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3 Things Every Woman Should Pray For Her Future Husband

Pray For Your Future Husband

As a single Christian woman who desires marriage, I can say hands down that nothing was more frustrating to me than getting bad advice from people who didn’t understand my situation.

  • “Stop wanting marriage and it will come to you”.
  • “Just be happy God gave you the gift of singleness”.
  • “Ask God for your Boaz”.

I’m sorry, but none of these has scriptural justification in every situation. David said delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart. Paul said if you’re burning – it’s best for you to get married. And Ruth didn’t pray for “a Boaz”. She met Boaz out working trying to survive.

And anyways – every single Christian woman is not a Ruth! Some are Deborah’s. Others are Lydia’s or Hannah’s. Telling someone to pray for something that God may not have in mind for them… bad advice. 

But I’ve digressed. Many godly, well-meaning friends and family members really do want to see you happy, but they don’t really understand you or your situation.

Others caught amnesia and forgot all about the nights they spent laid out on the floor praying and begging God to “please let me get married before the Rapture!”

To the other extreme, people who aren’t thinking about living God’s way will give you advice that might get you married. But if you have fellowship with God, the method could cost you peace and could distance you from God. 

So what does a single Christian woman do when she desires marriage and feels like she’s not making any progress towards that goal? I’m still single, but what I’m offering my fellow single sisters in Christ is counsel that I know works.

The best thing you can do to not only prepare for marriage but to speak it into existence – so to speak – is to pray for your future husband. The one who just needs to find you so you can date, court, and then get married – in God’s way and in God’s timing.

If you’re single and desire marriage, prayer for your future husband is a must. If you’re not sure what to pray for, keep reading.

Here are 3 Things Every Woman Should Pray For Her Future Husband :

1. Pray that God keeps your future husband from counterfeits.

Especially counterfeits that looks good to him. A male friend of mine told me that men want the real deal, but there’s a lot of counterfeits. To which my question was “So men don’t trust their ability to distinguish between counterfeit and the real thing?” He said “Afi, it’s hard. There’s a lot of counterfeits. There’s a lot of them out here”. 

Ladies, men are moved so often by what they see. Not that we aren’t. But men in particular are.

…So pray that he’s able to distinguish between you (the real thing) and someone that is counterfeit.

2. Pray that your future husband is open to God’s leading.

I say it like this because your future husband may not have an especially strong relationship with God when you meet him. Whether or not you need someone exactly where you are spiritually is a discussion for another day.

But every married Christian woman I know who dated and then married God’s way told me that they met their husband through a chance meeting. If she or her husband had turned the opportunity down – who knows what would have happened. Maybe they never would have met, or the dating process for them may have taken longer. Only God knows.

…So pray that he’s open to God’s leading in his life and in those things concerning you.

3. Pray that God is developing your future husband’s character and his heart.

So often we get caught up in externals. We get picky over how a man looks, the kind of job he has, the kind of clothes he wears, the car he drives. And as a result, we miss the true condition of his heart and character. A man with a good heart can easily buy new clothes if they’re outdated. Only God can change a man’s heart. 

John 14: 13 – 14 says that we can ask for anything in Jesus’ name and he’ll do it to glorify the father. So you’ll never know the possibilities in store for you unless you pray for your future husband and pray over him in such a way that your request is for God’s glory.

…So identify what’s in your heart concerning your future husband and keep praying! Keep praying and ask God to speak directly to you and give you a fresh understanding of dating to marriage – in His way and timing.

Afi Pittman

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180 Comments

180 Comments

  1. Nompi Margaret

    March 30, 2017 at 5:29 am

    God nows your rearly husband Amen

  2. Martha Ikwap

    March 30, 2017 at 4:40 am

    Surely God works in mysterious ways but very faithfull all the time

  3. Amogelang Nkamo Moloi

    March 29, 2017 at 1:28 pm

    Just what I needed 2 hear

  4. Sindy Prudence

    March 29, 2017 at 11:47 am

    Amen

  5. Cathy Ume

    March 29, 2017 at 11:38 am

    Amen.

