Relationships

3 Things to Remember While Waiting For Mr. Right

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Since the beginning of time, woman has been a gift to man. Eve didn’t have to do much to win Adam over in the perfect garden. She probably hadn’t shaved or spent tons of money at the salon and definitely hadn’t learned 50 ways to cook chicken to win Adam over. He knew that she was a gift and he was thankful.

Unfortunately today women are doing all they can to convince a guy that they are worth having.

Magazine articles, books and well meaning friends and family constantly remind us that we are not doing enough. We are told that if we are still single, it’s our fault (either directly or indirectly) and we should be doing A, B & C to win the affection of a man.

I’ve been there. I’ve read through all the articles only to find myself a little more discouraged. These articles usually tend to reinforce that I’m not good enough and that I need to act a certain way for the right man to fall for me. Talk less, talk more, play hard to get, don’t play games, tell him how you feel, don’t tell him how you feel, wear more heels, sneakers are hot, and the list goes on.

All the advice is ever changing and it’s hard to keep up with the best way to attract a man.

This quote stood out to me the other day “ Act Like a Prize and You will Turn him into a Believer”. It got me to thinking that if women were truly the prize, why do we stress out so much over relationships?

Do guys run to the mall to buy a new shirt to impress a girl on a date?

Do they fall asleep reading articles entitled “How to get a girl to notice me”?

Do they take a cooking class just so they can make their girlfriend the best dinner ever?

Maybe some do, but I think we can all agree that sometimes women worry too much about getting a man and keeping him. Sometimes we just need to be reminded that we are the prize!

We want to feel like a prize but often times we don’t. We put in a lot of energy to get little attention from a guy that we may be interested in. If we want to be treated like a prize, we need to learn how to act like a prize. Here are three things to remember when acting like a prize.

Prizes are earned.

In a race, all the runners have the same chance of winning, but only one gets 1st prize. This means that we don’t have to make ourselves available to every man that presents himself to us. We are available to the ones who value the prize so much that they are willing to put in the extra work it takes to win us. This doesn’t mean that we have men jumping through hoops, but it does mean taking notice of the guy who picks up the phone to call and makes his intentions clear versus the one who sends many mixed signals and leaves you confused.

Prizes have worth.

Keeping with our race analogy, we can’t expect the runners to give their all for a prize that they don’t value. As women, instead of trying to accomplish and do things to prove our value we need to start believing the value that we already have as God’s beloved daughters!  I have accomplished quite a few things in my life that add to my “worldly” value but none of those things has gotten me a husband. Believe that you truly are God’s prized possession and you will begin to shine and everyone will notice.

Prizes don’t compete.

The only people who should be competing in a race are the runners, not the prizes! Each level or variety of prize is unique and valuable in it’s own way. As women, we sometimes forget that we should not be in competition with one another. We are all valuable prizes and we should be celebrating each other and not competing. A woman who is constantly in competition with other women is communicating that she doesn’t see her own value.

In all these things, remember that instead of being frustrated that men don’t see you as a prize you should challenge yourself to start acting like the prize that you believe you truly are.

Nina Borum

Nina Borum

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Nina Elaine Borum is a speaker, author and coach. She loves to encourage, inspire and motivate women. Nina currently resides in Nashville.
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70 Comments

70 Comments

  1. Evan Nelo

    May 28, 2017 at 7:57 pm

    Very correct

  2. Chidimmaa Kalu

    May 26, 2017 at 11:51 pm

    Lord I will wait on you

  3. Tracy Nachela

    May 25, 2017 at 5:35 pm

    its true

  4. Nthabibaby Nje

    May 25, 2017 at 9:54 am

    I prefer to wait for my baby Isaac than a suggested baby Ishmael…waiting on God’s promise with no regrets

  5. Brina Doc

    May 24, 2017 at 8:21 pm

    So True ✌

  6. Mbali Zungu

    May 24, 2017 at 7:19 pm

    Nomonde Amanda Maroga

  7. Shaunder Chillis

    May 24, 2017 at 6:34 pm

    Amen amen and amen

  8. Shiko A. Kamanu

    May 24, 2017 at 2:50 pm

    Amen sister girl Lisah Nimmoh

  9. Yolanda Fagan

    May 24, 2017 at 2:37 pm

    #you’reworthit

  10. Yolanda Fagan

    May 24, 2017 at 2:36 pm

    I have read many articles, but this one is on point. A must read. Thank you . Lady’s need to know this.

  11. Lizkims Dekims Kimani

    May 24, 2017 at 2:03 pm

    Yeah,still waiting

  12. Stephanie Andrews

    May 24, 2017 at 1:21 pm

    Truth…wait on your Gods. Maybe you won’t get married.

  13. Tonja Wright

    May 24, 2017 at 12:36 pm

    Amen
    #ImBlessed

  14. Jenni Jenn Jen

    May 24, 2017 at 12:09 pm

    “…the only people who should be competing in a race are the runners, not the prizes! ” Word!!!!

  15. Kishonda Alexander

    May 24, 2017 at 11:20 am

    love it!

  16. Nancy Akanbong

    May 24, 2017 at 11:01 am

    Sure

  17. Maitemogelo Maepa

    May 24, 2017 at 9:40 am

    Yaa neh

  18. Joannah Shipanga Hamushila

    May 24, 2017 at 9:28 am

    Amen.

