3 Types of Relationships That Hold You Back From God’s Best

Couple smiling at each otherRelationships can be a beautiful thing.

Some of the benefits of a Godly relationship include: Encouragement when we need to be uplifted, Accountability when we need support, Wisdom when we need advice, but relationships can also take a toll on our well being if we are not careful.

Here are 3 Types of Relationships That May Be Holding You Back From God’s Best:

Stale relationships 

Relationships that are going nowhere. They may be in the same place they were 2 years ago. Nothing’s changing. You’re still girlfriend. No talk of marriage. or you’ve been engaged for 5 years, but still no marriage. The spice is gone.

You are just there out of comfort. Because you don’t feel like starting over. The thought of getting to know someone the way you know this person scares you.

You’ve been with this person for so long that you can’t see yourself with anyone else. Even though you know the relationship is going absolutely nowhere. 

This can also apply to work relationships. Sometimes we get way too comfortable at jobs that no longer challenge us strictly because we dread looking for a new job. Yes I know all too well, the job market search can be a bit intimidating.

I remember when I felt stuck at a job that was no longer fulfilling to me. My excuse was… I didn’t want to use my sick time or vacation time just for a job interview, I wasn’t guaranteed to get. My other excuse was …“I’m comfortable here, I know everyone here, Why should I leave?” 

Sounds silly huh? Yes, I know. Thank God I found the strength to step out of my comfort zone. God started opening doors , but He waited for me to knock first. Did you get that? God was waiting on me. Just like He’s waiting on you to make the first move.

For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened. (Matthew 7:8)

Toxic Relationships

Relationships that have the potential to be or are already hazardous. It could be that the relationship is effecting your spiritual life, your physical well being, or your mental well being.

So how do you know if you’re in a toxic relationship?

When you’re in a toxic and unhealthy relationship, you may experience physical force or threats of physical force.

Verbal abuse such as cursing, name calling, and degrading comments may be the norm.

You are being influenced to do things that are not Godly.

You are not free to be yourself, and you are afraid of them.

If any of this sounds familiar, you are indeed in a toxic relationship.

When you’re in a Godly and healthy relationship, you won’t have to compromise your relationship with Christ for the sake of your relationship with any man.

The relationship will compliment you, not complete you. Only God can do that.

In Christ you have been brought to fullness. He is the head over every power and authority. (Colossians 2:10)

Dead Relationships 

Relationships that you know in your heart, are over, but no matter what, you can’t let goMaybe you guys have already parted ways, but in your heart… you refuse to move on. 

By doing so, you are only hindering or prolonging what God has already prepared for you. He knows what you need and want. He also knows that some of the things you want, you don’t need.

So trust that when it’s time to let go, God is already working to bring the right relationships into your life.

You just have to trust Him and let go.

Might I add that letting go doesn’t always mean that the feelings and love you have for that person will vanish right away or ever.

It just means that you have accepted that moving on without this person is for the best.

Pray about it and ask God to help you release this person. If they are meant to be in your life at a later time, God will surely make it happen.

There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens (Ecclesiastes 3:1)


Maya L. Ralston

Maya is a Relationship Counselor and Certified Life Coach. She loves using her God given gifts to pour into the lives of others.

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I needed this I have let go thank God I’m doing things I love instead of being in a toxic marriage thank you God for my strength and acceptance

Thanks alot .i decided to let go even when its too hard and so painful .may God strengthen me and always guide me to the source of His goodness.the greener pasture s and living waters for im His sheep.may He do da same for him.

Amen,father I pray that you give me the spirit of acceptance in the name of Jesus.thank you Lord

Some people are just stronger than others when it comes to holding on to a relationship regardless of the outcome. I’m not that strong.

Yana Ko you deserve God’s best

Thank you! We both deserve God’s best!

Sharon-Rose Zijlstra xx

#2 – no more…. <3

I have great faith that God’s got us xx

He has!! Totally!!! <3

Excellent insight and wisdom

Amen ❤️

Jennifer Moss-Brown

AMEN!!! #2 For me. So entirely BLESSED to have a God who continues to heal those parts broken by my last toxic relationship and my relationship with God continues to grow and grow because I know that God is ALL that I need. And if God wants me to ever get into another relationship, it will be designed by God and that man will have to be head over heels in love with God or I won’t ever date again. God is all I need.

Me too…I believe in God and I know I’m going to met the right woman for me too cus I’m getting older and I want a real relationship with the right woman under same roof till death will depart us….I will glad if I can know more about you


Today,God proved himself to me again,I was called to come to women’s Ctr. to redo my mammogram & have an ultrasound on the waRmer AA abreast.I just got on my knees ,praising God and please let his will be done here in the situations

Thank you for this – #3 was very healing for me

Same here…..hard to let go but one has to



I hope I am only asking for what I need, Amen!!

Amen true


I’m ready for my Boaz.



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