  6. Faynon Kellogg

    March 29, 2017 at 10:41 am

    Wow, this just shaped my thoughts. I’m a single Christian woman who’s preparing for marriage to a man miles away. It feels right but after reading this, I gonna pray more about it and trust God more. Thanks for this. God bless

  7. Mireille Bertha Gaingos

    March 29, 2017 at 5:51 am

    Amen

  8. May Pacs

    March 29, 2017 at 5:20 am

    yes I believe. Amen!!

  9. Carolyn Locklear

    March 29, 2017 at 3:34 am

    Amen

  10. Veronica Valdez

    March 29, 2017 at 1:19 am

    THANK YOU SO MUCH Laura Diaz❤God is SO faithful!

    • Laura Diaz

      March 29, 2017 at 1:31 am

      You’re welcome! ❤️🙏🏼😊

  11. Veronica Valdez

    March 29, 2017 at 1:19 am

    Laura Diaz I just read half way through this and I’m already obsessed ❤

  12. Jennifer Jackson

    March 29, 2017 at 12:09 am

    Yes this is exactly right on time

  13. Amy Airey

    March 28, 2017 at 11:54 pm

    Amen

  14. James Wait

    March 28, 2017 at 11:46 pm

    Funny i am a man and the woman i have been hanging out with prayed about this yesterday

  15. Laura Diaz

    March 28, 2017 at 10:44 pm

    Veronica Valdez we were just talking about this!! Ruth!! ❤️❤️

    • Patti Tran

      March 29, 2017 at 4:32 am

      Always remember favor isn’t fair. That’s how God blessed Ruth. 💖

    • Patti Tran

      March 29, 2017 at 4:35 am

      One of my favorite books in the bible, Laura Diaz. 👐

    • Laura Diaz

      March 29, 2017 at 4:37 am

      Patti Tran yes I just re read it after my gf and I were talking about it on Sunday!

    • Patti Tran

      March 29, 2017 at 4:46 am

      I can never read that book enough. The strength in all she endured. Its not by works. She was obedient and a God fearing woman.

    • Laura Diaz

      March 29, 2017 at 4:47 am

      Exactly 🙏🏼🙌🏼

  16. Portia Onalenna Chankane

    March 28, 2017 at 10:00 pm

    Yesssss

  17. Steve Myers

    March 28, 2017 at 9:57 pm

    Yes ladies be careful, and men be careful also, women can be a wolf in sheep’s clothing also.

  18. Sheila Blackwood

    March 28, 2017 at 9:45 pm

    Elaine Merritt

  19. Mel Rll

    March 28, 2017 at 8:34 pm

    Denise Marie Alemán

  20. Candice Naicker

    March 28, 2017 at 8:17 pm

    Jo-Anne Wesso thought of you when I saw this!❤

    • Jo-Anne Wesso

      March 29, 2017 at 4:31 am

      Thanks Candice Naicker that’s so true and so beautiful 😍 much love sis.

  21. Jennifer France

    March 28, 2017 at 7:56 pm

    Since I was a child, I’ve always wanted to be a wife and mother. I’ve been praying for these things for the past 17+ years and-nothing. I’m now 44 years old and because of health issues I’m unable to have children. Pretty much given up at this point. Not sure what I’ve done wrong, but, evidently, God’s plan for me is to live the rest of my days alone and without true love in my life. Guess I’ll have to be OK with that.

    • Nicky A. Mba

      March 29, 2017 at 4:43 am

      Don’t give up on God, He’s never late; He’s always on time. Be encouraged.

  22. Bonita Van Der Westhuizen

    March 28, 2017 at 7:19 pm

    Amen

  23. Ijeoma Viola

    March 28, 2017 at 7:06 pm

    Yes i believe…

  24. Yolanda Palmer

    March 28, 2017 at 6:08 pm

    amen

  25. Mary Kahoro

    March 28, 2017 at 5:44 pm

    Amen

  26. Susan Heathcote Mangnall Sprout

    March 28, 2017 at 5:12 pm

    I pray for the right god fearing women for my sons too..

