When God Doesn’t Approve of Your Relationship

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If God doesn’t approve of the person you’re dating, believe me He will let you know.

Sometimes we pray for answers we are not fully prepared for. Trusting God’s will means trusting that He knows what’s best for us even if it means we have to part ways with people we are not quite ready to part ways with.

Sometimes we feel it in our spirit that someone is not a good mate for us, but for some reason we allow ourselves to stay in an unfulfilling relationship.

Some of us ask God to show us a sign whether something or someone is good or bad for us. The funny part is, God may have given us plenty of signs , before we even prayed that prayer.

Whether the signs are there or not, there’s only one way to know for sure, and that’s prayer.

If you’re praying for God’s will, eventually their true colors will show. But you can’t pray for God to reveal these things to you and then disregard them when He shows you this person is not the one for you. 

One of my relationships, I REALLY wanted to work. So when we began to have our share of problems, I began to pray.

I asked God to show me whether or not this person was the one for me. If not, I prayed that He would remove him from my life. Well, it didn’t take long for God to show me at all.

A day after praying that prayer, my ex told me that he felt we should call it quits. Not quite the answer I was expecting from God. But His will is always best. Too bad I didn’t believe that at that time.

About two weeks later, my ex called me and said he realized he had made a mistake letting me go.

In spite of everything I had discussed with God, this was still music to my ears.

We talked about how we were going to make our relationship better this time. It truly felt like we were going to be alright this time.

We had a plan this time and for the first time in a long time, we were actually communicating with each other, listening to each other.

I even began to wonder if I had misunderstood what God was trying to tell me about our relationship.

Nevertheless, our relationship got to a point where we were breaking up every other month. This went on for about two years.

Every night I would pray that our relationship would take a turn for the better. Until finally I prayed a different prayer…

This time I asked God to forgive me for going against His better judgement, for being so disobedient,  and for not trusting Him with my heart.

You see, all of my headaches, heartaches, and tears could have been avoided IF I was fully prepared for what I was praying for.

What is it that you want God to reveal? Are you going to trust Him even if the answer is not the one you want? I pray that you will.

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Vanessa

Wow! Thank you so much for sharing your personal experience and for giving godly advice. I was once engaged to my ex who claimed to be a “devoted christian” for 1 year and half. He seemed so perfect (handsome, charming, tall, attractive, church goer and family orientated,etc). I thought that God finally sent my “Mr Right”into my life. I was so happy coz At the beginning things were going just fine until the red flags started to fly all over the place. I was so stupid to ignore them. I wud give excuses for his bad behaviour or dismissi the… Read more »

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I really needed to read this. Thank you so much for writing this ❤️

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luvmesoftly

This same exact thing happened to me. I was dating this guy for about 6 months, I had fallen in love with him, but something just wasn’t right and I couldn’t put my finger on it. So on Sunday night (I remember it like it was yesterday) I prayed to God that if he is not the man for me, reveal him to me. I swear to you, the very next day, on a Monday afternoon, I found out he was married and had been married for 11 years. I was crushed! God works fast for His children.

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Farm Dreamer

I feel like I’m in a similar, yet opposite situation. My girlfriend found someone else and it looks like they may end up getting married and everything. Even though my heart aches to be with her, logic says I need to let her go because she’s moving on. But, I’ve prayed more than a couple times that God would show me if I need to move on and to help me to do so or that He give me some sign that I should wait for her. I have received what I feel are signs from God telling me to… Read more »

Josephina Klein
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Josephina Klein

I recently lost someone in my life, but I knew deep down it wasn’t what God wanted for me. But I also learned so much from the relationship, like not to settle just because you don’t want to be alone, and that I’m not actually ok with someone who I have to constantly cook for and clean up after (I used to think it wasn’t a big deal because I was doing it anyway), or that loving someone doesn’t mean they will ever come around to love you, some people are takers and will never change, and don’t want to… Read more »

Kendall Johnson
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Wow. You sound like me. My first relationship post divorce she seemed so nice at the beginning. Her dad died and I thought the changes were due to that so I kept being supportive and caring no matter what. I eventually figured out she had been hiding alcoholism from me and that nothing I did was ever going to be good enough. Looking back, I was so uneasy throughout the relationship. Something never quite seemed right and I couldn’t figure out why at the time. I did things for her and it was never appreciated all that much after the… Read more »