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3 Ways to Embrace Your Season of Singleness

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As smartphone users, we have something called apps we can download on our phones to make our lives a little less complicated. We have banking apps, social media apps, bible apps etc.

Ladies, it’s time to A.P.P yourself during your season of singleness. By Abstaining from sexual immorality, by Praying and lastly by Preparing yourself to be the wife God is calling you to be.

Abstaining

I Thessalonians 4:3 states, “For this is the will of God, even your sanctification that ye should abstain from fornication.”

Often times we wonder what the will of God is for our lives here is one instance where God plainly tell us. His will is for us to abstain from fornication, sexual immortality, any sexual act that is done against your body, yes that includes masturbation.

Once you are saved, filled with his Holy Spirit, your body becomes a temple where the Holy Spirit dwells. The Lord wants you to keep your temple clean by abstaining from things that will hinder the Spirit of God from working freely in your life.

Light and darkness cannot dwell together so there are times when we have to choose who we will submit to: the Lord or to our flesh.

I had fallen before I met my husband and I honestly believed that I was damaged goods. I was so hurt and destroyed upset with myself to the point where I wanted to end my life because I thought that was the best way out. I disappointed myself and others but most importantly God. But how many of us know God is a deliverer! God forgave me and blessed me with a wonderful husband who adores me. I had to make a decision to either forgive myself and move on or to dwell in pity of my past.

Before we got engaged I dread telling my husband about my past but I knew there was no way I could go further without telling him the truth. I was surprised by his reaction, he said, “Ok that was your past but I am your future.” Wow! He didn’t think any less of me or anything and I truly praise God for that.

We made a vow to the Lord to abstain from sex before marriage and were able to hold out until our wedding night.

Times got real intense because we placed ourselves in dangerous situations at times, but God blessed us to hold on to our vow to him and boy did he bless!

Praying

This is a time for you to give yourself to the Lord, take out time from your busy schedule to set aside a dedicated time every day to just pray.

The bible instructs us to “Pray without ceasing” because the devil is looking for an opportunity to steal your hope of one day being married (I Thessalonians 5:17).

He will implant evil thoughts such as, you’re too old, ugly or that no one wants you but the truth is, there is someone out there for you if you desire to be married. When you pray, make your request known unto God (Philippians 4:6).

Someone once encouraged me to write out all the attributes I wanted in a husband. Pray over it and place it in a bible and forget about it. Well I did just that and each guy that I met I would take it out and compare them to my list. When I met my now husband, he not only met all the attributes but he exceeded it.

Fasting is another important component of prayer. My husband and I set aside one day a week to fast for our future (before we were even engaged).

Take this time to pray for your future husband to pray that God continues to keep you and to pray that God’s will be done and that he opens your eyes to be sensitive to His will for your life. Pray for others especially family and friends and even your enemies when they find their special someone. Most importantly, and don’t allow the spirit of jealously and envy to overtake and control you. 

The Key is for you not to get bitter but to be a blessing. Rejoice with those who rejoice because your time is coming (Romans 12:15).

Preparing yourself to be a wife

Ladies Proverbs 18:22 states He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD. I know we hear this all the time and most of the time the one thing that is pointed out is that “He who finds a wife” which means you are not looking for him but he is looking for you and that is very true; however, the part I want to emphasis is he who finds a WIFE not a girlfriend, not a special friend with benefits but a WIFE. Which means you are a wife before you are married. During this season of singleness it is also a season of preparation for the future.

I learned this first hand, you cannot become a wife to someone you don’t know yet and there is no amount of teaching, books, seminars etc. that can teach you how to be a wife to your husband. The only way you will learn is through experience and learning him once you’re married. However there are some aspects of a wife that are very important to note now.

These are just a few things I have learned during my season of singleness that I wanted to share with you ladies. Just be patient spend this time getting closer to God. He will fill that void in your life with his presence so you will be lacking nothing. Your time is coming but until then A.P.P. yourself.