  27. Theko Noliwe

    March 28, 2017 at 4:57 pm

    Glory to that

  28. Dana Woods

    March 28, 2017 at 4:20 pm

    Amen

  29. SadyMandy Dlamini

    March 28, 2017 at 4:07 pm

    It very important to pray for our future husband especially if u’re a child of God. My heart pains so my when I see the way my best friend is suffering in her marriage .

  30. Pamii Chavez

    March 28, 2017 at 3:10 pm

    Lord, Your will be done.

  31. ShaRon Lacy Crudup-Eskridge

    March 28, 2017 at 3:02 pm

    ALLELUIA!!! AMEN.

  32. Adriana Zuani-Stenberg

    March 28, 2017 at 2:59 pm

    Sarah-Nayleni Stenberg

  33. Diana Swartzentruber

    March 28, 2017 at 2:57 pm

    I really needed to read this, now I have a clearer mind set of what I need to be praying for.

  34. Hederishia van Wyk

    March 28, 2017 at 2:45 pm

    Amen

  35. Nthaby Petite Mgugunyeka

    March 28, 2017 at 2:19 pm

    To think I have been praying for hubby so much lately aaaah thank you

  36. Naana Akosua Ampofowaa

    March 28, 2017 at 1:31 pm

    amen

  37. Philomina John

    March 28, 2017 at 1:26 pm

    Amen

  38. Eunice Aspillaga

    March 28, 2017 at 1:23 pm

  39. Lindsey Rykiel

    March 28, 2017 at 12:13 pm

    Hannah Claire Beal

  40. Firecracker Eri-j

    March 28, 2017 at 12:01 pm

    In YOUR own time dear Lord, YOUR own time.

  41. Sally Walker

    March 28, 2017 at 11:50 am

    Briana Walker

  42. Eunice Mueni

    March 28, 2017 at 11:35 am

    Amen

  43. Hendrina Andrews

    March 28, 2017 at 11:26 am

    Am still waiting on God cause He knows the best

  44. Amie Bernardo Corpuz

    March 28, 2017 at 10:49 am

    Amen.

  45. Grace Sorbobr

    March 28, 2017 at 10:32 am

    Amen

  46. Ester Alday

    March 28, 2017 at 10:28 am

    Im still praying for a real Godly man.

  47. Jocolia Tshosane

    March 28, 2017 at 10:22 am

    Amen

  48. Vicky Tsado

    March 28, 2017 at 9:52 am

    Amen

  49. Nelo Akirika

    March 28, 2017 at 9:15 am

    amen

  50. Di Syorainne

    March 28, 2017 at 9:10 am

    Tracy Diana Maureen Gicho

  51. Sherry Turner

    March 28, 2017 at 9:03 am

    Chelsea Priester
    Shelby Priester

  52. Sarah Mirzaman Cruz

    March 28, 2017 at 8:51 am

    Rayanne Elizah Angel

  53. Lily Beks

    March 28, 2017 at 8:48 am

    Amen

  54. Angela Bartholomae

    March 28, 2017 at 8:27 am

    Mellanie King

  55. Keti Nikolova

    March 28, 2017 at 8:15 am

    Амин

  56. Jeannie Nichols

    March 28, 2017 at 8:10 am

    When your time is right Jesus please send me a man around my age that loves you.. In your time Jesus not mine..

  57. Hakalima Nyaa

    March 28, 2017 at 7:59 am

    Amen

  58. Slindile Kubheka

    March 28, 2017 at 7:26 am

    Amen

  59. Fibi Matthew

    March 28, 2017 at 7:09 am

    Amen

  60. Debra Lowry

    March 28, 2017 at 6:56 am

    Amanda Strate Amanda Watson

  61. Kandice Grace Burdette

    March 28, 2017 at 6:52 am

    Amen

  62. Chinenye Favour

    March 28, 2017 at 6:40 am

    It works,i met my Husband by God’s connection and He made it happen by His own way.

  63. Christy Johnny

    March 28, 2017 at 6:00 am

    Amen! I believe God in everything, because his plans for me are for good and not evil!

