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3 Qualities To Look For in a Godly Man

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Researchers have discovered that one of the reasons why women tend to choose men who are older than they are is because women want a male companion who can provide for her and her offspring and ensure a comfortable nest. Women naturally want to feel secure and therefore factors such as strength, finances, mental and emotional stability play a vital role in choosing a mate.

It seems that Naomi had this in mind when choosing a husband for Ruth. She teaches us three qualities that we should look for in a Godly man.

3 Qualities To Look For in a Godly Man

1. Security

“My daughter, shall I not seek security for you that it may be well with you?” (Ruth 3:1).

The original word in Hebrew used in the text for ‘security’ means ‘rest’ or ‘condition of rest’. Naomi wants her daughter to be the wife of a man who will bring to her a state or condition of rest. Why is this so important? The man who you choose to be your companion must reflect the image of Jesus Christ.

The Lord said, “come to me…and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11:28).

Will the man in your life bring you rest or be a burden to you?

2. A man of great wealth

Naomi chose “a man of great wealth” as a prospective husband for Ruth. His bank statement is not the main thing that tells if the guy you are interested in is a man of great wealth.

Does he possess a wealth of knowledge, wisdom, benevolence, compassion, joy, patience, and temperance?

Is this man wealthy with treasure from God’s Word and is he rich in love?

Many men can show that they have financial security but they are poor when it comes to gentleness, self-denial, and understanding. Boaz was wealthy financially, but he also possessed qualities that made him a protector, provider, and nurturer of a Godly-woman.

3. Spiritually ready

Now Boaz…is he not our relative?” Sad is the case of a woman who binds herself to a man who is not a relative; he is not a part of the family of Christ.

“But to all who did receive him, who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God” (John 1:12 ).

Is the man a son of God? Does he know how to blister his knees in prayer or is his prayer life fickle and sporadic? Does that man know Jesus?

Does he know how to use the name of Christ as a weapon or does he take it in vain on his unconsecrated lips?

Is the heart of this man a temple for the Holy Spirit or is it a cage for every unclean bird?

Does he meet with God’s family regularly to worship their Father or is he a stranger to holy convocations?

Can he bend low and groan in his soul for the sin of his brothers and sisters or is he apathetic when a member of God’s family falls away?

Does he know how to beseech the forgiveness of the Lord for his people when they have backslidden or does he scoff at revival and reformation?

Will he relate to you over your joy in Christ or secretly resent the love you have for Jesus? Is this man your spiritual relative?

Naomi knew that Boaz was good for Ruth; he would bring her into a state of rest, he was rich in temporal and eternal treasures, he was a kinsman and a part of God’s chosen people. Such are the qualities of a man who is worthy of our hearts.

Felecia Datus

Felecia Datus

Felecia is a graduate of Andrews University with a passion for mission work. She enjoys writing devotionals that will inspire people to seek after God. She currently lives in Berrien Springs, Michigan.
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  1. Donald E. Graham Jr.

    May 2, 2017 at 10:06 pm

    Well said! Unfortunately, there are a lot of men who have a hard time prioritizing substance over superficial. Hips, eyes and thighs should not be the barometer by which a potential wife is measured. I often tell the men I counsel that “what looks good” is not always good for you. A Godly wife is a Proverbs 31 woman, and her price is far above rubies! #Wait4GodsBest

  2. Kendra C. Westerband Ortiz

    April 10, 2017 at 12:46 am

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  3. Jessica Ayodele

    April 8, 2017 at 1:30 pm

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  4. Helen Braxton

    April 7, 2017 at 8:08 pm

    Awesome. A must read Ladies.

  5. Parfait Martie

    April 7, 2017 at 5:54 pm

    God where’ my #BOAZ

  6. Esther McIntyre

    April 7, 2017 at 5:48 pm

    Even ungodly men will be attracted to the Godliness in you…pray for the wisdom and discernment to know the difference!

    • Donald E. Graham Jr.

      May 2, 2017 at 5:07 pm

      Well said Esther McIntyre! Hips, Eyes, and Thighs are nice…but a wife who loves God is a blessing to her husband. She is able to stand at the intersection of his awesomeness and ugliness, and still encourage him to “better his best.” When life deals him a bad hand, she helps him to reshuffle the deck and look at the problem with a new perspective.

  7. Pamela Stevenson

    April 7, 2017 at 5:35 pm

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  8. Tonya Red Elk

    April 7, 2017 at 4:03 pm

    Beautifully true!

  9. Tina Keys

    April 7, 2017 at 3:29 pm


  10. Tina Keys

    April 7, 2017 at 3:29 pm


  11. Fanny Amber Garcia

    April 7, 2017 at 10:19 am

    Fake one have a sweet words on their prey..sheep in a wolves skin

  12. Willy Pascual

    April 7, 2017 at 9:01 am

    …of course godliness is also next to holiness!!!

  13. Matilda Yeboah

    April 7, 2017 at 7:56 am


  14. Dina Basumatary

    April 7, 2017 at 7:37 am

  15. Shakira Jesussaves Smithyfergi

    April 7, 2017 at 7:10 am

    Sachica Meggie

  16. Twebaze K Honorata

    April 7, 2017 at 6:27 am

    Lyna CN Patience Nagaba Solomy Omujuni Brianne Daphine I got your backs. Pray right.

  17. Terry Daley

    April 7, 2017 at 5:27 am


  18. Trina Ceña Lamorena

    April 7, 2017 at 5:23 am

    Joana Erika Tupaz Geraldene Gutierrez and to the Guys Jondie Nazareno Jesson Cuizon aim to have these qualities ❤️❤️❤️

  19. Julia Juliana Nujoma

    April 7, 2017 at 5:13 am


  20. Nikki Tolliver

    April 7, 2017 at 3:05 am

    Megan Shepherd Courtney Leachp

  21. Bobbie Deal

    April 7, 2017 at 2:53 am


  22. Ellah Reu Cabaya

    April 7, 2017 at 2:36 am


  23. Sweets Marissa

    April 7, 2017 at 2:11 am

    Reel thing

  24. Paula Duncan

    April 7, 2017 at 2:03 am

    Sadly, not many around.

    • Jessie Bailey

      April 7, 2017 at 5:50 am

      Agree haven’t seen any that are different yet still looking I’ve only met fakes…

    • Barbara Fuller

      April 8, 2017 at 12:06 am

      Got that right,where r they,in jail,another state????

  25. Mai Rose

    April 7, 2017 at 1:51 am

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  26. MyMy MylynRose Cruz

    April 7, 2017 at 1:43 am

    Bonaparte James Kahiwa Wery

  27. Rathnaa Bonifus Joseph

    April 7, 2017 at 1:16 am


  28. Sherine Abeywardena

    April 7, 2017 at 1:13 am

    Beautiful n true

  29. Pearl Ellison

    April 7, 2017 at 12:59 am


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