  19. Hassan Mwamba

    May 24, 2017 at 9:25 am

    Lie

  20. Prossy Senyange

    May 24, 2017 at 5:54 am

    Patiently seeking His face n in due tym He will come out right early am not scared coz I have an assurance from Him.

  21. April Arredondo

    May 24, 2017 at 5:28 am

    Brittany McCullah

  22. Irene Mathias

    May 24, 2017 at 5:18 am

    Thank you and God bless you!!!

  23. Violeta Ocampo

    May 24, 2017 at 5:12 am

    True.

  24. Rose Sehlapelo

    May 24, 2017 at 4:08 am

    True hei thanx

  25. Stefanie Cummings

    May 24, 2017 at 4:00 am

    Steph Alara

  26. Mampati Marumo

    May 24, 2017 at 3:44 am

    So true, amen to that

  27. Kimberly Boyd Fynaardt

    May 24, 2017 at 3:33 am

    Kayla Fynaardt

  28. Stacey L Arroyo

    May 24, 2017 at 3:26 am

    Alexis Arroyo

  29. Sonya Alexander

    May 24, 2017 at 2:32 am

    Not waiting on mr. Right, waiting on God’s best for me!! Don’t let temporary cause you to lose your eternal. Marriage is temporary, living with God is eternal.

  30. Sarah Parker

    May 24, 2017 at 2:29 am

    Truth!

  31. Garmei Kennedy

    May 24, 2017 at 1:48 am

    So true

  32. Debby Ferguson-Odoemena

    May 24, 2017 at 1:10 am

    “If we want to be treated like a prize, we need to learn how to act like the prize!” #wearetheprize

  33. Eloisa Alexandra

    May 24, 2017 at 12:53 am

    Exactly..

  34. Terry Daley

    May 24, 2017 at 12:00 am

    Amen

  35. Gloria Rizzuti

    May 23, 2017 at 11:42 pm

    Thanks for sharing. Very well said and oh so very true!

  36. Janice Wene

    May 23, 2017 at 11:39 pm

    Debra Mozo

  37. Gwen Bickers

    May 23, 2017 at 11:13 pm

    Amen!

  38. Jodi A. Clark

    May 23, 2017 at 11:00 pm

    Elesia Younie

  39. Valerie Hannah

    May 23, 2017 at 10:28 pm

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  40. Ashley Pendergrass

    May 23, 2017 at 10:14 pm

    I needed this

  41. Karen Conliffe

    May 23, 2017 at 10:12 pm

    Yes amen

  42. Katherine Springer

    May 23, 2017 at 9:59 pm

    Thanks Rhonda Kevlin!!! I needed to hear that today!! You are awesome!!!

  43. Katherine Springer

    May 23, 2017 at 9:57 pm

    Thanks Rhonda Kevlin!!! I needed that today!!! You are awesome!

  44. Angelina Dowdell

    May 23, 2017 at 9:56 pm

    When u young u yourself think that’s the person for u. Sometime u can the right person but if you’re parents didn’t teach u about putting god frist in. YOur life in. your life and the person not working with u most of the time it be the wrong persons in your life but as u get older u get Weiser think god for 5 sense

  45. Robin D. Canning

    May 23, 2017 at 9:48 pm

    Amen!

  46. Bobbie Deal

    May 23, 2017 at 9:37 pm

    Yes that right

  47. Rhonda Kevlin

    May 23, 2017 at 9:28 pm

    Debra Claire Duffy Katherine Springer

  48. Marygrace Tanio

    May 23, 2017 at 9:27 pm

    Wow. Thanks for sharing. It really help me a lot

  49. Bev Escott

    May 23, 2017 at 9:26 pm

    Chloe Escott

  50. Margaret Chilufya Mwape

    May 23, 2017 at 9:21 pm

    This is very good well said….

  51. Alma De Dios

    May 23, 2017 at 9:16 pm

    That’s how I feel…

  52. Valerie Dearborn

    May 23, 2017 at 9:16 pm

    Im happy to say Im waitng. Thank You Lord.

  53. Valerie Dearborn

    May 23, 2017 at 9:14 pm

    You said it.

  54. Hloni KaMapholoba-Faltein

    May 23, 2017 at 9:11 pm

    Lihlithemba Jali

  55. Krish delos Reyes

    May 23, 2017 at 9:10 pm

    Basa ! ✌️ Cris Nacor

  56. Brenale Johnson

    May 23, 2017 at 9:03 pm

    So good

  57. Michelle Woolridge Jackson

    May 23, 2017 at 8:51 pm

    Yes

  58. Celicia Alley

    May 23, 2017 at 8:49 pm

    Very well said

  59. Ntshumeleni Maliga

    May 23, 2017 at 8:46 pm

    Yah

  60. Kim Colclough

    May 23, 2017 at 8:44 pm

    Lia Wilkins

  61. Frances Jones

    May 23, 2017 at 8:40 pm

    So True.

  62. Olajumoke Bello

    May 23, 2017 at 8:35 pm

    Wow, totally with u ma’am

  63. Vickyrez Cyrinus

    May 23, 2017 at 8:34 pm

    Am bless

  64. Dada Oluwayoyinsoromi Tolulope

    May 23, 2017 at 8:30 pm

    Warning signals

  65. Dee Young

    May 23, 2017 at 8:29 pm

    AMEN

  66. Tracey YG

    May 23, 2017 at 8:28 pm

    Agree

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