  64. Caro Gabanakgosi

    March 28, 2017 at 5:29 am

    Amen

  65. Eleanor Moreland

    March 28, 2017 at 5:29 am

    I Pray for our Future Marriage with Patrick Jetto & Eleanor Moreland#AMEN

  66. Francisca-Clare Obiakor Eluaka

    March 28, 2017 at 5:19 am

    Thanks 4 the nice article/ piece……

  67. LyndaRose Arzola

    March 28, 2017 at 5:11 am

    MoNique PaDilla

  68. Vanessa de Villiers

    March 28, 2017 at 5:01 am

    I have been praying for 9 years for a husband

  69. Emily Velado

    March 28, 2017 at 4:42 am

    Shiny Sue Love

  70. Gwantwa Beno

    March 28, 2017 at 4:34 am

    Amen amen still waiting my husband from God,, for the best always,,

  71. Sol Malupa

    March 28, 2017 at 4:25 am

    Amen

  72. Monica Galapon Gadaingan

    March 28, 2017 at 4:22 am

    Annann Galapon

  73. April Carido

    March 28, 2017 at 4:00 am

    AMEN:)

  74. Jennifer Hiew

    March 28, 2017 at 3:59 am

    Amen and Amen❤

  75. Nonhlanhla Mangwegape

    March 28, 2017 at 3:59 am

    Amen!

  76. Detavia Mosley

    March 28, 2017 at 3:45 am

    I believe that wholeheartedly……

  77. Leona Matarutse

    March 28, 2017 at 3:42 am

    Nomqhele Pray.

  78. Tawana Pyle

    March 28, 2017 at 3:27 am

    Good stuff

  79. Tamara Watson Simon

    March 28, 2017 at 3:11 am

    Amanda Watson

  80. Brianne Lulu Wilds

    March 28, 2017 at 3:05 am

    I pray for a godly man my age that keeps his faith no matter what this life brings him and to be loving and love me the way God loves me

  81. Terry Ann

    March 28, 2017 at 2:55 am

    This teaching doesn’t leave room for God’s will in the matters of singleness vs marriage in a person’s life. He may want us to remain single. Jesus finished His prayer about facing the cross with the words “yet not my will but thine be done.” Please consider that as you pray, April Naylor Stephenson

  82. Cathie Ell Winn

    March 28, 2017 at 2:46 am

    Amen

  83. Themetrius Wallace

    March 28, 2017 at 2:45 am

    Oh my God just had this seem conversation i guess this my confirmation….Amen Victory Hallelujah

  84. Naaki Asafu-adjaye

    March 28, 2017 at 2:43 am

    Amen

  85. Erica Howard

    March 28, 2017 at 2:41 am

    Amen

  86. Maura Jenkins

    March 28, 2017 at 2:40 am

    Amen…

  87. Robin Barrett Harness

    March 28, 2017 at 2:29 am

    Mattie Fort

  88. Tanya Desaint

    March 28, 2017 at 2:21 am

  89. Mone't Taylor

    March 28, 2017 at 2:06 am

    J’Vonne Renee Ogles

  90. Mone't Taylor

    March 28, 2017 at 2:06 am

    J’Vonne Renee Ogles..good read

  91. Carol Dean McNair

    March 28, 2017 at 2:04 am

    Sheridyn McNair

  92. Nozipho Mbatha Khanyi

    March 28, 2017 at 2:03 am

    Amen! I always pray for a husband who loves God, a man who wil love m as I am

  93. Terry Daley

    March 28, 2017 at 2:01 am

    I truly believe that thank you Jesus Amen

  94. Heather Ludwick

    March 28, 2017 at 1:57 am

    Amanda Soriano

  95. Leticia Guzman

    March 28, 2017 at 1:55 am

    I pray .left it in Jesus hands so am let him do his work and find me the man of my life and I pray that this man real do love me and married some day . .and he now who am talk abut God .

  96. Alice Davis

    March 28, 2017 at 1:53 am

    Be patient and wait on what God has for you. Some women think they just gotta have a man.

  97. Peris Naserian

    March 28, 2017 at 1:49 am

    hey.what about single moms?

