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How can you tell if it’s worth staying in a relationship or if it’s necessary to put a stop to it and say ‘enough’? You may be thinking “Even in this relationship there’s a shred of hope of someday achieving happiness.” We as human beings tend to idealize things we want. Studies have shown that when you are “in love,” it can make your partner look more attractive, intelligent and desirable than what they really are. So when the relationship ends and you look back, you say: “What did I see in him?” When it comes to dysfunctional relationships, the…

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Recently I told the Lord that I wanted to be married in a year. This is certainly not the first time I have shared that with God, I’m 37 years old and patiently waiting for God to graciously answer this prayer. As I was praying about this, the story of Esther came to mind. It dawned on me that Esther had an entire year of intentional preparation before she was in a position to be chosen by her King. No doubt, Esther’s upbringing had positively shaped her character and personality, but in order for her to be queen, there was…

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The following is an adapted excerpt from the new book, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me, and is used with permission. Did you ever think someone could show you love through a bologna sandwich? I didn’t think so either. Until I found out that my then-boyfriend-now-husband (a poor, broke, medical school student at the time) spent close to two months eating bologna sandwiches every day, in order to cut down his grocery budget to $10/week. Just so he could save up enough money to buy me an engagement ring. The truth is this: marriage will cost…

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Sometimes what we think is love is not really love at all. Have you ever prayed about a relationship you wanted God’s blessing on just as thoughts of you in your custom made wedding dress started swirling in your head? …but God answered your prayer by showing you that this person was not God approved? You may think, “But God, I loveeeeee him!”… but do you really? That magical feeling when your eyes meet and you think that this must be the real thing is indescribable. Are you really falling in love? Sometimes we are just in love with the…

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