Saviela E. Thorne

Saviela E. Thorne

Saviela is the author of "Seasons of a Woman's Life: Devotionals to Empower Women to Become Overcomers". She loves to encourage and empower women through her life experiences.
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95 Comments

95 Comments

  1. Cathy Ume

    March 30, 2017 at 10:16 am

    Amen.

  2. Nothembekile Galada

    March 29, 2017 at 7:04 pm

    Amen

  3. Ruth Gathoni

    March 29, 2017 at 8:45 am

    God bless you so much.

  4. Patricia Mabunda

    March 28, 2017 at 7:57 pm

    Amen an thank u..i will wait for my God given partner

  5. Ursula Edoo

    March 28, 2017 at 6:47 pm

    Amen

  6. Irene Nosizwe Nyembe

    March 28, 2017 at 2:59 pm

    Samantha Zanele Tokwe❤️

  7. Emilyn Nunez Dumosmog

    March 28, 2017 at 2:38 pm

    Richard Gott – no rush

  8. Adlyne Wangusi

    March 28, 2017 at 1:09 pm

    Nice post. i love my singlehood.

  9. Rachell Precioso Bartolome

    March 28, 2017 at 9:44 am

    Kim Bartolome

  10. Stella Cheeks

    March 28, 2017 at 7:12 am

    Amen.

  11. Sarah Tegio

    March 28, 2017 at 6:31 am

    Amen

  12. Paula Malena Walo

    March 28, 2017 at 5:41 am

    Amen!!

  13. Josephine Alonzo Fresco

    March 28, 2017 at 5:40 am

    Amen.

  14. CherylElee Kim Yen

    March 28, 2017 at 5:34 am

    Mag Ching

  15. Ana Estela Estopier

    March 28, 2017 at 5:26 am

    Ana Leal

  16. Sarah Yoakum

    March 28, 2017 at 5:08 am

    Pretty done ✅ with waiting –

  17. Pamela Becton

    March 28, 2017 at 4:45 am

    Yes, thanks

  18. Valerie Lopez

    March 28, 2017 at 4:33 am

    I been single for years. And i am ok with. I know if God has someone for me it will happen..i rather wait. I learned my lesson on not waiting ..

  19. Dikeledi Gafane

    March 28, 2017 at 2:46 am

    Amen

  20. Gloria Davidson

    March 28, 2017 at 2:28 am

    Amen

  21. Sandra Pollard

    March 28, 2017 at 2:21 am

    Amen,and try and continue working on me to prepare me for him.

  22. Aholmes Holmes

    March 28, 2017 at 2:08 am

    Smh

  23. Terry Daley

    March 28, 2017 at 2:03 am

    Amen

  24. Valentina Barnes

    March 28, 2017 at 1:40 am

    Shay’La Exum

  25. Modeline Dupera

    March 28, 2017 at 1:13 am

    Marsha Dupera

  26. Vernita Humbles

    March 28, 2017 at 12:54 am

    Please keep me in your prayers

  27. Tabitha Revis

    March 28, 2017 at 12:44 am

    This is the longest season in my life!! It is easier said than done!

  28. Angela Petitt

    March 28, 2017 at 12:34 am

    I agree with the article, but would add one more “P”. Just like everything else from career to planing trips, we should prioritize marriage.

  29. Lisa Webster

    March 28, 2017 at 12:27 am

    Carli Richards

  30. Deborah Harris Smith

    March 28, 2017 at 12:17 am

    Amen Thank you Jesus

  31. Luisa Mercedes

    March 28, 2017 at 12:12 am

    Yuly Bristol

  32. Trina Jackson

    March 27, 2017 at 11:42 pm

    I am embracung my singleness

  33. Beverly Ann Panes

    March 27, 2017 at 10:55 pm

    Queng Queng

  34. Ola Dunni Praiz

    March 27, 2017 at 10:25 pm

    Longest season……. Pls have mercy Lord.