  98. Flora Emmanuel

    March 28, 2017 at 1:38 am

    Amen

  99. Carolyn M Brownlee

    March 28, 2017 at 1:34 am

    This is for my 2 granddaughters DJ and Maddy

  100. Jennifer Bennett Balber

    March 28, 2017 at 1:30 am

    Kadin Haley

  101. Debbie Alford Johnson

    March 28, 2017 at 1:30 am

    God has a tough job then…. because all the men I have seen are not decent and are definitely NOT Godly!

  102. Nomzi Angel Tshabalala

    March 28, 2017 at 1:28 am

    Ys Lord

  103. Joyce Cisneros

    March 28, 2017 at 1:20 am

    Zaina Madain

  104. Nadine Cornish

    March 28, 2017 at 1:16 am

    Amen

  105. Grace Soliman Lamata

    March 28, 2017 at 1:15 am

    Amen

  106. Ladi Dawani

    March 28, 2017 at 1:12 am

    MAY HIS WILL BE DONE IN MY LIFE. AMEN!

  107. Kristian Chilton

    March 28, 2017 at 1:11 am

    Pat Molina Medrano

  108. Tammy L Chamberlin

    March 28, 2017 at 1:10 am

    I pray that there is a young woman praying over my son like this and that one day they pray for each other…

  109. Lizzy Moletsane

    March 28, 2017 at 1:09 am

    Amen

  110. Anita Hall

    March 28, 2017 at 1:06 am

    I do every night…..

  111. Maria Baartz

    March 28, 2017 at 12:59 am

    Ranita Owens

  112. Maria Baartz

    March 28, 2017 at 12:59 am

    Shawna White

  113. Joanna L Kearns

    March 28, 2017 at 12:58 am

    the least of my problems meet our needs

  114. Winsome Tomlinson

    March 28, 2017 at 12:46 am

    Amen

  115. Beverley Van De Venter

    March 28, 2017 at 12:29 am

    Amen

  116. Amber Gardner

    March 28, 2017 at 12:18 am

    Growing up, I always had this dream about a tall man, with broad shoulders and I could just look into his eyes and instantly know he was made for me. I also had recurring dreams of 2 boys that were close in age and a daughter with long blond hair that I often saw myself brushing in several dreams throughout my life. I found out a few years ago that because of medical reasons I wouldn’t be able to have children, so my dream of being a mother was sucked out of me. Recently God blessed me with the most wonderful, supportive, caring, loving man who happens to be 6’3, with broad shoulders, and the first time I looked into his eyes I was overcome with so much joy and emotion, like a rush came over Mr and instead of meeting a stranger, it felt like I was reunited with an old friend. He also has 2 boys that are 5 and 7 and a daughter with long blonde hair. In fact, a month ago I was brushing it and I had complete de ja vu, the image I had dreamt of for so long was actually real. I love these kids and they view me as their mom since their birth one refuses to step up and be a real mom.

    It may not happen exactly how you want it, or when you think you need it, but God does listen to our prayers and he does answer them but in a way that he feels is the best for us. I am thankful that I followed his signs and I listened to his voice inside my heart.

    • Connie Agwang

      March 28, 2017 at 11:41 am

      wow, lovely

    • Miriam Amankwa

      March 28, 2017 at 12:15 pm

      Thank you so much for sharing your testimoney Amber. Praise be to God! 😀

    • Flavia Busingye

      March 28, 2017 at 8:19 pm

      Amen,he will give u a child like sara in the bible continue praying

  117. Ivy Umbay Portes

    March 28, 2017 at 12:15 am

    Quennie Dell Portes Sabellano

  118. Samantha Zandveld-Wachter

    March 28, 2017 at 12:13 am

    Huur Estrada

  119. Latanya Grant

    March 28, 2017 at 12:06 am

    Yes! Amen!!!

  120. Erica Elkins

    March 28, 2017 at 12:02 am

    Amen

  121. Marylyn Patricia

    March 28, 2017 at 12:00 am

    Davinia Joan Nathan

  122. Patty Torres

    March 27, 2017 at 11:57 pm

    Rebecca Sanchez

  123. Nicole Wilkins Hammons

    March 27, 2017 at 11:57 pm

    Ada Lavinia

  124. Michele 'Shelly' Simms

    March 27, 2017 at 11:56 pm

    Brooke Simms

  125. Alicia Davis

    March 27, 2017 at 11:52 pm

    Yes Yes I believe That You are a Supernatural God, Yes Lord!!!!

