I couldn’t believe it happened to me. My first heartbreak came from a man of God. He was actually the son of a preacher, with aspirations to lead his own flock one day. Out of all the silly, mediocre relationships I’d been in that amounted to nothing, I just knew I had hit the jackpot when I started dating my man of God. I just knew we’d get married and live happily ever after. Why? Because, he was a Christian man. He wouldn’t leave me. He wouldn’t break my heart. Blah blah, blah…  I can’t decide what hurt me the…

Sometimes the most important life lessons are the ones we learn the hard way. Here are 21 Valuable Lessons Most People Learn The Hard Way…

Here are 7 Rules every Christian marriage should follow:

When I was about 10 years old, God planted a dream in my heart of traveling the world. He made that dream come true for me through my service to the U.S. Navy. But never in a million years did I think I’d have the opportunity to not just visit, but live in Africa. I was stationed in Djibouti, Africa (a place I never even knew existed) for a year and while I was there I got to see Uganda, Tanzania and Kenya. I’m still amazed at what God did for me through Africa. And here are a few things…

There should be a difference between what you desire and what you require.

People deal with pain in many different ways.  We have our own survival stories and tactics to healing.  Here are some simple steps you can try to get to your healing process. 1.  Vent it all out before God.   Whenever I feel anger creeping inside of me and make me want to say and do things I won’t under normal circumstances, I cry it all out to God.  I know He already knows how I feel, but I tell Him just the same.  I believe more than being a Judge, Creator and King, He is a loving and caring Father…

People don’t always enter therapy with personal growth as their primary goal, but they almost always leave believing they’re a better human being. In several years of helping people improve their self-awareness, self-efficacy and self-esteem, here are nine commonalities I notice become more evident as my clients grow: 1. You notice and verbalize (with composure) when you’re wrong. It’s far easier to get defensive and deny responsibility, or become overwhelmed with shame for our act of imperfection or ignorance. Being able to acknowledge when we’re in the wrong takes humility, self-compassion and courage. 2. You’re aware of your biases. We…

Do not neglect to do good and to share what you have, for such sacrifices are pleasing to God. ~Hebrews 13:16 It’s funny to me how we ask to be more like Jesus yet when the time comes we cry, run, act like we can’t handle it. We get assigned to people and when their needs get to be too much for us to handle, we ask God to release us from them. Remove the load that has been placed on us because we can’t help them and ourselves.  We cry out that we have too much to handle in…

This video is so on point. We’re stuck in a generation that doesn’t believe in picking up the phone to share important news. It’s so much easier to just post it on their Facebook Pages. I have a cousin who got married a couple of weeks ago and guess how myself and the rest of the family found out? Yep… Facebook. Skyping is considered talking face to face. Sad, but true.

These three tips can help you avoid making the following mistakes. Here are three biggest mistakes Christians make when dating:

My devotion earlier this week dealt with the woman at the well’s encounter with Jesus in John 4:1-42. I have read this story countless times. In fact, I can recount it from memory. But the Holy Spirit showed me the passage in a different light this time around. After the woman had her encounter with Jesus, the text says in John 4:28-29 28 The woman then left her water pot, went her way into the city, and said to the men, 29 “Come, see a Man who told me all things that I ever did. Could this be the Christ?”…

If you’re anything like me, you ponder on where you are in life.  You look at where you wanted to be, where you could have been, and even where you should have been. One thing I’ve learned about myself is that I cannot spend too much time thinking about where I am in life.  Why?  Well, because if I think too long, I begin to compare my life to the lives of others around me: friends, family, associates.  I have dealt with self-esteem issues for most of my life, so sometimes, when my mind is idle (meaning, I’m not keeping…

“Eliminate physical clutter. More importantly, eliminate spiritual clutter.”  -D.H. Mondfleur With all the studying I’ve done related to clutter and to the Bible separately, I was surprised that I never considered studying what the Bible has to say about clutter until someone else asked me about it. Having taken three semesters of Koine Greek in college, my first thought was, “What would be the Greek word for clutter? I don’t think that’s in the Bible.” Upon further thought, I realized that even if I it doesn’t say that word specifically, it must talk about the basic principles. The Rich Young…

Prayer is the most important conversation of the day. Take it to God before you take it to anyone else!

Marriage is a gift from God. Yet often, the greatest gifts in life are not always cherished the way they should be. Maybe because life gets a little busy, or we get hurried and distracted. Maybe because we start to take one another for granted. Or we disagree and let resentment hang on longer than it should. The baggage we bring from our past doesn’t help much either. What worked for us as two individuals, coping through the everyday stresses of life, may not work so well when joined as “one.” We spin our wheels comparing our own marriage to someone…

If you are in a relationship or you are engaged and getting cold feet… Here are 5 Signs You May Not Be Ready For Marriage

When you’re busy thanking God in all circumstances, you don’t have time to worry or complain.

When God wants two hearts to meet, He moves both of them, not just one.

Venting and gossiping are both are equally common components of social groups. People who are in close proximity to one another sometimes develop problems with one another. Venting is when you get these problems off your chest by speaking about them to someone else. Gossiping, on the other hand, is when you talk about other people behind their backs. Nine times out of ten, It probably doesn’t even concern you, but rather just sharing a fact or opinion about one person with another person. It is important to understand the difference between the two so you know what is appropriate and what…

Many singles dread Valentine’s Day. While guys and girls have their own specific set of challenges that stem from this holiday; the single woman’s struggle is unique for many reasons. Many women have been taught to hold Valentine’s Day in high regard and often feel like they’re lacking in the relationship area of their life if they are single on Valentine’s Day or any other day of the year. Living in Los Angeles I have the privilege of being friends with women from diverse ethnic groups; and one thing they all have in common is that they’re all looking for…