    • Avril Dalzine

      March 27, 2017 at 11:46 pm

      Keep your eyes upon God. Learn the lessons that He wants you to learn in this season. Your season will change at God’s appointed time. Remember Elizabeth and Sarah they both had to wait for a long time but God came through for them at the appointed time. Also read about Hannah.

    • Ola Dunni Praiz

      March 28, 2017 at 6:00 am

      Thnks for the word of encouragement, I know HIS thought is good.

  35. Dee Jones

    March 27, 2017 at 9:55 pm

    Amen

  36. Melvina Major

    March 27, 2017 at 9:36 pm

    I received this message

  37. Monique Thornton

    March 27, 2017 at 9:30 pm

    This is the longest season ever. Why God?

    • Avril Dalzine

      March 27, 2017 at 11:40 pm

      It may be long for you but not for God, remember that a day is like a thousand years and a thousand years like a day where God is concern. God knows what He’s doing and trust Him. In each season their are lessons that God wants us to learn. Enjoy your waiting period and know that at the appointed time it will happen.

  38. Paul Sircolour

    March 27, 2017 at 8:37 pm

    Amen

  39. Zani Makutso

    March 27, 2017 at 8:08 pm

    Amen

  40. Ernestina Sherrie

    March 27, 2017 at 7:43 pm

    This season has been too long

  41. Jacque Stanely

    March 27, 2017 at 7:30 pm

    Soo encouraged,am too waiting

  42. Priyansha Sharma

    March 27, 2017 at 7:09 pm

    Reetika Raj Hepsibah Chandna Ase Metha Shivani Sheen Yadav

  43. Le SeGo Makhaya

    March 27, 2017 at 7:06 pm

    reveal your plan Lord

  44. Le SeGo Makhaya

    March 27, 2017 at 7:06 pm

    reveal your plan Lord

  45. Sandizee Bibi Israel

    March 27, 2017 at 6:48 pm

    Thanks alot

  46. Gloria Allies

    March 27, 2017 at 6:23 pm

    AMEN

  47. Grace Nafuna

    March 27, 2017 at 6:22 pm

    AMEN

  48. Lorenzo Deleon

    March 27, 2017 at 6:21 pm

    Amen

  49. Josephine Haita

    March 27, 2017 at 6:13 pm

    Ndeshi Walcott Gatu Tjipueja Glenrose Norich Gloria Ndapandula Shailemo

  50. Reyna L. Mejia

    March 27, 2017 at 6:07 pm

    Thank you for sharing

  51. Tippis Ray

    March 27, 2017 at 6:06 pm

    True

  52. Lisabet Luquen

    March 27, 2017 at 5:57 pm

    Wendy Wanderer

  53. Marity Van Wyk

    March 27, 2017 at 5:41 pm

    Amen

  54. Monah Gitonga

    March 27, 2017 at 5:37 pm

    Râyhab Etana Køi

  55. Thandiwe Soulsista Matshoba

    March 27, 2017 at 5:34 pm

    Ow thank Father,ill wait on u ,

  56. Georgina Sylvester

    March 27, 2017 at 5:16 pm

    Amen

  57. Ruthie NK

    March 27, 2017 at 5:13 pm

    Thanks for this. Abstaining, Prayer and Preparation is the way!

  58. Cari Klinghagen

    March 27, 2017 at 5:08 pm

    Took me a while to accept this, but I’m there now and focusing on other areas of my life while waiting.

  59. Bobbie Galloway-Folie

    March 27, 2017 at 5:07 pm

    Amen

  60. Indang Pot

    March 27, 2017 at 5:07 pm

    Amen!

  61. Gila Villanueva

    March 27, 2017 at 5:00 pm

    Avlem De Leon

  62. Suzette B Ellis

    March 27, 2017 at 4:58 pm

    Amen in his timing

  63. Guerda Pretty Venus

    March 27, 2017 at 4:52 pm

    May God be the glory! Amen!