  126. Antwonette Simpson

    March 27, 2017 at 11:51 pm

    Amen!

  127. Janet Jordan

    March 27, 2017 at 11:44 pm

    Love love love that is all right with me what you just put on Facebook that minister to my soul

  128. Nîmes Durham

    March 27, 2017 at 11:38 pm

    Kathleen Cook

  129. Sheila Folsom Hamilton

    March 27, 2017 at 11:36 pm

    I prayed, left it in Gods hands only to marry a man that turned out to be a wolf in sheeps clothing. He is a Christian that talks the talk but doesn’t walk the walk. So single ladies…be careful what you accept. Know his true intentions are Godly and not selfish narcissistic ones!

    • Dee Gregory

      March 28, 2017 at 2:31 am

      OMG!!! I’m so in agreement with you. Be careful ladies. They play a good game. We have to learn how to walk in the Sprit so we can try the Spirit and not get lost in their words. Stay prayed up.

    • Slindile Cele

      March 28, 2017 at 6:50 am

      Yes very true…..this is sad

    • Yustina Muhaji

      March 28, 2017 at 8:26 am

      Am still praying too…

    • Pechler Monica

      March 28, 2017 at 10:28 am

      Growing closer to God and led by HIS spirit

  130. Masedi Mabosana

    March 27, 2017 at 11:35 pm

    Mmmmmm amen

  131. Newmus Jen

    March 27, 2017 at 11:32 pm

    Amen

  132. Selena Woody

    March 27, 2017 at 11:30 pm

    Amen

  133. Telly Manuel

    March 27, 2017 at 11:26 pm

    Single ladies please do not rush into anything that you will be sorry later on…..

    • Gwantwa Beno

      March 28, 2017 at 4:30 am

      Thankssss momy from the other side,, still waiting my man from God

    • Joyce Lindy Lesele

      March 28, 2017 at 10:17 am

      Thanks Mom

    • Pechler Monica

      March 28, 2017 at 10:30 am

      I am fully agree….I am single and almost 50 but I chose to obey HIS words

    • Telly Manuel

      March 28, 2017 at 4:50 pm

      Dear ladies Gwantwa Beno, Joyce Lindy Lesele & Pechler Monica ( am proud of you) …marriage cannot be rushed then later ending up in divorce…marriage is a sacred vow between you & future hubby and always include God to be at the center of every decision (big or small)…God fearing man is the best…God has a perfect soulmate for everyone…trust God He has the best plan for us…thank you dear ladies for your time…blessings to you three!

  134. Esther Dangana

    March 27, 2017 at 11:22 pm

    Amen

  135. Kasi Coleman

    March 27, 2017 at 11:15 pm

    I prayed these things yesterday and now this article appears. Amazing!

  136. Alice Chong

    March 27, 2017 at 11:10 pm

    Jennifer Hiew

  137. Alice Chong

    March 27, 2017 at 11:09 pm

    Amen Amen JLAC

  138. Cyerra-Jen Thurman

    March 27, 2017 at 11:05 pm

    Yes .. From Bristol UK’ or near Nottingham”

  139. Geeta Ramadhar

    March 27, 2017 at 10:59 pm

    Amen

  140. Ana Mae Maymay Dusaran

    March 27, 2017 at 10:59 pm

    Thy will be done Lord!

  141. Trishawn Foye

    March 27, 2017 at 10:58 pm

    AMEN

  142. Reitumetse Tummie Maleka

    March 27, 2017 at 10:55 pm

    Amen

  143. Nat Jo-Jo

    March 27, 2017 at 10:53 pm

    Amen

  144. Bobbie Deal

    March 27, 2017 at 10:53 pm

    Amen

  145. Ashibuogwu Angela

    March 27, 2017 at 10:50 pm

    Amen

  146. Desiree Milstead

    March 27, 2017 at 10:47 pm

    Amen!

  147. BROCK

    January 25, 2016 at 1:52 pm

    AHAHAHAHAHAHA is this a late night infomercial?!?!

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