown away when God sends you His best.

71 Comments

71 Comments

  1. Lizeth Murillo

    June 7, 2017 at 3:52 am

    Roxana Ortiz Mangensen

  2. Hana Bragg

    June 6, 2017 at 10:05 pm

    Amen

  3. Shenae Howard

    June 5, 2017 at 7:23 pm

    Tracy this is something I’m taking very seriously right now.

    • Tracy Wilson

      June 5, 2017 at 8:27 pm

      I love the part that says that he won’t be perfect! This is a good list. I will be here as a sister and friend to remind you to keep your eyes open concerning these traits.

  4. Jahara Marie Geraldez Rosales

    June 5, 2017 at 2:59 pm

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  5. Maria Glenda A. Yosorez

    June 5, 2017 at 2:47 pm

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  6. Lisa Hinds

    June 5, 2017 at 4:27 am

    Kami Hinds

  7. Tonja Wright

    June 5, 2017 at 3:49 am

    1-5
    #IsaidYES

  8. Kimberly Boyd Fynaardt

    June 5, 2017 at 2:52 am

    Kayla Fynaardt

  9. Nylrihs Carrera

    June 5, 2017 at 12:59 am

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  10. Luniliye Queen Kag

    June 4, 2017 at 10:31 pm

    He is a HEAVEN sent….a worth waiting for.

  11. Bev Escott

    June 4, 2017 at 8:44 pm

    Chloe Escott

  12. Jane Wright

    June 4, 2017 at 8:36 pm

    Chad Dallaire

  13. Bineeta Ram

    June 4, 2017 at 7:12 pm

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  14. Dana Goodrum

    June 4, 2017 at 7:07 pm

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  15. Kim McCory

    June 4, 2017 at 6:37 pm

    Amen 🙂

  16. Stacey Abrams

    June 4, 2017 at 3:54 pm

    Aloma Alicia

  17. Janice Davis

    June 4, 2017 at 3:50 pm

    It will be worth the wait!

  18. Jackie Detling

    June 4, 2017 at 2:39 pm

    Shelby Fox Kelsey Rose Fox good advise!

  19. Daphne Nazziwa

    June 4, 2017 at 2:32 pm

    True coz they usually speak louder

  20. Leticia Reyna

    June 4, 2017 at 1:51 pm

    So true!

  21. Becca Lynn

    June 4, 2017 at 1:33 pm

    I want someone like this.

  22. Kristie Burford Barger

    June 4, 2017 at 1:24 pm

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  23. Chidinma Precious Ohaeri

    June 4, 2017 at 12:43 pm

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  24. Gaudiosa Grafilo

    June 4, 2017 at 12:41 pm

    Jeremie Harris <3

  25. Missmemissalimarie Alice Veno

    June 4, 2017 at 12:11 pm

    I need a break from men. I made a promise to myself & my son not to get involve. Thanks for the wise words. But i need new goals to focus on…especially now Holly Anne Flanagan

    • Holly Anne Flanagan

      June 4, 2017 at 12:32 pm

      Great! Noted x no more of these type of posts ……praying all things your heart desires come to you clearly and on abundance. Sweet dreams

  26. Rene Hudson

    June 4, 2017 at 12:04 pm

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  27. Chandra Holloman Glover

    June 4, 2017 at 11:49 am

    I thank God everyday for my Godly man Gerald Glover!

  28. Connie Graham

    June 4, 2017 at 11:30 am

    Connor Graham

  29. Clarence Tudtud Acosta

    June 4, 2017 at 10:46 am

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  30. Laurie Cox

    June 4, 2017 at 10:36 am

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  31. Monette Orciga

    June 4, 2017 at 10:04 am

  32. Kandy Murphree Streety

    June 4, 2017 at 9:44 am

    Anna Maria Streety

  33. Terry Daley

    June 4, 2017 at 9:37 am

    Amen

  34. Jo-Anne Fourie

    June 4, 2017 at 9:35 am

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    • Katy Allderman

      June 4, 2017 at 9:39 am

      Jo ❤️ u just made my day with this ! Thank u so much my friend 🙏🏻

  35. Ellah Reu Cabaya

    June 4, 2017 at 8:57 am

    Love this..thank you

  36. Gloria Woruk

    June 4, 2017 at 8:16 am

    Thank you

  37. Mandy Van Reenen

    June 4, 2017 at 8:07 am

    Just thankful that God protects me from counterfeit men always.

  38. Joy Otomewo

    June 4, 2017 at 8:00 am

    More grace and mercy

  39. Tertia Jacobs

    June 4, 2017 at 7:44 am

    Michealah Adams Tercia Jackson

  40. Annette Hartman

    June 4, 2017 at 7:41 am

    LOVE THIS BEAUTIFUL PHOTO N

  41. Mary Grace Famorcan

    June 4, 2017 at 7:17 am

    Red Ordoñez Lopez,to us

  42. Holly Anne Flanagan

    June 4, 2017 at 6:21 am

    Chaylyn Humphreys Missmemissalimarie Alice Veno – very wise words

  43. Catherine Koffman

    June 4, 2017 at 6:20 am

    So true

  44. Christie Jones

    June 4, 2017 at 5:54 am

    Courtney Tighe Jamie Tighe

  45. EdwinIvy Santos

    June 4, 2017 at 5:50 am

    Chels Ramos Chi-chi Canceran 🙂

  46. Nat Jo-Jo

    June 4, 2017 at 5:45 am

    Excellent advice. Take heed ladies.

  47. Teesha Tinglum

    June 4, 2017 at 5:35 am

    Yikes.. truuuuuue

  48. Jacqueline Melendez

    June 4, 2017 at 5:34 am

    Ashleynicolee Melendez

  49. Brigitte Booysen

    June 4, 2017 at 5:23 am

    Wayne Coe

  50. Emma Smart

    June 4, 2017 at 5:12 am

    Jaimee Hale

  51. Erica Hernandez

    June 4, 2017 at 5:04 am

    Roxie Emily

  52. Veronica Valdez

    June 4, 2017 at 4:58 am

    This made my heart smile SO big! Laura Diaz! Thank you for your encouragement and love you shine into my life!!!! Xox❤️ Praying for you babe!

    • Laura Diaz

      June 4, 2017 at 5:36 am

      You’re welcome 💞 Thank you beautiful keep on shining for the lord 🙌🏼 can’t wait to see you soon!! 🙏🏼🙏🏼

    • Veronica Valdez

      June 4, 2017 at 7:14 am

      Yes!!! Let’s have bunch this week!! 🙂 Laura Diaz

  53. Laura Diaz

    June 4, 2017 at 4:53 am

    Veronica Valdez ❤️ we waitin’

  54. Kaylene Smith

    June 4, 2017 at 4:51 am

    Jenna Smith Bryanna Malin just some advice for the years to come. (Many years for you Jenna )

  55. Tam A Ra Michelle

    June 4, 2017 at 4:44 am

    Constance Bellow Watts

  56. Crystal Urdaneta

    June 4, 2017 at 4:39 am

    Ladies, “consistency” and a confirmed word from the Lord is the Key!

  57. Shelly Ratzlaff

    June 4, 2017 at 4:31 am

    Great advice!❤️

  58. Susan Ann Gray

    June 4, 2017 at 4:27 am

    Ngahuia Harvey ❤️

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