  64. Kimwandra Cordy

    March 27, 2017 at 4:52 pm

    Amen

  65. Cathy L Dodson

    March 27, 2017 at 4:45 pm

    Thanks I needed that I’m 60 never been married and want to get married but think it’s too late but I see its never too late just refocus and just stay close to the Lord!!!

    • Teresa Schotts

      March 27, 2017 at 5:21 pm

      Never, Never, Never to late!

    • Cathy L Dodson

      March 27, 2017 at 5:37 pm

      Thanks

    • Gail Spencer

      March 27, 2017 at 9:34 pm

      Don’t give up. Alady i worked with is had got married at the age of 60 and now 63.I was 48 when I got married. I prayed and waited on God to send me my husband, and it well worth waiting. I couldn’t ask for more.

    • Cathy L Dodson

      March 27, 2017 at 10:10 pm

      Thanks for the encouragement

    • Ola Dunni Praiz

      March 27, 2017 at 10:18 pm

      @Gail Spencer, yes it’s very gud to get what is worth waiting after being waited. But some ppl around abuses n discourage one while waiting. It takes d grace of God. May d Lord help us. U understand what I meant!

    • Avril Dalzine

      March 27, 2017 at 11:34 pm

      Be encouraged, remember Sarah how old she was and brought forth a son. Age doesn’t stop God. You later shall be far more greater than your former. Be blessed my sister.

    • Cathy L Dodson

      March 28, 2017 at 12:14 am

      Thanks so much!!!

    • Asha Kawooya

      March 28, 2017 at 3:58 am

      Ola Dunni Praiz dear don’t mind about those pipo who abuses and discourages u… just continue praying … God is always working in ways we cannot see…..

    • Asha Kawooya

      March 28, 2017 at 4:02 am

      Cathy L Dodson .
      Prayer is the key … you are not alone … many pipo are still single .. still waiting on the Lord to bring their husbands…
      You may think God has forgotten ..but he hasn’t …. …..

      Just remember the Lord will hear and the answer is on its way….

      All singles are in our prayers ….

      Believe that the Lord is bringing ur man … be positive all the tym

    • Cathy L Dodson

      March 28, 2017 at 4:11 am

      Thanks for the prayers!!!

    • Asha Kawooya

      March 28, 2017 at 9:30 am

      Amen Cathy L Dodson dear

    • Asha Kawooya

      March 28, 2017 at 9:31 am

      No need to thank me …..
      (holy spirit )

    • Kiki Kixx Qibaara

      March 28, 2017 at 12:23 pm

      The writer of this article must be seeing through me like a transparent paper. I am 45yrs old and l have written myself off feeling too old, too ugly and too fat to attract the kind of man l want. I have strugged with memories of a bad marriage that ended 17yrs ago. I keep attracting the kind of man who does not have the characteristics of the man who l desire. I did APP from August 2015 but by January 2017 l gave up on the APP….l am now feeling lost!!!!

  66. Christy McDowell Shores

    March 27, 2017 at 4:34 pm

    I know this is for woman but still has some good stuff. William Ray McDowell

  67. Beryl Beranise September

    March 27, 2017 at 4:30 pm

    Amen

  68. Sheila Fein

    March 27, 2017 at 4:24 pm

    Amen. I embrace my time being single knowing that God is preparing me for an amazing marriage with the man of my dreams !

  69. Tina Keffer Stokes

    March 27, 2017 at 4:24 pm

    Sydney Paige Stoneking

  70. Nelo Akirika

    March 27, 2017 at 4:20 pm

    amen

  71. Rose Sehlapelo

    March 27, 2017 at 4:10 pm

    OK got it thanx

  72. Olive Villarante Adrigado

    March 27, 2017 at 4:08 pm

    🙂

  73. Zenovia Francis

    March 27, 2017 at 4:07 pm

    Stacey-Jane Arendse

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