3 Ways to Embrace Your Season of Singleness

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As smartphone users, we have something called apps we can download on our phones to make our lives a little less complicated. We have banking apps, social media apps, bible apps etc.

Ladies, it’s time to A.P.P yourself during your season of singleness. By Abstaining from sexual immorality, by Praying and lastly by Preparing yourself to be the wife God is calling you to be.

Abstaining

I Thessalonians 4:3 states, “For this is the will of God, even your sanctification that ye should abstain from fornication.”

Often times we wonder what the will of God is for our lives here is one instance where God plainly tell us. His will is for us to abstain from fornication, sexual immortality, any sexual act that is done against your body, yes that includes masturbation.

Once you are saved, filled with his Holy Spirit, your body becomes a temple where the Holy Spirit dwells. The Lord wants you to keep your temple clean by abstaining from things that will hinder the Spirit of God from working freely in your life.

Light and darkness cannot dwell together so there are times when we have to choose who we will submit to: the Lord or to our flesh.

I had fallen before I met my husband and I honestly believed that I was damaged goods. I was so hurt and destroyed upset with myself to the point where I wanted to end my life because I thought that was the best way out. I disappointed myself and others but most importantly God. But how many of us know God is a deliverer! God forgave me and blessed me with a wonderful husband who adores me. I had to make a decision to either forgive myself and move on or to dwell in pity of my past.

Before we got engaged I dread telling my husband about my past but I knew there was no way I could go further without telling him the truth. I was surprised by his reaction, he said, “Ok that was your past but I am your future.” Wow! He didn’t think any less of me or anything and I truly praise God for that.

We made a vow to the Lord to abstain from sex before marriage and were able to hold out until our wedding night.

Times got real intense because we placed ourselves in dangerous situations at times, but God blessed us to hold on to our vow to him and boy did he bless!

Praying

This is a time for you to give yourself to the Lord, take out time from your busy schedule to set aside a dedicated time every day to just pray.

The bible instructs us to “Pray without ceasing” because the devil is looking for an opportunity to steal your hope of one day being married (I Thessalonians 5:17).

He will implant evil thoughts such as, you’re too old, ugly or that no one wants you but the truth is, there is someone out there for you if you desire to be married. When you pray, make your request known unto God (Philippians 4:6).

Someone once encouraged me to write out all the attributes I wanted in a husband. Pray over it and place it in a bible and forget about it. Well I did just that and each guy that I met I would take it out and compare them to my list. When I met my now husband, he not only met all the attributes but he exceeded it.

Fasting is another important component of prayer. My husband and I set aside one day a week to fast for our future (before we were even engaged).

Take this time to pray for your future husband to pray that God continues to keep you and to pray that God’s will be done and that he opens your eyes to be sensitive to His will for your life. Pray for others especially family and friends and even your enemies when they find their special someone. Most importantly, and don’t allow the spirit of jealously and envy to overtake and control you. 

The Key is for you not to get bitter but to be a blessing. Rejoice with those who rejoice because your time is coming (Romans 12:15).

Preparing yourself to be a wife

Ladies Proverbs 18:22 states He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD. I know we hear this all the time and most of the time the one thing that is pointed out is that “He who finds a wife” which means you are not looking for him but he is looking for you and that is very true; however, the part I want to emphasis is he who finds a WIFE not a girlfriend, not a special friend with benefits but a WIFE. Which means you are a wife before you are married. During this season of singleness it is also a season of preparation for the future.

I learned this first hand, you cannot become a wife to someone you don’t know yet and there is no amount of teaching, books, seminars etc. that can teach you how to be a wife to your husband. The only way you will learn is through experience and learning him once you’re married. However there are some aspects of a wife that are very important to note now.

These are just a few things I have learned during my season of singleness that I wanted to share with you ladies. Just be patient spend this time getting closer to God. He will fill that void in your life with his presence so you will be lacking nothing. Your time is coming but until then A.P.P. yourself.

Saviela E. Thorne

Written by Saviela E. Thorne

Saviela is the author of "Seasons of a Woman's Life: Devotionals to Empower Women to Become Overcomers". She loves to encourage and empower women through her life experiences.

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Claire

This is just awesome.. Ive gained so much. Thank you for sharing this and be blessed.. ❤️😇

Katrina

Thank you so much. Your article has both answered and confirmed a lot of things for me. Thank you again!

Wendy Wanderer

😉

I agree with the article, but would add one more “P”. Just like everything else from career to planing trips, we should prioritize marriage.

Thanks I needed that I’m 60 never been married and want to get married but think it’s too late but I see its never too late just refocus and just stay close to the Lord!!!

Never, Never, Never to late!

Thanks

Don’t give up. Alady i worked with is had got married at the age of 60 and now 63.I was 48 when I got married. I prayed and waited on God to send me my husband, and it well worth waiting. I couldn’t ask for more.

Thanks for the encouragement

@Gail Spencer, yes it’s very gud to get what is worth waiting after being waited. But some ppl around abuses n discourage one while waiting. It takes d grace of God. May d Lord help us. U understand what I meant!

Be encouraged, remember Sarah how old she was and brought forth a son. Age doesn’t stop God. You later shall be far more greater than your former. Be blessed my sister.

Thanks so much!!!

Ola Dunni Praiz dear don’t mind about those pipo who abuses and discourages u… just continue praying … God is always working in ways we cannot see…..

Cathy L Dodson .
Prayer is the key … you are not alone … many pipo are still single .. still waiting on the Lord to bring their husbands…
You may think God has forgotten ..but he hasn’t …. …..

Just remember the Lord will hear and the answer is on its way….

All singles are in our prayers ….

Believe that the Lord is bringing ur man … be positive all the tym

Thanks for the prayers!!!

Amen Cathy L Dodson dear

No need to thank me …..
(holy spirit )

The writer of this article must be seeing through me like a transparent paper. I am 45yrs old and l have written myself off feeling too old, too ugly and too fat to attract the kind of man l want. I have strugged with memories of a bad marriage that ended 17yrs ago. I keep attracting the kind of man who does not have the characteristics of the man who l desire. I did APP from August 2015 but by January 2017 l gave up on the APP….l am now feeling lost!!!!

This is the longest season in my life!! It is easier said than done!

Thanks for this. Abstaining, Prayer and Preparation is the way!

Amen. I embrace my time being single knowing that God is preparing me for an amazing marriage with the man of my dreams !

same here…

I know this is for woman but still has some good stuff. William Ray McDowell

Soo encouraged,am too waiting

I been single for years. And i am ok with. I know if God has someone for me it will happen..i rather wait. I learned my lesson on not waiting ..

Amen,and try and continue working on me to prepare me for him.

Took me a while to accept this, but I’m there now and focusing on other areas of my life while waiting.

This is the longest season ever. Why God?

It may be long for you but not for God, remember that a day is like a thousand years and a thousand years like a day where God is concern. God knows what He’s doing and trust Him. In each season their are lessons that God wants us to learn. Enjoy your waiting period and know that at the appointed time it will happen.

Longest season……. Pls have mercy Lord.

Keep your eyes upon God. Learn the lessons that He wants you to learn in this season. Your season will change at God’s appointed time. Remember Elizabeth and Sarah they both had to wait for a long time but God came through for them at the appointed time. Also read about Hannah.

Thnks for the word of encouragement, I know HIS thought is good.

May God be the glory! Amen!

Amen in his timing

God bless you so much.

Amen

Thanks alot

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