Hurt And Confused

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Prayer Request:

I have a child with a man from my past. It did not end well in the past. There was wrong done on both of our parts. He wanted us to be forever, but I wanted him to get certain things in his life straightened out first. A few years after we split he married a woman that did not push him to be a better person, settled for his shortcomings, and made up what he lacked. He was married when our child was conceived, both of us giving in to flesh. I know I was wrong, he knows he was wrong. He apologized to his wife and they are “trying to work things out”. He has no children with his wife, and is actively preventing any. I care deeply for him and I feel like the feelings are mutual. I also feel like my child was created with intention. I was not expecting to get pregnant, I was using birth control, but no condom. We have no physical contact and rarely make eye contact when he comes to visit the baby. He often picks arguments with me, and even if I agree with him, he continues to bicker and says I am hostile and condescending. I feel like he needs me to be mad at him, but I don’t understand why. I have recently become active in church again after not attending for over 3 years. I forgive myself. I forgive him. I would be lying if I said I did not want us to be a family, but the reality of the situation is he is married. I don’t mention my feelings to him and I keep all communications strictly about the baby. I need clarity. I need to get him off my mind. Thank You for all your prayers.

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I mean this in the most loving way… You said you need clarity.  He’s married. That’s as clear as it gets. You can’t change what happened in the past, but you can prevent it from happening again. I pray that God gives you the strength to stand your ground and not give in to the flesh.

What are your thoughts? Any advice for this young lady?

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