Researchers have discovered that one of the reasons why women tend to choose men who are older than they are is because women want a male companion who can provide for her and her offspring and ensure a comfortable nest. Women naturally want to feel secure and therefore factors such as strength, finances, mental and emotional stability play a vital role in choosing a mate.
It seems that Naomi had this in mind when choosing a husband for Ruth. She teaches us three qualities that we should look for in a Godly man.
“My daughter, shall I not seek security for you that it may be well with you?” (Ruth 3:1).
The original word in Hebrew used in the text for ‘security’ means ‘rest’ or ‘condition of rest’. Naomi wants her daughter to be the wife of a man who will bring to her a state or condition of rest. Why is this so important? The man who you choose to be your companion must reflect the image of Jesus Christ. The Lord said, “come to me…and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11:28). Will the man in your life bring you rest or be a burden to you?
2. A man of great wealth
Naomi chose “a man of great wealth” as a prospective husband for Ruth. His bank statement is not the main thing that tells if the guy you are interested in is a man of great wealth.
Does he possess a wealth of knowledge, wisdom, benevolence, compassion, joy, patience, and temperance?
Is this man wealthy with treasure from God’s Word and is he rich in love?
Many men can show that they have financial security but they are poor when it comes to gentleness, self-denial, and understanding. Boaz was wealthy financially, but he also possessed qualities that made him a protector, provider, and nurturer of a Godly-woman.
3. Spiritually ready
“Now Boaz…is he not our relative?” Sad is the case of a woman who binds herself to a man who is not a relative; he is not a part of the family of Christ.
“But to all who did receive him, who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God” (John 1:12 ).
Is the man a son of God? Does he know how to blister his knees in prayer or is his prayer life fickle and sporadic? Does that man know Jesus?
Does he know how to use the name of Christ as a weapon or does he take it in vain on his unconsecrated lips?
Is the heart of this man a temple for the Holy Spirit or is it a cage for every unclean bird?
Does he meet with God’s family regularly to worship their Father or is he a stranger to holy convocations?
Can he bend low and groan in his soul for the sin of his brothers and sisters or is he apathetic when a member of God’s family falls away?
Does he know how to beseech the forgiveness of the Lord for his people when they have backslidden or does he scoff at revival and reformation?
Will he relate to you over your joy in Christ or secretly resent the love you have for Jesus? Is this man your spiritual relative?
Naomi knew that Boaz was good for Ruth; he would bring her into a state of rest, he was rich in temporal and eternal treasures, he was a kinsman and a part of God’s chosen people. Such are the qualities of a man who is worthy of our hearts.