Patience Is a Virtue… and Settling Is Not An Option


As the days go by and my strides feel like they are getting longer and longer. I yearn for that one MAN who is God sent, who is my friend, my boyfriend and ultimately change my last name to his and we become lifetime partners.

This isn’t a lonely post; in fact I’m a happy single (who is tired of dating her friends’). This is for all singles that’s in the struggle and being positive while waiting for their companion.

God created us to be fruitful.

As a young woman I am a HOPEFUL romantic not HOPELESS , but HOPEFUL. I believe in love .

I believe… Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres ( 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 )

I refuse to be the woman that settles, just to say she has a companion. I’m waiting for my Umbrella or modern day Boaz.

Here’s a question I ask daily; How does one remain hopeful and not compromise themselves when society dictates that it’s ok to “shack up”,” have PROTECTED sex “ and settle for a common law marriage”, all while having the “I don’t need a man mentality”?

I don’t walk around with a checklist, but geesh can my candidate have substance and morals?

I promise you it’s getting harder and harder for us women, because no one wants to work for it.

Well I don’t want an expensive purse, shoes, or car. I want the praying together, worshiping together, intimate talks, weekend getaways, family gatherings, and building success together even if we have to struggle.

I’m not one to conform because I was raised by an old school mother and grandmother.

I’m a modern day single woman who is strong enough to be alone, but also humble enough to know everyone needs somebody; and knows loneliness is a lie from the devil.

I desire to be a wife, so therefore I have to conduct myself as a wife. I can’t keep putting myself in the friend zone and giving confusing signs.

I will remain Hopeful , because I know whatever I desire and what God has ordained for my life will happen eventually, so therefore I remain patient.

So singles out there remain happy, be patient and have fun; but stay away from the friend zone and sending mix signals. It’s a lesson I learned the hard way.

“Patience is power. Patience is not an absence of action; rather its “timing” it waits on the right time to act, for the right principles and in the right way.”

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I read this at just the right time. Thank you for posting.

Vicky Bland

I was left in tears #happytears ๐Ÿ˜ I am blessed with this article. Praise God ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ˜‡


This was nice to read , I’m in a “relationship” and also living with this person and he feels much like a friend. It’s been 7 yrs and we have children 2 are his and two are mine. There’s no husband or wife love just two people shacking up and constantly in an up roar. I start thinking that it’s just our up and down moments so it feels safe to stay but then I begin to feel that things might not ever change. I’m torn from the top all the way to the bottom. One part of me wants… Read more »

Michele Johnson

Thank you for this! This is how I feel & I’m thankful God has been growing me during my singlehood & giving me fulfillment in Him. He must be growing my husband & that’s why I haven’t met him yet. Needed this encouragement as I continue to live for Him & show that I’m a worthy wife to a worthy husband.

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